Like a lot of bloggers, I’m an avid reader of what other people say about topics that interest me. A few years ago, the conversation about chastity devices always began with security. The most important aspect was wearing an escape proof device. This is a physical oxymoron. The person who wants to be locked up is worried about whether or not he can escape. It’s like going to a luxury hotel with the woman of your dreams and then making sure you can’t leave the room where you both are staying.
Being forced to do what you want is typical of BDSM scenarios. All the activity is consensual. But the bottom wants to be sure he can’t escape. There is some logic behind bondage in consensual scenes. While the action is going on, which is likely to be as my dentist says, uncomfortable, the bottom may want to resist. The bondage provides the fun of resistance. Of course, the bottom can stop the action at any time with a safeword, so the restraint is more mental than real.
The same is true of enforced chastity. The restraint is real. Escaping undetected is difficult, but it isn’t all that important how difficult that escape can be. Chastity devices are like passwords; the more secure the more difficult to remember. In the case of chastity devices, the more difficult to escape, the more uncomfortable to wear.
Fortunately, the obsessive quest to wear an escape proof device has moved from the forefront of chastity technology. That’s not to say chastity devices should be easy to escape. Oh no, not at all. It should be difficult and possibly painful to get out of one; but not impossible. First of all, any device secured by a base ring around the cock and balls can be escaped no matter how tight the base ring. Securing the head of the penis via a piercing complicates escape, but doesn’t prevent it. The device may end up hanging from the piercing, but the penis can be freed.
Who cares? If you want out that badly, use your safeword, or the emergency key you should be carrying. Jail break activities simply aren’t necessary. In my opinion, a device should be secure enough that it won’t fall off on its own (duh!) and should be difficult enough to escape to convince me I am locked in effective, sex-preventing bondage. In my case that means I would have to be desperate to endure the discomfort and frustration of attempting escape.
In my experience, the biggest mistake guys make when measuring for a device is to follow the rule of thumb that states that a base ring fits properly if you can insert your second finger up to the first knuckle between the ring and your body; but no more.
There’s a good chance a ring that tight will not be completely comfortable. I’ve written about my experiment before. My base ring is 1 3/4-inches in diameter. I can get two fingers up to the first knuckle between the ring and my body at the top of the penis. So, I had a 1 5/8-inch ring made. After a day of wear, it irritated me and left a red ring. However, only one finger could fit to tthe first knuckle. Next, I had a 1 11/16-inch ring made. It was less irritating but still hurt after a day or so.
In my case, how many fingers fit under the ring is very little help. In my opinion, the correct base ring size is the one that will prevent a ball from “squirting out” on its own and doesn’t cause any irritation. You shouldn’t need any lubricants under the ring to be comfortable. I’ve never attempted escape, but I am very sure that while possible, it would be too difficult for me to bother attempting.
The cage should fit well. As long as there aren’t any openings that facilitate masturbation, design and dimensions have little to do with security. The cage design and its fit matters in terms of being able to pee without filling the cage with urine and with ease of keeping it clean and odor free. The cage should never smell if you bathe regularly.
Most popular chastity device designs are reasonably secure. Many are very difficult to keep clean. Choose wisely.