There is surprisingly little written about penis care. No, I’m not talking about how to amuse a penis and its owner. I’m talking about things men can do to support penis health. I’m not an authority on the subject, and I can only report on what I’ve found helpful. What works for me may not work for you. If in doubt, consult your doctor before proceeding.

I’ve noticed two things that have changed over the years. The first is that, on occasion, I find myself squirting a little urine before I reach the toilet. This is considered normal by some doctors. It can also be a symptom of a weak pelvic floor (kegel). Since this can be a sign of a medical problem, it’s a very good idea to check with your doctor.

cut down on the squirts and drips

If there is no medical condition, a kegel exerciser can work wonders. I found myself with this embarrassing problem. I began wearing pads in my underpants. After research, I learned that the ability to control when I pee is a function of the condition of my pelvic floor. Women have the same issue and treat it with a kegel exerciser that they insert into the vagina. We men can exercise our pelvic floors in two ways, The first is to do “exercises.”

First, while peeing, practice stopping and starting the flow. Note how you did it. You were contracting your pelvic floor. Once you understand what you did, you can exercise and strengthen the muscle. Pretend you are stopping the flow and hold it for ten seconds. Release and wait ten seconds. Repeat. Do this for five minutes, twice a day. Don’t overdo it. You can get a muscle ache down there.

If you are like me and prefer a lazier approach, you can use a kegel exerciser machine. These are available on Amazon for about $100. You will also need an anal probe. This thin probe sends electrical pulses from the kegel machine into your pelvic floor. The programs in the machine exercises it. Each session is thirty minutes. It’s easy to use and you can do other things while the machine works.

I’ve used both methods with good results. I prefer the electronic kegel machine, but that’s just me. The important thing is that you consider this important male exercise.

Erection support

Erections are caused by blood flooding spongy tissue inside of our penises. The quality of our erections depends on several factors. One is blood pressure. If blood pressure is low, erections won’t be as firm as we might like. That is a medical issue to be discussed with your doctor.

As we age, the spongy tissue inside our penises becomes less flexible and doesn’t “inflate” as easily as it did when we were younger. According to my reading, our penises will lose about 1/2 inch in length and not be as thick when erect. This is no big deal but shows that we are losing flexibility. One fairly safe method of restoring flexibility is penis pumping.

A penis pump is a device that produces a vacuum around the penis. That draws blood into the penis and produces an erection inside the device. The pump pulls blood in and causes the spongy tissue to stretch. That can help restore flexibility. Too much pumping can damage the tissue and hurt erection quality.

There are lots of penis pumps on the market. Most are sold with claims that they will enlarge your penis by inches. They won’t. I like my battery-powered electric pump. It was reasonably priced (about $40) and controls the degree of vacuum it pulls. This will help prevent damage. I use mine for about ten minutes a day. If I feel any pain, I immediately stop the machine and use a lower setting. Pumping should be comfortable. It won’t necessarily feel sexy, but it shouldn’t put you in pain. After about a month, I’ve noticed that there is an increase in thickness and length. It’s no big deal, but I feel good about it.

One of the most frequently asked questions about male chastity is whether the penis can shrink from being locked in a chastity device? The simple answer is that it probably won’t. That doesn’t mean your penis stays as proud and tall as it did when you were twenty. It won’t.

Time is the enemy. As we age, our bodies change. One unfortunate change is that erections lose stiffness. Penis shrinkage isn’t so much a change in the physical structure of your cock. It’s less blood flow filling the spongy tissue that makes a penis stand tall.

There are other factors. Smoking and obesity also strongly impact erections. Both change the hormone balance that controls getting stiffies. I’ve read that being fat reduces testosterone levels, making the penis lose some stiffness.

Even if you hit the gym and live a clean, tobacco-free life, you will still lose stiffness with age. None of these factors include wearing a male chastity device. As far as I can tell, there have been no studies on the effects of long-term wear of erection-suppressing hardware. Lots of bloggers have theories that boil down to “use it or lose it.” There is absolutely no hard evidence that is true.

Common sense dictates that periodic erections do let the ol’ weenie stretch. It can’t hurt to let it grow hard every so often. Bear in mind, no evidence staying caged will damage your ability to get it up when needed.

Mrs. Lion has made it a habit of unlocking me every other day for exercise. She teases me to the edge a few times and then locks me back up. She does this to keep me horny. It also gives the weenie a chance to stretch.

