A surprisingly large number of men like to send dick pics on various messaging services. Some send them uninvited. This, of course, is sexual harassment. I’ve published pictures of mine as part of posts in the Journal. My motives are mixed. Principally, I wanted to illustrate the topic of the post. But I admit that there was also a little tingle of humiliation generated by this intimate exposure. Recent examples are here, here, and here.
I could have written the posts without the self-revealing images. I didn’t imagine they would turn anyone on. In my defense, these intimate images illustrated the points I wanted to make. But I also felt a sense of exposure and humiliation by publishing them. As I’ve written before, I like those sensations.
A bit more confusing are the reasons that social media abound with guys publishing images of their own or other men’s penises. These are relatively safe places for such exposure. The question I ask myself is: Why do men want to display male sex organs? Wouldn’t straight men want to expose female genitalia? After all, aren’t female sexy parts what turn us on?
I have no interest in sexual activities with other men, even as part of a humiliation scene. In the past at play parties, naked men were present doing BDSM activities as bottoms. I enjoyed watching the play. It was also cool to see a dominant woman jerking her bottom off. It wasn’t arousing in the sense that his penis turned me on. But it was arousing when I thought of myself in his position. When I bottomed, I actually ended up in that very situation with my top making me come in full view of anyone who cared to watch as the end of almost every scene.
Perhaps penis pics are part of a similar fantasy. I’m pretty sure that a lot of porn fits this model. The guys watching it don’t feel attracted to the male in the videos. I think they see themselves in his position and find that arousing. I get that. But why publish pictures of your own penis?
The pictures I have used on the blog are of my flaccid penis. It’s not impressive in any way. I’m not saying my erections would make spectacular viewing; far from it. My feelings about posting those genital exposures don’t include any thought about how the viewer will react. It’s more like the feeling I got when I found myself tied down at a play party and jerked off with no regard of who was watching my show. It was a safe place where this activity is permitted and encouraged.
However, after I ejaculated and got dressed, I had to socialize with people who might have watched me orgasm. All those viewers were fully dressed while they watched. Some of them would joke about the scene. I invariably blushed when they did. In my case, exposure brought a strong feeling of vulnerability and humiliation. That turned me on. Of course, I knew it was a safe place and watchers knew in advance what they would see. I would never want to do this in front of people who didn’t agree to be exposed to sexual activity.
Publishing intimate pictures here is very much the same as being naked at a BDSM party. Our readers know this is a blog that addresses male sexual issues. It is a safe place for exposure. I’ve been rethinking using my images here. While they may be acceptable in terms of the blog, do they serve any purpose? Do our readers find them offensive? Are they illustrative and useful? Are they fun to see? Does being exposed make our readers think less of me? Do our female readers find them offputting. An inquiring lion would like to know. What think you?