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In: Spanking, Lion's Journal

Over a week has gone by since my last spanking. I’ve managed to remember to set up the coffeepot and remind Mrs. Lion of punishment days. I’ve also avoided pissing her off. If this holds until Monday, I might get a maintenance spanking.

The concept of maintenance spankings seems odd to most people. After all, why is my “reward” for continued good behavior a painful, punishment-level spanking? It’s a good question. Shouldn’t it earn a reward instead?

I think that this gets to the heart of a disciplinary marriage. My male interest in being spanked prompted me to ask for this. At the least, it means at some level I want to be spanked. That was my original motive. It isn’t the reason why I believe in painful maintenance.

Mrs. Lion and I are creatures of habit. If we let too much time pass between activities, we tend to forget to do them. In the past, when for one reason or another we suspended our disciplinary activities, it was difficult to restart them. Scheduled maintenance spankings serve to remind both of us that just because I avoided getting into trouble, I am not subject to being punished.

In a very real sense, it refreshes our focus on domestic discipline. For her part, Mrs. Lion is reminded of her role and the consequences she delivers as my disciplinary wife. It reminds me of what happens if I break a rule. It’s all too easy for me to forget just how unhappy a spanking makes me. I might be tempted to get lazy.

a postcard from the dentist

Of course, if I didn’t get that maintenance spanking and Mrs. Lion remains diligent, the first time I slip I would be painfully reminded of the errors of my ways. The maintenance spanking is like a postcard from your dentist. It keeps you aware you need to do something, even if it is unpleasant.

Ironically, the maintenance spanking isn’t terribly useful in keeping me focused on specific rules. Based on our experience, I tend to “forget” a rule several weeks after being spanked for the last time I forgot it. It’s odd since I am aware this happens, I still can’t seem to avoid forgetting.

Perhaps the maintenance spankings will extend the time between infractions. I don’t think so. Their purpose is to keep us both focused. It seems to be necessary for us.

new spanking experiments

Mrs. Lion mentioned that she may restart her spanking “experiments”. Since she found more paddles, she mentioned that she might want to see if she can work out how to reliably make me feel the results of a spanking for at least two days after I get it.

There is only one way to do this: experiment. If she decides to resume, maintenance spankings won’t be necessary. Last time she experimented it lasted for a few weeks. She did manage to make one or two of her experiments hurt for more than two days. Unfortunately, she didn’t make note of what she did to produce that result.

Since I seem to be staying out of trouble, scheduled experiments are the only way she can refine her technique and discover the tools that produce the results she wants.

Poor me!

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In: Lion's Journal, Spanking

Mrs. Lion was in our pantry unpacking one of the boxes left over from our move. I heard her declare happily, “I just found some more paddles.” Oh, joy! She didn’t elaborate further. Just what we need, more devices to make me yelp.

I did buy almost all of the paddles, so I can’t complain about Mrs. Lion discovering them. It’s just that I am less of a connoisseur than I was when spanking was a fun, BDSM activity. Nowadays, spanking is for punishment.

I still like spanking; at least I like thinking about being spanked. It turns me on. I also like finding new implements like the spanking “carpet beater” that is due to arrive tomorrow. It’s fun to think about it being used on me. It is absolutely no fun when it eventually finds its way to my bottom.

For some reason, I have a problem connecting my appreciation of spanking in the abstract with what really happens to me when I break a rule or annoy Mrs. Lion. This is especially odd since I have been getting punishment spankings since 2015. Even odder is the fact that even when we exclusively did play spankings, I couldn’t feel the difference between many of the paddles.

I bought most of these implements when I was a top. It was entertaining to discover which paddle produced the loudest screams from my partner. Truth be told, most of them were equally effective. As a top, I enjoyed thinking about using each new paddle.

I suppose this interest in spanking hardware is more of a fetish than a need for a complete tool kit. Mrs. Lion does switch between paddles now and then. It’s rare that she will use more than just one during a single punishment session. I think that will probably change. She has mentioned using different implements for varied results. She is working on finding one that will reliably bruise me. The bruises tend to hurt me for a couple of days after I am spanked. We both agree that spanking is much more educational if it hurts to sit for at least two or three days.

Mrs. Lion is still perfecting her technique. We’ve both tracked her progress in posts over the years. She is perfectly able to make me very unhappy to be lying over the edge of the bed being paddled. The one remaining challenge is producing that lasting reminder of my offense.

So far, even very powerful swats with her paddle doesn’t seem to do the trick. This is probably a function of my particular anatomy. I know that I can be bruised on demand. At least one spanker at an event announced after a thorough paddling that she would now give me some souvenirs. She then gave me three hard swats with a different tool. Sure enough, three painful bruises appeared.

