Spanking Is Not Effective?
I read an article today about a study that said spanking does not work for disciplining young children. Apparently the majority of them re-offend almost immediately. That got my mind going.
I wonder how many of these kids liked to be spanked and misbehaved on purpose. In that respect, maybe the spanking worked perfectly. Just not the way the parent had in mind. At what point do people realize they like pain?
When I was in grade school, at recess one day, two boys grabbed some girls and tied them to a tree with jump ropes. Some of the girls struggled to get away. Some of them seemed to accept their fate as captives. Were the boys future tops? Were the girls future bottoms? They were probably too young to understand dominance and submission. But at some level they may have understood their place in the world. They just didn’t know what to call it.
Of course, I don’t know if the boys became tops and the girls bottoms. I don’t even remember their names. But it might be interesting to find out if kids who misbehave so quickly after punishment grow up to enjoy being spanked and tied up.
In the back of my mind I wonder if Lion drops food on purpose just to get his punishment swats. I don’t think he likes the shock collar enough to get zapped on purpose. But spanking? Yeah he really likes spanking. There is a difference between a punishment swat and a play swat. But if he’s not getting enough play swats would he really resort to cheating to get some rosy buns? When he read this post he said he only remembers being spanked once as a child. And he liked it. I guess that answers the question of when Lion realized he liked pain.
Pull Out
(Monday, May 19 2014) Mrs. Lion was surprised yesterday when I mentioned that my cage, in fact any cage isn’t totally secure. With enough lube, ice, time, and ability to handle some pain, any chastity device secured via a cock and ball ring can be escaped. Device makers have been working to make escape too painful to attempt. some offer inserts for the end of the cage that have sharp points to dig into the penis if withdrawal is attempted (see photo right).
This sharp point will certainly make pull out painful and could do some damage to the penis. There is a drawback to including this in a chastity device: any attempted erection will cause the point to dig painfully into the penis. This may sound like a good idea: anti pullout and erection discouragement. Bear in mind that most every man gets several erections during sleep. These erections have nothing to do with sex. If you are wearing a cage with one of these anti-pullout devices, you will most certainly be awakened most painfully as the pin digs into the sensitive skin of your cock. This will happen several times every night. I don’t know of any cases where the male actually learned not to get these involuntary erections. If you go this route, be prepared to lose a lot of sleep.
When I first started reviewing chastity devices in the 1990’s, most of what I read was written by males who locked themselves up and then worked to escape their chastity devices. Once they managed to get out, they would attempt to buy a more escape-proof device. This became a very expensive hobby. I tested a lot of these devices that ranged from tubes that were fastened to my piercing to full belts that made any genital contact impossible. I learned that the more secure the device, the less comfortable and convenient to wear.
Others noticed this too and the CB2000 was invented. I still have one of the first versions made by hand from acrylic rods and tubes. This device brought in a new group of people into forced male chastity. The CB2000 was under $200, the other devices cost from $400 up to thousands. It was easy to wear and fit. It was also easy to escape. So, “Points of Intrigue” were made available, a row of sharp points at the top of the cage. I tested this too. When I got an erection I couldn’t get that thing off fast enough! Most men are smart enough to realize that anti-pullout devices are not worth the suffering.
Does that mean that males like me can just escape and get off when we wish? No, not really. First off, while it may be a chore to pull out. How do you plan to get back in so that your keyholder won’t discover your escape? I think that’s possible to do with the Jail Bird, but probably not easily accomplished. More importantly, why would you want to escape? Isn’t the idea to give up control?
I know that I like the feeling that while I did give up control, I can’t take it back. Being able to slip out of my cage for a quick wank would certainly make me feel that I didn’t really give up anything. The cage is there to remind me that no matter how frustrated and horny I get, an erection and ejaculation are not going to happen unless Mrs. Lion lets me out. After all, this is something I want, right? While there are times that I wonder what the hell I was thinking of when I asked to be caged, the reality is that I did ask and I got my wish.
If you are in the market for a chastity device remember that the more security you want the less comfortable it will be to wear. I have been happily wearing my Jail Bird 24/7 (except for doctor visits) since January. I barely know it is there unless I try to get hard. Then, I am aware of a gentle pressure on my cock, but no pain. I sleep through the night without any pain from the device. The best security device you can use is self control.
Let’s Get This Show on the Road
Previously I went shopping in our dungeon for our travel toys. I’d like to expand on that a little bit today. Each toy has it’s own feel and purpose. Some of them are homemade. Some of them were never meant for anything kinky. One of Lion’s favorite toy stores is the big box store, specifically the rope and chain aisle. We’ve found things in drug stores, kitchen stores, warehouse stores-almost any store can be a toy store.
The first thing I know I need (well, it’s actually Lion who needs it) is a punishment paddle. It’s shaped like a hairbrush and should do the job quite nicely. It’s small enough that it could fit in my bag in case there are any indiscretions while we’re out and about. But I probably won’t need it since he’ll also be wearing his shock collar.
