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We had a busy weekend. Each day I looked forward to not having to go out, but we had errands in addition to chores. By dinnertime I was so tired of running up and down stairs doing laundry that I bribed Lion. He’d spilled syrup on his shirt at breakfast and sauce on his shirt at dinner. I told him I’d take one of those offenses off his list if he went downstairs to put the laundry in the dryer and retrieve dishwasher detergent from the pantry. Zoom! Down the stairs he went. When he came back up he said I could have just asked him to do it and he would have. I know that, but I really didn’t want to go back down those stairs again and why not sweeten the deal for him?

For the rest of the night, aside from a few odds and ends chores that needed to be done, we just vegetated. Lion’s allergies were bothering him. With all the furniture moving and dust stirring-up, he was itchy. I was just tired and sore. I’m sure Lion would have loved to play, but I had no energy.

We got the Lion punishment bank yesterday. It’s a silly looking lion bobble head. I’m not sure if we’ll use it. I sort of like the way it is now. On punishment night, Lion has to tell me why I’m about the swat him. If there are pennies in the bank will we know what the offenses are? Would I be any more likely to add pennies than I am to tell him what to add to his list? If I tell him why I’m adding a penny, why can’t I just tell him I’m adding something to his list that he has to remember? I’m not seeing the need for the bank. Maybe I will in the future.

Lion’s next scheduled orgasm is February 1. I considered moving it to the 2nd and then giving him a Groundhog day orgasm for a few days afterward, but I didn’t. One is enough. Unless I decide it isn’t. At first, February 1st seemed very far away until I realized we’re already almost done with January. Lion can certainly wait nine days between orgasms. He can wait longer if that’s what I decide. I’ve only extended his wait time once (not due to illness or injury), but who knows what Mrs. Lion 2.0 will do.

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This last weekend was one of our busiest in a long time. Sunday, we watched the two playoff games; well, all of the Patriots/Broncos game, and almost the first half of the NFC championship. I made meatballs and spaghetti for dinner. I dripped some sauce on my t-shirt (all I am allowed to wear at home) which will earn me a spanking tonight. Sigh. We were both very tired last night and since I had a scheduled orgasm Saturday night, Mrs. Lion took the night off and I stayed in my cage.

I like to read other people’s blogs. It’s interesting to see their spin on enforced chastity and FLR (FLR). It’s not always easy to separate wishful thinking from reporting, but in a few cases I’m pretty sure I am reading the real story. My travels through the blogosphere sometimes yield ideas that I pass on to Mrs. Lion. More often than not these suggestions draw the famous lioness eye roll.

You’d think I would know better. Here I am preaching “Go slow.”, “Let things evolve.” and my emails to Mrs. Lion are bristling with new ideas. It’s my nature to be that way. Mrs. Lion knows this well, hence the eye rolls. After the sigh, usually implied rather than expressed, followed by the eye roll, Mrs. Lion gives me her famous,

“We could try that.”

More often than not, this is the last I hear of it. But sometimes she surprises me and I get to experience what I suggested she might try. I wrote about my most recent suggestion for a way that Mrs. Lion can more easily note infractions: the lion bank (post). The bank arrived yesterday. Mrs. Lion put it on top of our bedroom TV console. That’s the same unit that holds our orgasm calendars. Being my very subtle self, I asked her if she needed some pennies. She told me she had plenty. Inscrutable as ever, she gave no hint of whether she would use the bank to collect future swats.

This isn’t evasion. She was tired and very often doesn’t know whether or not she will do something until she either does it, or it just slips away in the current of time. We are opposites in this respect. I plan and execute. Even things that look spontaneous are often thought through, at least a little. Mrs. Lion thinks about a lot of things, frequently in great depth. But she rarely turns those thoughts into plans. Planning and making lists are not natural activities for my lioness.

You can see how we can endlessly frustrate one another. Now that she is in charge, I look to her for decisions; more than she might want to make at any given time. She rarely growls, but maybe a few “I’ll tell you when I am ready” responses would remind me of my place. You already know I’m not submissive. I am obedient if reminded of what happens when I’m not.

A lot of people appear to believe that being locked in enforced chastity and subject to a female led relationship means the male is submissive by nature. I don’t think that’s as true as some think. I am somewhat submissive to Mrs. Lion. I have a lot of training needed before I truly accept that role. But I am absolutely not submissive by nature. I am used to being in charge and I have some skills as a dominant.

