Sometimes things just seem to fall into place. With all the turmoil lately, it’s nice to have something go smoothly. Even though our night was interspersed with surgery talk, Lion managed to have a good night.

I decided to choose my own paddle for Lion’s punishment. He said I picked the meanest one. I think he could have said that about several of them. This one has a long handle with a small circular head. Lots of leverage. It’s actually the cousin of possibly the meanest paddle we have, which is made of bloodwood.

Before I started swatting, I wanted to test a theory I had. It’s been a long time since he’s been swatted, but there’s a spot on his right cheek that tends to bleed even if I don’t hit it directly. I wondered if I put some paper tape on it before I started, if it would keep it from bleeding. The fact that it was even hard to find the spot probably meant it wouldn’t bleed.

I tried the tape anyway. I don’t know if it didn’t bleed because it just wasn’t going to anyway or if I didn’t hit the spot, but the tape might have been a success. I’ll need to keep trying it to see if my theory is really correct.

A while after his punishment, we snuggled. I’m never sure if he’s receptive to attention until I try. I don’t think he is either right now. Once my weenie was at attention, though, I knew we were onto something good. I hadn’t really planned ahead of time, but I wanted to give Lion some oral attention. I can’t remember how I gave him his last orgasm, but a blow job is usually welcome. Now that I know how to edge him orally, he never knows if he’s actually getting an orgasm or not.

Afterwards, he said he was hoping for a blow job. It must have been ESP. He was thinking it and I must have heard him. Or it just could have been that I know he loves blow jobs and I love giving them to him. Whatever the case, he was a happy Lion. He said he wondered if he’d have an orgasm. It’s still within our window of an orgasm a day experiment. Why not? He has two more shots for orgasms. Our experiment ends Wednesday night. Who knows how long he’ll have to wait after that?


Posted in Scheduled orgasm, Spanking

Domestic Discipline Vs Female Led Relationship

Most of the stuff written about domestic discipline centers around physical punishment. The most disturbing aspect appears to be administration of punishments. Most of the blogs on the subject write in amazing detail about punishing the errant spouse. I don’t think that is the most important thing about domestic discipline.

From what I’ve read, most bloggers seem to think that domestic discipline is for some, the punishment side of a female led relationship. I disagree. A FLR can be many things. At the least, the female partner has the last say on decisions. How day-to-day living goes can be completely vanilla. The woman is in charge in the same way the man is in charge of a traditional relationship.

There is no more implication of obedience than in a vanilla relationship. There is no BDSM mistress stuff needed. It can be there, but it isn’t a component of the FLR. In fact there is nothing radical about it. Probably most people practicing it have no notion of the idea that this sort of thing has a name. It’s just who is in charge. She is.

Domestic discipline, on the other hand, carries a very different meaning. In our case, Mrs. Lion is the disciplining wife. Most DD relationships are male-led. In the DD relationship, the Head of House (HOH) takes on much more than just being the decider. She controls her mate in many ways. The primary control is obedience. The disciplined husband (me) agrees to blindly obey his disciplining wife (Mrs. Lion). Any failure to obey or please the HOH results in punishment.

That means that Mrs. Lion doesn’t just makes decisions for us, she controls any aspect of my life she wishes. For example, she wants me to wear red underpants. I don’t own a single pair of any other color. She wants to always eat first. I wait or get punished. The punishment isn’t an exciting BDSM activity. It is a serious act of retribution designed to make me remember to follow my rule.

My point is that domestic discipline isn’t about discipline. It is about obedience. In most mature DD relationships, punishment is very rare. The disciplined husband obeys and behaves as the HOH wishes. Slips are few and far between. When they occur, punishment is swift and severe.

My DD relationship is the very extreme cousin of FLR. Punishment is probably the least extreme aspect of it. Most significant is the level of control my HOH maintains. There is no aspect of my life she can’t dictate. I don’t get a vote. I can’t say no. Do as she says or suffer a painful reminder of who’s in charge.

That doesn’t mean Mrs. Lion is in charge of everything. She lets me pay the bills and make many of the family decisions. Of course, she always has a veto, but she let’s me handle a lot. I’m not her simpering slave. I’m her masculine husband who can do what he likes as long as she allows him. I love, honor and obey.

Posted in domestic discipline, Lion's Journal
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