For our “whomping” sessions I have chosen a flogger, a crop, a strap, a wooden spoon, and a paddle. The flogger is thuddy which means it doesn’t sting like the other items do. The strap is doubled so a split second after the first side hits, the other side hits. The wooden spoon has a decent amount of bulk to it and, used toward the end with single hard swats, will provide a lasting sensation and possibly a bruise or two. Just to remind Lion of me long after we’re finished.
I always make sure to have clothes pins. Regular, hang-your-clothes-out-to-dry wooden clothes pins. And I have modified a few with the sandpaper pieces so they have extra bite. The plastic clothes pins are nastier than that. The tiny clothes pins can bring Lion to tears. I use them on his cock. Nasty, nasty little things. I don’t use the industrial strength ones often. They are very difficult to take for any length of time. And, lastly, the wooden flowered clothes pins are not nasty at all. I just think Lion needs to be pretty sometimes.
Rope is very useful for play. While it can be used to tie wrists and feet, we have restraints for that purpose. Rope could cause damage and leave marks. No, the rope is for Lion’s cock and balls. I’ve done everything from tying a lasso around one ball and stretching it to his big toe to wrapping his balls and stretching them together to almost mummifying his cock. I’ve also captured his balls and tied them to a collar around his neck. Which reminds me, I’ve been meaning to find that collar again.
We have not done ass play in a while. Sometimes Lion can take a dildo right away and sometimes he needs to work his way up to it. There are some things I know I can push him to do and some things I can’t. Neither of us is fond of my jamming a dildo inside him when he’s not able to take it. I always go slow with dildos and butt plugs in the beginning. Once he’s warmed up, of course, he has no say in the matter. And you can’t have dildos and butt plugs without plenty of lube.Boy Butter works great.
I’d forgotten we had long strips of Velcro. I love wrapping Lion’s cock with Velcro and then once he’s hard I release it. The sudden rush of blood is somewhat painful. The longer strip means I can mummify his cock with that instead of the stacks of smaller Velcro. Or I can latch onto the smaller pieces with the longer piece and stretch him. So many possibilities.
I know I’ve probably forgotten a toy of two but this is a nice start. The good thing is that I can always supplement my collection either from home or any store we happen across in our travels. Sporting goods departments, hardware departments, housewares. They all have fun things in them to repurpose for play.
It’s All About Control
All this new introspection came after I started wearing the shock collar. The device isn’t particularly cruel or frightening, but its implications are profound to me. Here I am walking around wearing a device that someone else can use to instantly deliver a range of sensations invisibly and at a distance. I am only slightly aware that the contacts are pressing into my scrotum just behind the cock and ball ring for my cage (See lower photo on right). But when Mrs. Lion wants my attention or wants to correct me, I get anything from a gentle “buzz” to a jolt that will make me jump. If she presses the red, “+2” button, the jolt will make me jump. She can hold either button down for a few seconds to be sure I get the point.
The thing about this device that makes it particularly effective for me is that she can provide this sensation anytime and anyplace I am. I can be shopping hundreds of feet from her, or I can be sitting in a quiet restaurant, or even in the mens room and she can reach me. Other forms of control like bondage; or correction like spanking require privacy and some preparation. It takes time and work on her part to give me the desired stimulation. With this device she can correct me in an instant with only the tiny effort needed to press a button. That’s what makes its effect so profound.
Wearing the cage certainly sends me the strong message that I no longer have sexual control of my penis. It is something I wanted very badly. The shock collar takes things to an entirely new level. When I have it on I fee very vulnerable. I know that nothing will protect me from Mrs. Lion’s corrections. She can “page” me, and if I don’t return to her quickly enough she can send me powerful reminders that will continue until I am where she wants me. She can use this technique to irresistibly encourage me to do anything she wishes.
Think about that for a minute. While the cage prevents me from erections and orgasms, the collar bends me to her will at any time and for any reason. Using this simple device, she can condition me to do or not do anything she wants. Unlike classic top techniques, this device eliminates the need for any cooperation on my part. Yes, I can choose to resist her signal, but if I do, she can increase the intensity of the stimulation to the point where I don’t want to resist any longer. I want to do what she tells me. Because the stimulation is instant and has no lingering effects, I unconsciously associate the stimulation with the behavior she is correcting. I learn at the most primitive level to do what she wants.
The challenge for my top and keyholder is to decide how to use this absolute power and control. I’m not even sure what to suggest to her. Does she want me to stop touching myself and adjusting my balls? Would she like me to always open doors for her; wait for her to eat first; avoid saying certain words, always stand with my hands clasped behind my back? All of these things are excellent candidates for conditioning using the instant feedback of the shock collar. Delayed feedback like spanking are less likely to effect real change. Like other critters, lions (and people) do better if they associate corrections with the actions immediately. Just press the yellow or red button and the lion is corrected then and there.
We haven’t really done this yet. I hope we do. The scientist in me is curious to see if the lion in me can be trained this way. When I strap the collar on, I get a little tingle that comes from my vulnerability. It’s there all the time under my clothes ready to remind me and correct me when I need it. Now that’s real control.
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