The swats that produced them didn’t feel any worse than the non-bruising spanking that came before. I think she switched to a toy with a small striking surface and a lot of heft.

Mrs. Lion now has a combination of new toys and newly-discovered old toys to try next time she spanks me. She hasn’t asked me for advice so I will refrain from suggesting what is most likely to do the job.

In the past, when she was doing her spanking experiments, just using one of her paddles, she managed to bruise me and make sitting hurt for three days after the spanking. Those experiments were always at least 300 swats long. Mrs. Lion was trying different approaches. I was learning to stay in place.

She learned to adjust her intensity just to the edge of me trying to escape. Over time, she was able to hit harder as I learned to better stay put.

These experiments took place over several days a week. Perhaps the frequency “tenderized” me at the same time I learned to accept more. That could be part of it as well.

I agree with her and with the DWC that an effective spanking hurts for days. Maybe Mrs. Lion needs to resume her experiments.

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In: Chastity hardware, Lion's Journal

I have been reviewing male chastity devices for more than 20 years. I thought it might be fun to look back through my adventures with these devices. A lot has changed over the years. When I first started reviewing devices, I had a frenum piercing which turned out to be handy. One of my first devices was a tube secured by the frenum piercing. It was built by Lori and her partner. She is still in business and her devices have improved.

The original Lori chastity tube. It was heavy, crudely fashioned stainless steel. You can see the stress it put on my piercing.

This first one was incredibly heavy. That wasn’t helped by the fact that I didn’t understand how to measure correctly. The device was too long and put painful pressure on my piercing. The piercing was the only connection to my penis. This was the first device she made. Fitting instructions were sketchy and my measurement was amazingly wrong in terms of penis length. I asked for a device 4 inches long, when the proper measurement would have been 2 inches or less.

Top view of the device. I’m not sure what the ring was for.

This was one of the first custom-made male chastity devices available. It was expensive; about $500 in 2000. Aside from the obvious stress it put on my penis, it was difficult to put on. Trying to align my piercing with the pin that had to go through the device took a long time. Lori has advanced a lot since then. Her chastity devices are safe and secure for pierced and unpiereced men. You can find he at http:chastitytube.com

The Remy plumbing parts male chastity device.

Another device, fairly typical of the time was made by a guy named Remy. He was the original owner of the chastitytube.com domain. His device was made using plumbing parts. The tube was a plastic fitting and the base ring a pipe clamp. He dipped both in a rubber compound. No sizes were available. It was surprisingly comfortable to wear.

In the 1990s a fantasy chastity story gained enormous popularity. In fact, devices based on that story are still being made. The story was Kali’s Teeth. The heroine had a partner who like to cheat. To stop him, she created a chastity device that was a tube lined with very sharp points. It was locked over his flaccid penis and was small enough so that he would be cut if he tried to pull it off. When he attempted to get an erection, the pins would pierce him painfully.

The MCD was secured by a nylon tie.

This story caught the imagination of a lot of guys interested in enforced male chastity. It’s still very popular. However, now enough of these devices are actually being made so that people who are interested actually believe this really happened. One device, was cast out of a flexible plastic material. It was called the MCD, which stood for Male Chastity Device. It was cleverly made and secured by a nylon tie.

Little points painfully dug into my penis if I tried to get hard.

I found it fairly comfortable to wear when soft, and miserable if I tried to get an erection. It wasn’t terribly secure. Pullout was a little uncomfortable but certainly possible and even easy. It was inexpensive.

One of the most significant events in male chastity device history came with the creation of the CB 2000. The first version of this device was made by gluing together acrylic rods and rings. What was most significant was that it came with a set of varying sized base rings and spacers to modify the distance from the base ring to the cage. The cage itself was only one, standard length.

The original CB2000. It was made from acrylic rods and rings.

It was nicely priced at about $175 and shipped as soon you ordered it. It’s inventor designed it for use as a weekend chastity play toy. It sold very well and before long the inventor could afford injection molds for a much more polished version. This line of devices is still going strong. It has had many imitators. You can buy exact copies of its current devices from Chinese companies at a small fraction of the US price.

Cages come into their own

The devices I’ve shown so far represent a sort of evolution in the small, mostly ball capture devices. At the same time these were being produced, there was a market for full-scale chastity belts. Most of the manufacturing was done in Europe. Belts are still reasonably popular there. One exception was Access Denied, a Long Island-based company. Access Denied went out of business in the early 2000’s with the sudden death of its owner.

wire becomes King

Thanks largely to the Internet, more and more men learned about male chastity. It was only natural that the supply of chastity devices would meet demand. Devices made from stainless steel wire and narrow strips of stainless steel sheeting became more available.

