To Orgasm or Not to Orgasm

travel chastity device

Does it stay or does it go? This is the cage lion is testing. It’s TSA-safe. He’s only worn it 24 hours. Should I take a chance and make him wear it while he is on his trip next week?

I think Lion is back to his old self again. It seems as soon as he’s unlocked, my weenie is on its way to getting hard. And after I played with Lion for a while last night, I think I did seven or eight edgings, he’s frustrated long after I lock him back up. Part of me feels badly that he’s frustrated. All of me is glad he’s horny again. He had a long run of feeling broken. I hate when he feels that way.

Lion was amazed last night when he realized it’s only been four days since his ruined orgasm. He says it feels like much longer. [Lion — This is probably because the ruined orgasm didn’t provide any satisfaction. If you don’t count the ruined orgasm, the wait is now 6 days, not 4. That’s my “peak”.] Again, he’s a horny boy. And that leads me to my quandary of the day. Before the crack of dawn tomorrow, I have to get Lion to the airport for a trip to the east coast. He will likely be wild. We received another cage that can get through airport security, but he hasn’t been wearing it long enough to know how comfortable it is. With security being what it is, he can’t even take nail clippers with him to cut himself out of the plastic locking mechanism if it gets too uncomfortable. It’s not like he can go down to the hotel front desk and ask to borrow scissors to extricate himself. So I think he will be wild.

The question is, do I leave him wild without an orgasm or do I give him an orgasm tonight to let off the pressure? In the past, he’s said he doesn’t really even think about sex when he’s all alone in a hotel room. However, one of the times I’ve left him wild recently, he confessed to touching my weenie in a sexual way. I’m 99% sure he won’t masturbate to orgasm. Will he be tempted to play with my weenie? I know our readers are screaming, “Don’t give him an orgasm! He gets too many as it is!”

That is a valid point. Lion is a lucky boy when it comes to coming. He should be able to restrain himself from keeping his hands off of my property. It’s not like two weeks will kill him. Especially since he says he’s not really horny when he’s away from me. All good arguments. I’ll have to see how I feel later. I have been looking forward to a good blow job ending in a mouthful of cum. But it would be a good test for Lion. Yup, quandary.

[Lion — I’ve been wearing the new device since yesterday afternoon. I’m pretty sure it’s safe to wear. I can certainly get a nail clipper or borrow scissors at the office if I need to cut myself out. This cage has a plastic seal for travel. It is the first custom plastic chastity cage I have found. Stay tuned for my review after I’ve had a chance to wear it for a bit longer.]

Posted in edging, Scheduled orgasm

About Cruelty

Our readers never cease to amaze me. Our recent posts about domestic discipline have evoked some remarkable responses. Not one suggested that Mrs. Lion beat the crap out of me. Instead, our readers expressed concern that we not take spanking blogs literally and that it seemed cruel to cause me so much pain for simply spilling some spaghetti sauce on my shirt.

We both appreciate your concern. We’ve been cautioned to not take advice from various blogs too literally. Domestic discipline blogs that feature disciplined males and are written by their disciplining wives can, at times, appear to be advocating real cruelty. Certainly I would suffer greatly if Mrs. Lion beat me with a paddle or strap 300 whomps. My bottom would be a mess. I would hate that level of punishment.

However, a lot of men and women crave that level of beating. I suppose they are died-in-the-wool masochists. But I know there is much more to the story. Based on my long experience in the BDSM world, I can give you a bit of insight into a spanking session, both from the perspective of the spanker and, of course, as the “spankee”.

The worst part of any spanking is the beginning. Nerve endings are most sensitive and each swat feels unbearable. After a while, the time varies with individuals, a sort of “numbness” sets in. This is actually an endorphin reaction to the physical assault on the body. Bottoms treasure this endorphin high.

In the context of discipline, a 300 swat spanking is probably 100 painful hits and 200 that are no problem to accept. I’ve experienced this in a D/S scene. I barely moved for the last part of the spanking.

You could ask why bother with those later swats? One school of thought claims that the long duration of the punishment is very meaningful to both spanker and disciplined male. There’s little doubt that I would clearly understand that a spanking that went on that long signified that I did something very bad. It sends a message.

Those later spanks can be administered hard and fast without having to deal with too much squirming. That allows the spanker to more accurately place the blows and for the spankee to register severity in terms other than raw pain.

I suggest that disciplinary spankings rarely get this severe. However, I know that “play” spankings are often much worse. Sensation lovers will want endless beatings. They are hooked on those brain chemicals that are produced.

Believe it or not, it is generally perfectly safe. Most S/M toys are designed to provide sensation without serious injury. These are the very same implements my dear lioness uses on me. I may hurt, but I won’t be injured beyond some redness and fast-healing bruises.

There is more to a spanking than providing strong pain. There’s also the humiliation of submitting to something that is generally reserved for naughty children. If the spanker accompanies her blows with scolding, the humiliation is increased.

Is that a cruel spanking? The recipient will feel it for days. His butt will be tender for quite a while. But he agreed to get it. I understand the consequences of agreeing to let Mrs. Lion punish me. Cruelty is in the eyes of the recipient. If I don’t feel that Mrs. Lion is being cruel, no matter how it appears to an outsider, she isn’t being cruel to me.

Of course, the problem is that someone reading our posts will judge what we do in the context of his or her life. But remember, I’m the one who suffers all this beating. I admit it hurts horribly. But I don’t believe it is cruel. I am an aware, educated, intelligent grown man. I have full control of my faculties. If I don’t feel that I am being treated cruelly, then I’m not. You may consider me crazy for allowing all this. So be it. But what you read here, and I expect on other blogs as well, represents adults consenting to activities they want to include in their lives.

Maybe I’m being cruel for letting you know what we are doing.

Posted in Lion's Journal, Spanking
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