Monday June 2 2014) A comment to a post by Mrs. Lion wondered why the chastity device is needed at all. The writer observed that obedience, chastity, discipline were all just as possible without locking up the male’s penis. It’s a fair observation. Prior to being locked up I didn’t have a problem running around and having sex with random women. My cage isn’t required to keep me from having sex with others. It isn’t really needed to prevent me from masturbating. As Mrs. Lion pointed out, my wedding ring isn’t what keeps me married. If I take it off, nothing changes.
At least for me, being locked into my cage makes a big difference. It doesn’t change my behavior directly, but it changes things profoundly. Without the cage, I won‘t masturbate or have sex with other women. With the cage, I can’t. Before, I chose to be faithful. Now I have no choice. From a pure behavioral perspective, nothing is different. But for me it is a big change. For example, prior to being caged I enjoyed seeing a nice female butt. I felt no impulse to act but I admit it was nice to admire. Now that I am caged, I may look out of habit but don’t get that warm feeling. I think it is because before I knew it was possible to do more than look; not that I would do more than that, but it was possible. Now I know it is impossible. Sorta takes the fun out of it.
This is all irrational. But as Mrs. Lion pointed out, so is wearing a wedding ring. The cage is just more emphatic. I think the cage changes Mrs. Lion too. She knows that I have no chance to use my penis for more than peeing. She has learned that she has total control over my sex life. In fact, she did before, but that was because I chose to give that to her. Now, she has taken it. Over the months of my lockup she has also realized that the cage is hers. I have given up the choice of when I will and won’t wear it. We are both settling in to our roles.
So, if I no longer wear my cage would all this change? It might not, but neither of us want me to stop wearing it. Just like our wedding rings, the cage is a symbol of our power exchange. Unlike the wedding ring, I can’t take it off and as long as the cage is locked around my penis, I can’t use it for any sexual purpose. As Mrs. Lion said, I am trusting her with my favorite toy. There is nothing symbolic about the fact that she has complete control over my ability to enjoy sex. I can’t use my cock for anything except peeing. That is a big change.