1 inch-long jail bird male chastity device
Final size of my Jail Bird male chastity device.

Initially, only a small number of companies in Europe and the US produced these devices. They were all custom-made. Mature Metal, is one of the largest American metal chastity device makers. The Jail Bird is their most popular device. They’ve been making it for many years. I got mine in 2014. Learning to wear it was an adventure.

The device was always comfortable. The big problem for me and many others was the fact that the urethra would drift to one side or another and when urination was attempted, the spray would hit the bars and make a mess. Many men dealt with this by sitting down when they had to go. I realized that I had a cage that was too long for my flaccid penis. After two downsizings, I ended up with a cage measuring just 1 inch long (see picture, above left)

Meanwhile, industrious metal shops in China discovered this market and began offering a wide variety of chastity devices at bargain prices. In the beginning, most of the devices used hinged base rings. These rings were very uncomfortable to wear because the slight opening where the hinge was located caused irritation.

By 2018, China began making devices using the same basic technology as Jail Bird. They also began offering a larger assortment of cage sizes. They actually offered one for less than $50 that fit me as well as my Jail Bird.

3-d printing enters the scene

As early as 2016, people started developing chastity devices using 3D printing technology. This was facilitated by the fact that there are a number of large companies that will accept an image file and convert it to a 3D object at a reasonable price.

The big advantage of a 3D-printed male chastity device is that it can be altered to match anyone’s measurements simply by modifying the computer design file. The earliest attempts weren’t too successful. The first 3D-printed device I got wasn’t really well-designed for my anatomy. A couple of years later, things got much better.

custom chastity plastic cage
Custom Chastity device. It was as rough as sandpaper. The company refused to help. Stay away!

I purchased a device from Custom Chastity. It was quite expensive. The device itself fit perfectly. It had a major problem. The finish as it came off of the 3D printer was like sandpaper. It irritated me to the point that I couldn’t wear the device. The company was far from cooperative. Custom Chastity is the only maker of chastity devices I would strongly urge you to avoid. Anyway, I hand sanded the device myself and made it smooth enough to wear.. I didn’t like spending several hundred dollars for a device I had to finish myself.

Evotion produces a unique line of male chastity devices. They started off printing devices for men with penis piercings. The devices are held on by the piercing. More recently, they created a device for those of us without piercings. The measurements they ask for are very different from those other device makers want.

orion side view
Evotion’s Orion male chastity device. Unique in design and a dream to wear.

The device itself is in three parts: the base ring, the shaft sleeve, and the head cover. I imagine this design was spawned from the piercing-required devices. They, of course, would only have two parts that locked together. Mine has three because the base ring needed to be added.

It turns out that this device is very comfortable and keeps my urethra perfectly aligned so that I can use the toilet standing up without any concern. That is amazing! The shaft sleeve has a ring at the end closest to the head. This ring prevents the head from slipping backward even if the shaft shrinks. That makes this device uniquely independent of the current state of the penis.

Most guys who wear chastity devices only have them on part-time. Male chastity is a wonderful sexual game. Those of us who practice it full-time have discovered new depth to our sexual relations. The array of different devices is amazing.

If you would like more information about these devices, search our site. We have reviews for all of the one shown here plus many more. Have fun!

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In: BDSM, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

Let’s face it, we are all affected by the insanity around us. I spend too much of my time worrying about whether I will be called back to work from furlough. This is incredibly tiring. It may be depressing my interest in sex. I certainly have too much time to think about things. It’s probably not going to surprise you that I don’t spend a lot of my time thinking about male chastity. That’s a game with few rules and very easy for me to follow.

In fact, I don’t have to do anything. Mrs. Lion lets me stew in my own juices until she thinks I’m ready and then if I’m lucky, she will make me ejaculate. It’s fun, but not very complex. Similarly, wearing a chastity device is effortless as well. Once you have the size figured out and you find one that fits, all you have to do is wear it.

When we started male chastity, I wondered why I would want someone else to determine when I had a chance to enjoy sex. At that point, I was pretty tired of jerking off. I did that a couple of times a week. Mrs. Lion wasn’t particularly interested in sex. Again, not complicated even if it is frustrating. I did think that it could be fun to be sexually frustrated. I’m not sure that’s exactly right. It was exciting to anticipate the orgasm at the end of the tunnel. Being locked in a chastity device is pretty much like being a little kid waiting for Christmas. It’s all about anticipation. That’s why a wise keyholder will unlock her partner and tease him regularly. It’s like a visit to Santa. New dreams are created and anticipation grows.

