Punishment Growing Pains

spanking spoon paddle on lion's butt
The spoon-shaped paddle that Mrs. Lion used on Monday night.

Mrs. Lion likes to experiment. No, she doesn’t design elaborate ways to torture me, but she does like trying new things. On Monday night I got my first of four spankings sentenced because I forgot Saturday was punishment day. Instead of using the paddle she retrieved from our camper, she used the spoon -shaped paddle that has been one of her favorites.

Until she started using the camper paddle (a very vicious long-handled device modeled after a punishment paddle from colonial times), I thought the spoon-shaped paddle was the most painful in her collection. I was wrong.

The spoon-shaped paddle certainly hurt a lot. But it wasn’t as painful as the camper paddle. The spoon drew blood. However, I am not feeling any residual pain from bruises. Of course, there is no way to scientifically analyze whether or not the application of these paddles were equal. The results they got were very different.

I don’t think that we noticed these differences in the past because the intensity of my spankings wasn’t high enough to evoke comparable results.

Hanson Ferrule paddle
This is the Hanson Ferrule paddle in bloodwood. Mrs. Lion calls this the “camper paddle”.
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I imagine that Mrs. Lion will probably go back to the camper paddle. Actually, I think there are two of them in our collection. I believe we got one a couple of years ago and I had one from my earlier days when I was a top. That means she can have one of this model in the camper and another here at home.

From my reading I’ve learned that many disciplined husbands are given input as to the tools that are used to spank them. One I know of finds hairbrush spankings more meaningful and has managed to build a collection of them over the years. I guess I am more of a paddle man. I seem to acquire paddles on a regular basis.

Now that we are in a much more disciplinary phase where the spankings are intended to make a strong point, it makes sense for Mrs. Lion to use the most effective tools. There is no question that her camper paddle is the best to date. I think she might consider making that her exclusive tool for some time.

I have to admit that my camper paddle spanking has changed my view of punishment. I felt the results of that spanking for two days after I received it. While I was being spanked I genuinely regretted getting myself in this position. On Monday night I was definitely not in the mood for another spanking. The spoon-shaped paddle really hurt. I couldn’t wait until Mrs. Lion finished.

Her approach on Monday varied significantly from her usual. She made sure that she spread my cheeks and applied strong swats into the tender flesh she revealed. She also paid attention to my thighs. She was careful to make sure that I felt my punishment over every inch of my bottom. The spanking with the camper paddle wasn’t as thorough but it was certainly more painful.

I have mixed feelings about drawing blood. It’s fairly common I understand. I’m not sure why the spoon-shaped paddle drew so much blood and the camper paddle drew none. It wasn’t that the camper paddle was used more gently. I think it may have to do with the fact that the spoon-shaped paddle is heavier. I would think that the heavier paddle would bruise me more than the camper paddle. It absolutely didn’t. The camper paddle, even though it didn’t draw any blood, was much more painful during and after the spanking.

I’ve been on the other end of the paddle for decades. Mrs. Lion has been spanking me for at least 10 years. We never observed any of these issues in the past. I think that we are finally in the realm of a true disciplinary spanking. I don’t think Mrs. Lion is being unnecessarily cruel. I think she is finally reaching the point that she can send me a real disciplinary message.

Obviously, this isn’t important in the context of our relatively trivial rules. I’ve been successfully trained with the less intense spankings. But lioness 3.0 is in residence and she has promised to use discipline as a way of correcting me when I interrupt her or do other things that are thoughtless and hurtful. This is the goal of adopting our Female Led Relationship with Discipline.

It’s been a long, difficult road. We’ve both had to overcome inbred patterns of behavior. To some extent we are still struggling with those things. However, Mrs. Lion is close to the point of observing and then spanking me when I do things that upset her. Once she begins doing that, I think there will be a lot of positive change.

Those offenses are the reason she needed to learn to produce true disciplinary spankings. I think that she is well on her way to doing that. We also have established the multi-spanking discipline program.

This program has Mrs. Lion sentencing me to multiple spankings depending on the offense I’ve committed. We are doing this so that all spankings are the same. The spanking for a trivial offense is just as intense as one for a serious one. However, a serious offense will earn me a larger sentence of spankings. The spankings are administered each day until I’ve completed my sentence.

Currently, I’m sentenced to four spankings when I forgot punishment day. The reason I’m getting so many is that I’ve been consistently forgetting this. Our theory is that if being punished for an offense doesn’t stop me committing it, obviously I need a stronger punishment to get the message across. I believe this works well for us.

I know exactly what to expect. I know that each spanking will be a full-intensity disciplinary spanking. There are no more mild spankings in the Lions den. I’m learning painfully that I have to be much more careful about obeying my rules and my lioness.

This “lion system” of discipline is very effective. It works for Mrs. Lion because she doesn’t have to worry about modulating my punishments based on seriousness. She uses sentence length to express the degree of her displeasure. Believe me, by the third night of daily spanking I am very repentant for my sin.

I don’t know if this would work for anyone else. It seems to be doing the trick for us. Right now, our biggest challenge is getting Mrs. Lion to observe and punish things I do that upset her. I think she is so concerned about being fair that she disregards things I do because she may not have warned me or because she’s not sure she deserves to spank me because I’d said something to her. I’m sure this will get worked out soon.

Maybe we have to approach this the way we approached behavioral punishments in the beginning. Mrs. Lion established some simple, easy-to-break rules. To this day they represent all of the punishments I receive. Perhaps she needs to do the same thing with some of the negative behaviors I display. Perhaps she should choose relatively trivial things I do want a regular basis. She could make those rules and observe and punish offenses.

This is all just behavioral modification. It’s a training process for her as well as for me. I look forward to her making this next step. I think it will make her happier in the long run as well as training me to be a better lion.