I’ve noticed a loss of stiffness over the years. When Mrs. Lion gets me very aroused, the stiffness increases (along with the length). Boner pills, like generic Cialis or Viagra, help a lot. has coupons for these drugs that make them very affordable. You need a prescription, so consult your doctor. Stay away from the so-called “natural” boner pills. They are untested and potentially dangerous.

I take 20mg generic Cialis and get absolutely great results. I may have lost a little stiffness and length, but the fun remains the same.

Things appear to be settling down after the migration of our blog. That’s not to say it’s completely smooth sailing going forward, but at least I understand what the problem was and corrected it. It’s been five days since my last orgasm. I’ve been feeling decently horny all day. I told Mrs. Lion and she was happy to get that news. Having the worry of a crashing blog off my mind doesn’t hurt a bit.

Sooner or later female sex bloggers end up writing at least one post about penises. Not surprisingly, we male bloggers tend to avoid saying too much on that subject. Since I am heterosexual, I have no visceral interest in other men’s sexual equipment. I am extremely interested in my own. I’ve measured it many times when flaccid. This was necessary to provide information when I ordered custom male chastity devices. At some point I measured my erection as well. I was curious about how I stacked up, so to speak.

it turns out that 6 inches is very good

The average erect penis is about five and three-quarter inches long and 1 1/2 inches in diameter. Mine is 6 inches long and 1 1/2 inches in diameter. I guess that makes me slightly above average. Yippee! It’s always good to be above average. Based on my reading, it’s good to be a little bit above average but not terribly desirable to be too large. Too much girth makes for painful vaginal insertion, not to mention anal or oral fun. I have a sort of type “O” penis — the universal donor. Most women are more than willing to accept my size penis in any orifice they make available.

Mrs. Lion uses a dildo considerably wider and longer than my penis when she pegs me. When it comes to pegging and male anal play, training him to accept larger visitors is part of the BDSM fun. Even though it’s uncomfortable for me, I agree. I like it when I am able to accept a larger dildo. It doesn’t take long before it feels good nestled deep in my anus.

It appears that most heterosexual women enjoy viewing the erect penis of someone they like. Based on my reading and visits to Twitter, they don’t welcome unsolicited pictures of strangers’ sex organs. When it comes to the rest of the male sexual anatomy, the balls, opinions seem to vary widely in terms of being interesting to women. Some women love them and enjoy fondling them and even putting them in their mouths. Others try to do their best to ignore them. They don’t willingly touch them, even when masturbating the penis attached to them.

Opinions also vary about whether balls are more attractive when warm and loose swinging freely between their owner’s legs. Others prefer them tight, pulled up close to the penis. Mrs. Lion and I haven’t discussed this topic, but I think she prefers them loose and hanging. I know she enjoys a rear view when I bend over with my legs open. She definitely enjoys fondling them and sometimes painfully swatting them when we play.

Hairy balls or smooth?

Male pubic hair grooming is relatively recent activity. My pubic hair has been completely gone for more than 25 years. Call me a trendsetter! I like the way it looks and feels without hair. More and more men and women are following my lead and remove all of their pubic hair. I’ve always felt that a woman without pubic hair is far more interesting to view. Mrs. Lion doesn’t remove her hair, but it isn’t important. Her growth is light and I get a good view of her vagina even with untrimmed pussy hair. She’s said that she doesn’t care whether I have pubic hair or not. It’s up to me.

Even if I didn’t aesthetically prefer hairlessness, wearing a male chastity device is far more comfortable on a bald pubic area. Pubic hair tends to catch on the chastity device and pull uncomfortably. With smooth skin, there is no pull and the device is painless to wear. Speaking of chastity devices, I haven’t seen women comment on how they feel about their men wearing them. Let me clarify, even the ones who say they like their men locked up, don’t offer an opinion as to the aesthetics of seeing a penis in a male chastity device. Most of the devices aren’t that attractive and don’t do a great deal toward making my weenie more appealing. They are utilitarian and designed to prevent the one thing most women prefer when they look at a penis: an erection.

