One of the more difficult things to reconcile when writing this blog is that Mrs. Lion and I use it to capture our activities in enforced chastity and our brand of female led relationship. That means the picture we present isn’t particularly pure in reference to any specific power exchange. As Mark pointed out in a comment the other day,
“In our case, for example, we very much enjoy the chastity play, but we’re emphatically not a FLR, nor do I think we ever would be – neither of us wants that. Conversely, I’m sure that there are other couples – in fact I’ve met several – that are already firmly female-dominant, and I’m sure that male chastity would be a terrific addition for them. Hearing from others with their own particular slant would be good thing.”
Mark makes a valid point. Just because Mrs. Lion and I are practicing both enforced male chastity and FLR doesn’t mean that you can only get value out of our blog if you also do both.
If you’ve explored this site you have seen that we have pages that contain articles on various aspects of both male chastity and female led relationships. Those “static” pages are my way of providing information devoted to a single interest.
What we do now is the result of years of experimentation. We (I, mostly) read and imagine. Then a suggestion is made and after discussion, we try it. If it works, we add it to our repertoire. After a while, if it keeps working, it becomes part of our lifestyle. That’s what happened with male chastity and later, with FLR. Our posts document our experiments, successes and failures.
It’s unreasonable to expect someone new to us to go back and read every post we’ve written to date. That would take a very long time. I have to say that every day at least ten people spend more than 16 hours on this site, presumably reading lots of posts. That brings me back to Mark’s comment. He recognizes that Mrs. Lion and I are writing about our particular, sexual power exchanges. It makes no sense to separate them editorially.
Of course there may be no need to separate them. Could our enforced chastity work successfully if we didn’t also include wider power exchange? Or, more likely, could we just practice male chastity without anything else and stay with it permanently? Is the real essence of my enforced chastity the stuff that Mrs. Lion does in that half hour I am unlocked?
I think that the suspense and delayed sexual gratification are what I like most about being locked in a chastity device. The activities that keep me in suspense have, in turn, created an atmosphere of increased physical intimacy in our marriage. It’s true; we could have left it right there: me locked up and teased every night with an orgasm thrown in every now and then. To Mark’s point, that is a perfectly reasonable male chastity life style.
We didn’t leave it there. That’s my fault. I like the feeling of being controlled by my lioness, so we expanded the power exchange further. The benefits this time turned out to be non-sexual. Mrs. Lion is “learning” to tell me how she feels about things I do. She disciplines me as needed (Domestic Discipline, yet another kink in our mixed bag). She is also making more decisions for us. I love this change.
One thing I would like to make clear: All of these practices (FLR, enforced chastity, Domestic Discipline) are not strictly defined. They are just labels that you can apply any way you want. We aren’t the poster lions for each of these things. We do what works for us. We apply the labels as a convenience, not as the name of a particular set of activities. We dine from the power exchange menu al la carte.