I made the choice to be submissive to my lioness. I agreed to abide by that choice. If I change my mind, I agreed that I can’t just stop. In the event I no longer want to be in enforced chastity or submissive to Mrs. Lion, she has to agree to release me. Otherwise I remain in this role. It is still a choice I made and an agreement I will keep.

A lion can’t change his spots (if he had any). As Popeye said, “I yam what I yam.” Does that mean I can’t submit if I wish? Nope, it doesn’t. Does it mean I am a “converted” dominant? That’s just silly.

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We both slept well after a day of heavy lifting and Lion’s orgasm

Lion is correct. We did a lot of lifting and crawling around on the floor yesterday. All for a TV so Lion can see Wheel of Fortune from the kitchen table. Well, that’s not entirely true. I have long said I get tired of watching TV in the bedroom. I wished we could use the living room more. That prompted the “small” 32 inch TV we rarely used. With the addition of the huge screen, I’m hoping we actually spend more time in the living room. Ya know, living.

The bad part is that when it’s time to play we need to go in the bedroom anyway. Last night we were both so tired we watched some huge TV and then went into the bedroom to watch less-huge TV. I’ll need to work out the logistics of play time/TV time. It’s silly to have invested in this enormous TV only to watch while we eat, and football games when the season is almost over. I’ll work it out.

On Friday, Lion was worried about what evil thing I’d have him doing this weekend. Since he had to wear the diaper one weekend and the shock collar the next, he was worried. At that point, I hadn’t thought of anything. And we’ve been running since we got home Friday night, so I haven’t had a chance to think about it yet. And here we are, Sunday already. I guess he didn’t get his evil thing for the week. Poor thing. I’m sure I can come up with something throughout the week.

Lion assumed I wouldn’t have the energy to give him his orgasm last night. He carefully checked his calendar throughout the day to see if it changed. I wouldn’t have changed his date unless I was really feeling horrible. Mrs. Lion 2.0 takes the advice I give Lion (suck it up, Buttercup) and soldiers on. Lion got the continuation of the ruined orgasm he had the other night. And I got more of the yummy treat I got from it.

Last night, he went to sleep a tired and happy Lion.

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Mrs. Lion didn’t write a post yesterday. The reason was that we were both very busy making some changes around the house. Last week we bought a TV stand at Ikea and then on Friday night bought a large screen TV. It is a very large screen for us: sixty-five inches. So, we spent the day yesterday rearranging, assembling the TV stand, and finally unpacking and wiring up the new TV. We started before 10 AM and didn’t finish until 6 PM. I spent the day wearing clothes; it was dusty and I had to crawl around. It felt odd wearing clothes around the house.

I’m writing this Saturday night. Today is my scheduled orgasm day. So far, the date on my calendar stays fixed on today. I wonder if Mrs. Lion will want to postpone. Stay tuned for the update in her Sunday post. I am very excited about the new TV. The old one was way too small for me to clearly see the action during a football game. I had to keep asking Mrs. Lion what was happening. Now, with this giant TV (it’s UHD!), I can see very clearly.

What does all this have to do with enforced chastity and FLR? Not a damn thing. Well, maybe a little. Mrs. Lion made the decisions and directed my activities. She also decided which TV we would buy. I did the technical research and decided that a Vizio series M would be the best. She concurred. I expected we would buy a 60-inch unit. That’s what we discussed and it was on sale at Costco. When we got there, she said that we might as well buy the 65-inch model. It costs more but she decided we could do it. We were lucky. We got the last one they had.

Slowly, very slowly, we are shifting the balance of power in our relationship. I should say that Mrs. Lion is shifting the power. My part is learning to accept what she chooses to do. I’m trying very hard. We haven’t reached the point when Mrs. Lion will encourage acceptance with her paddle, but I think Lioness 2.0 will be more observant and strict.

Saturday is a good example of our evolution. Mrs. Lion is far more willing to make decisions. If she has a plan on how things will evolve, she hasn’t shared it with me. I think she is also reading more blogs. I think that reading will reinforce her direction. I know we are now in our third year of enforced chastity. We are both comfortable with it. But we are relatively new at FLR and domestic discipline. Unlike enforced chastity, where the chastity device provides a focal point that keeps us on track, there is no such symbol to assure we won’t just stop.

My cage provides me with security that our positive changes will remain and even grow. But I have no such physical assurance that FLR and domestic discipline will continue and grow. Part of the reason I am concerned is that I’m not sure that Mrs. Lion sees any value in it beyond doing something that I want. Until she sees benefits for herself, I wonder if she will continue. Maybe I am just worrying for nothing, but I am concerned.