(Sunday, May 4 2014) Last night lioness decided to take a rest from teasing me. It was a quiet evening at home. I used some of the time to fix some problems with my invisible leash. During the day when we were out and about, lioness tried to zap me a few times. All but one went unfelt. We experimented and found that no contact was being made much of the time. The strap that goes around my cock and balls was too loose. It turned out that I left too much slack on the left side (see photo). I shortened the strap until the connector was pressed against the box. That adjustment pulled the box more tightly under my balls and assured good contact. I still needed to push the strap in front of the cage lock to pull it tight (see photo). It was good to give my keyholder a reliable way to get my attention and correct me. The people who make this device may have had this use in mind. Their slogan is, “Helping the two of you see eye to eye.”
When I first heard about this collar I had very mixed feelings. I was visibly aroused when thinking about it and the control it would give my keyholder. I was also frightened that shocks would be too painful. Even before altering the strap, I quickly learned that this device could deliver sensations that ranged from barely perceptible to uncomfortable. At the low settings it provides lioness with the ability to get my attention with no real discomfort. At higher settings it is startling and uncomfortable.
Now that I have had a chance to experience the lower settings of this device, I can say that it is unique in the way it communicates with me. The remote control is small and fits easily in a pocket. It is effective over several hundred feet. That means when I get a shock it is totally unexpected. At all but the very lowest settings I visibly jump when I feel the little jolt. It isn’t the pain – it doesn’t hurt at low settings – it’s the surprise. At lunch yesterday, Mrs. Lion gave me a stealthy low-level shock. I jumped in my seat. It was a complete surprise. She started laughing and couldn’t stop for quite a while. I think she may have discovered a new source of amusement.
Unlike any other form of correction, the sensation that the collar produces doesn’t persist. I can feel a spanking for a long time after the swatting ends. Other corrections leave some lingering aftereffects. I like feeling a spanking the next day. It serves as a reminder to improve my behavior. On the other hand, the collar provides immediate correction with no aftereffects. That means that repeated corrections will feel “fresh” as though no others preceded it. Another benefit is that my keyholder has no preparation and expends no energy correcting me. This encourages repeated corrections for bad habits. Some keyholders don’t want their caged males doing the normal male practice of adjusting and otherwise touching their genitals. Without the collar, correcting this is too much trouble and can’t be done the instance he touches, especially in public. The collar changes all that. Correction is instant and unnoticeable to everyone but the caged male. Unlike punishment, the shocks condition the male not to do the corrected behavior. It is training at the most basic level; the male will respond to the corrections and unconsciously learn to change. Make the corrections consistently for a few days and he will probably never touch again.
Consistency is very important to me. There is comfort in being able to expect and understand consequences and rewards. It’s more trouble for the keyholder to deal with her male consistently. It means that regardless of circumstance, mood, or anything else, he will be corrected as you specify each and every time it is needed. I know that for me this consistency gives me a sense of acceptance and things seem more right with the world. Does this mean I crave being tame and trained? I am sure it doesn’t. It means that in the limited area of sex and other activities we agree fit, I love being trained and conditioned. Otherwise I am as aggressive and independent as ever. More about this tomorrow.