Erections are both entertaining and aesthetically pleasing to many women. They are entertaining because they reveal their owners’ sexual interest. It’s hard to appear nonchalant sporting wood. It’s also embarrassing during play. Mrs. Lion applies very painful tiny clothespins to the head of my penis. I really hate having them there. However, my penis stays hard as a rock. She says that means I really like it. It’s hard to argue with that logic. There was a line in the TV sitcom “Becker”, a teenager was consulting with Dr. Becker complaining that he kept getting erections at odd times. He said, “I even got one while I was vacuuming for my mother. Now she thinks I like cleaning.”

Sometimes I think I spend way too much time thinking about my penis. I’m wearing a chastity device that makes it impossible for me to have an erection. This is been my norm for six years. I wonder if I’ve forgotten how to be spontaneously physically aroused.

Mentally, I’m as horny as ever. I have sexual thoughts and imagine scenarios with Mrs. Lion. These thoughts do not result in pressure inside my chastity device. Even when I’m not wearing it, physical arousal without touching is extremely rare. What got me thinking about this was that when I woke up this morning my penis was trying to get hard inside its cage. I’m sure it’s what’s commonly known as morning wood. I wasn’t having any sexy thoughts or dreams and the attempted erection persisted for a few minutes after I was fully awake.

I’m well aware of this physiological phenomenon. It’s a way the body has to assure that its reproductive equipment is functional. I admit thinking that it would have been much more fun having morning wood if I weren’t locked up. It is good to know the equipment is working. That really isn’t an issue with me. Mrs. Lion unlocks me and teases me almost every day. Currently, the longest I’ve stayed in the cage without being unlocked is three or four days.

That doesn’t mean I’m a chastity brat. My unlocks are accompanied by edging and then I get relocked when I calm down. Mrs. Lion, I believe, finds my chastity device to be an inconvenience. She likes my penis to be available for her attention whenever she wants to play with it. She knows that I’m trained not to masturbate. I, on the other hand, like wearing a chastity device. I enjoy the sense of bondage. I also like knowing that I have no choice when it comes to being stimulated. I think about sex more often when I’m locked up. The chastity device, while so comfortable I barely realize it’s there, sends a strong sexual message to me.

There’s one rather important thing I learned about penis maintenance. The mechanism that gets us erect depends on blood flowing into spongy tissue inside the penis. Over time, especially when we are prevented from getting hard, this spongy tissue becomes more difficult to fill. This can result in less-than-fully-hard erections. Fortunately there’s an easy way to prevent this. Viagra, now available in an inexpensive generic form, works by improving blood flow in the penis. From what I’ve read, regular use of the drug along with stimulation that gets the penis erect, help prevent this. Men have reported an increase in penis size of up to an inch when they use the drug.

It turns out that is perfectly normal that our erections become smaller as we age. This is due to the tissue being less able to accept the blood flow that inflates it. Apparently, Viagra will help restore the tissue closer to its earlier size.  I’ve noticed that my erections seem to be stronger since I’ve been using the drug.

It’s not necessary to take the tablets every time, nor is it necessary to have frequent, unrestrained erections. However, depending on your individual physiology and mental state, it makes good sense to have some augmented erections on a regular schedule. I am not suggesting that ejaculation is required. It’s not.

I’ve never been particularly concerned about the size of my penis. I think I’m average. I started this research because I get questions from time to time about whether enforced male chastity will cause the penis to shrink. Initially, I rejected that concept out of hand. After doing some reading, I realized that it’s perfectly normal for us to lose an inch or more in erect size over time. As far as I could learn, there is no information about how wearing a chastity device might affect loss of size.

That’s not surprising. Enforced male chastity is a relatively small kink and probably never shows up on sexual researchers’ radar screens. The “use it or lose it” concept probably applies to penises the same way it does to most everything else. Fortunately, it’s very easy to provide penis exercise without violating our chastity.

Regardless of whether you are kept in chastity by a keyholder or you lock yourself up, there’s no reason why scheduled “exercise” can’t be included in the chastity regimen. Unfortunately, there is no scientific information about how often a penis must get hard in order to stay toned. I suggest that at minimum, one erection session a week makes sense as a basic minimum. If that session can be accompanied with an erectile drug (Please consult with your physician before attempting), you’re very likely to avoid excessive loss of size.

Apparently, chastity device or no chastity device, erectile drug or not, there will be some loss of size over time. The penile tissue simply ages and loses flexibility. It’s possible to minimize this loss. I’m very lucky that Mrs. Lion gives me lots of exercise.