Mrs. Lion seems to enjoy my reaction to being edged and then left sweating and panting. If I’m not in a chastity device, she knows that I have to control any impulse to finish the job myself. The penalty for doing that is very painful. Being edged is a little bit like being a kid looking for his presents. He finds some of them, shakes them, tests their weight, and then has to put them back untouched until Christmas. It’s fun and very frustrating.

Ultimately, enforced male chastity is a game designed to hold a man’s attention by controlling his penis. A lot of guys like it. Less, but still quite a few, women enjoy it too. There is a certain amount of fun in seeing how sexually frustrated she can get her partner. It’s the ultimate cock tease.

I like it when Mrs. Lion really gets into it. Sometimes she enjoys edging me day after day. Sure, it’s frustrating to me, but it’s also big fun. More recently, she plays with my penis pretty much every night. I don’t seem able to get to the edge in the early days after an orgasm. Eventually, she can get me to the edge. A day or two after I can be brought to the edge she gets me off. I think that it might be more fun if the wait-for-my-orgasm meter starts running after she can successfully edge me. I realize that will make my waiting longer, but I think we will both have more fun.

pick a card, any card

lion's box of penalties
Lion’s Box O’Fun.

The most recent addition to this game is the Box O’ Fun. Now, I have to pick a card from the box and experience the “penalty” written on the card. That means there is a generally-painful price to pay before I can be teased. I think we are both enjoying this. Mrs. Lion isn’t being very strict about making me do everything that I pick. The other night, I picked “pegging”. I wasn’t in the mood, and as it turned out neither was she. So she let me pick another card. I think that’s fine. The point is that one way or another I’m going to get whatever it says on a card I pick.

After I pick a card, Mrs. Lion does not return it to the box. She puts it away. This way, I end up experiencing absolutely everything written on the cards in her box. It adds an element of suspense. When she thinks of new things, Mrs. Lion adds cards to the box. She doesn’t tell me that she’s done this. She used to have more than one card for some activities. These were things she particularly liked to do to me. Since we are doing this almost every night, I would too frequently pick the same activity on successive nights. This happened so often that we decided each activity would only be represented by one card.

I’m pretty sure that Mrs. Lion hasn’t thought about this, but there’s nothing to stop her from returning a card for an activity she particularly likes to the box after a few days pass. That way repeats would be spaced out and she would get to do the things she likes best. One card is a do-over card. This is like the “get out of jail free” card in Monopoly. If I pick that, I keep it. I can use it anytime I want. If I pick an activity I particularly hate, I can give Mrs. Lion the card and she will let me pick another activity. The card for the activity I hate goes back into the box. I am just postponing the inevitable.

There are a few anal activities in the box. When they’ve come up, Mrs. Lion and I have generally agreed to skip them for the night. It’s probably time to perform them when I pick them. I think one of the more interesting aspects of this particular play is that Mrs. Lion is free to edit and update the contents of the box at any time. That means I can’t be sure what’s left for me any night I pick a card.

It’s the BDSM version of male chastity. Mrs. Lion controls what will happen to me, but I control when it happens. That’s the effect of letting me pick from the box. Sooner or later Mrs. Lion will be using the roll-on Icy Hot on my balls. She will set a timer and I will have to endure the heat for at least that long. She also has a card for a different brand of hot stuff. It turns out that it’s just as fearsome as the maximum-strength Icy Hot. I never know how much she will apply.

Sometimes she “paints” a racing stripe from the bottom of my perineum all the way up to the base of my penis. She follows the seam on my balls. If it’s a narrow stripe, it’s much easier to endure. If she decides to slather a lot on and cover my perineum and most of my scrotum, I’m in for a very nasty, hot time. How thickly she lays it on determines how long it will keep burning me. She doesn’t have to set a timer. She can just make me wait it out. Both of those products start losing their heat from 15 to 30 minutes after they are applied. Mrs. Lion is perfectly capable of slathering a thick coating on when she wants. She’s done it before and I’m sure she will do it again.

Our experience with domestic discipline has hardened Mrs. Lion’s BDSM play. She knows that I want this and is very unlikely to react sympathetically to my expressions of discomfort. As a disciplinary wife, she has learned to spank me without regard for my reactions. She judges the intensity and duration of my spankings by a standard that’s known only to her. I no longer have any input it all. All I can do is stay in position.

The same is true of the Box O’ Fun. She performs the activity without any particular interest in my reaction. That’s not exactly true. I think she carefully observes me. However, she doesn’t let my objections stop her. She’s going to go on until she decides she is finished. That’s lioness 3.0!