In her post yesterday, Mrs. Lion wrote that I was saved by a nap. She had planned to spank me before we left for our trip to the casino. By the time I woke up, she forgot. Her plan was to have me sitting on my freshly-spanked bottom in the car. Interesting.
It seems that there is an information gap when it comes to Female Led Relationships with Discipline (FLRD) blogs. The few blogs I’ve found that talk about real-life FLRD couples assiduously avoid any details about actual punishments. I understand. They want to avoid appearing to be porn. There are a lot of spanking sites that cater to the sexual side of spanking.
The FLRD sites talk about the husband doing something wrong; they almost never talk about the offense. They then write how the wife takes the husband into the bedroom and spanks him. Ok, a spanking is a spanking. We all understand what one is. However, from an educational point of view, it would be nice to know more.
For example, what did the husband do to earn punishment? Are there different degrees of offense? In terms of the punishments, are there different penalties depending on the seriousness of the offense? What is a typical punishment session like? Inquiring lions want to know.
We’ve been completely transparent about our process. You can trace our evolution in FLRD. I think we are fairly early in our adoption of it. But without feedback we have nothing to measure ourselves against.
So far I haven’t detected any difference in punishments based on my offense. Mrs. Lion hasn’t indicated that I will suffer more or less if I spill versus interrupt her. Maybe there shouldn’t be a difference. Doing something wrong deserves punishment, period. I can accept that. I just wonder if Mrs. Lion has considered this.
How do other disciplining wives know when their husbands have been sufficiently punished? Is there some standard? How does Mrs. Lion decide? More importantly, should she share that with me? How important is it to other disciplinary wives that they punish as soon after the offense as possible? Are we making a mistake by not spanking as soon after the offense as physically possible? I think it may be more important than Mrs. Lion thinks.
It’s not that Mrs. Lion hasn’t developed her own style of leadership. She has. We bo22th recognize that we have to grow in our FLRD. It would be great if we had some outside help.