The Community Of Chastity / FLM Bloggers

I’m writing this on Sunday morning. My eyes are better now. They tire by mid afternoon. I went to the optometrist this morning. He came in on Sunday because I was concerned about my eye. Pain and light sensitivity has increased. Happily, the infection is showing signs of healing.

There is one thing I don’t understand about my fellow enforced chastity / FLM bloggers. We don’t often write about each other’s posts. I sense that some people think there is a sort of competition for readers. For the record, I don’t. Earlier today, Denying Thumper, the longest running enforced chastity blog. published two very interesting posts. His posts discuss his recent emotional concerns and the many phases of his life.

The specific reason I am referencing them is that he mentions how readers’ comments can affect him. Since he began writing about being bisexual and the opening of his marriage to include a man (who also writes a very good blog “The Drew Duality“), he has been receiving quite a few comments condemning his “cheating” on his wife, and on homosexuality in general. He responds to most of these attempting to clarify his position. As he wrote today and in earlier posts, these comments affect him; even the ones that are obviously written by shallow, bigoted people. I have to admit that I am affected by the comments we receive here. Even the ones that are obviously off the wall affect me. I understand that what we share here is open to interpretation by our readers. I’m happy it is. A good deal of the comments we get offer us feedback we can use. Because I am heterosexual and not particularly submissive, I escape the hurtful comments that both Thumper and Drew receive.

However, like most bloggers, I religiously read my fellow enforced chastity and FLM bloggers. I see us as a community of sorts. There is a flow of viewpoints that appears to be influenced by the cross pollination of bloggers reading one another. I like this. I can’t know the motives that drive other bloggers to write, but unlike most of the Net, none of us appear to be writing to get laid. For our individual reasons, we share parts of our lives with our readers.

In some cases we share our thoughts and feelings with our keyholders / disciplining wives via our blogs as well. Even when partners don’t directly contribute, most are aware of the blogs we write and often read them. In some blogs, like ours,  both partners contribute regularly. This offers you both sides of the story. It supplies us with daily feedback we can use to improve our relationships. You may have noticed that Mrs. Lion has become more tight lipped about her plans for me. That’s because she is more aware that I read her posts and often get a preview she doesn’t want me to have of her plans for the evening.  I like that she is increasing the element of surprise. I wonder if you don’t also find it cool to have to wait to find out just what she had in mind?

Blogging is far more than a “reality show”. It is opening a very private part of our lives to the general public. Hundreds of thousands of people have read about our sex life and have seen images of my most “private parts”. Everyone in our blogging community is a public figure with a large number of people privy to our most intimate activities. Are we all sexual exhibitionists? I guess to some extent we are. We all know that a lot of strangers know a lot about our sex lives. I don’t think that is the major motivation for most of us. I also don’t think that most of us are trying to sell you on enforced chastity and FLM. I believe our reasons are more complex. After reading Thumper’s post I tried to define just what drives me to open up my sex life to strangers. As of now, I can’t come up with why I chose to do this. I know that one reason I am continuing is that the back and forth with Mrs. Lion and commenters has added to our relationship and has made us better about honestly expressing our feelings. Another reason is that I truly like sharing with you. Thanks for reading.


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    Hopefully your eye infection has resolved itself so this note will be redundant. My wife had a very nasty infection which two antibiotics did not clear. Red eyes, pain, light sensitivity. It turned out that she had scratched the cornea and a viral infection had got in through the scratch. Fortunately, her doctor referred her to a specialist who prescribed an anti-viral medication that solved the problem.

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      Thank you for your good wishes. It is still too early to determine how effective the therapy is. The infection is not growing, but it hasn’t healed either. There is inflammation that is reducing nicely. I am visiting the eye doc every day or so. He is convinced it is bacterial, but if it doesn’t show positive signs by tomorrow, I may need to go to a corneal specialist. I am hoping that things will continue to improve without further intervention.

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    I like your thoughts of a “community”. We really enjoy reading your blog and as you say – who would not like to experience others enjoying ones blogging? Keep on.

    My wife at present keeps me in chastity , we are at day 74 of what we can call a break in period for both of us. I decided to record emotionds and experiences at ” “. The difficult thing is however, how to write about everyday life without risking to be identified ( small country), and as you said previously: just writing about beeing locked up has limited interest. All I can say is that 74 days without any release or “accident” makes me addicted to my wife.

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    I had never even considered that might writing would “get me laid”. In fact, I had perhaps thought it might get me teased. Or denied. But certainly not laid. I’ll likely write more about this in my own post to come soon… but have to get back to the day job now. ;/

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      I had never even considered that might writing would “get me laid”

      Well, no. I wasn’t using “laid” to mean getting an orgasm from someone. More precisely, I was referring to finding a sexual partner. What the seeker does with that partner is not within my scope to guess. 🙂

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