We Did It!
If you’ve been reading along, you know that my lioness and I have been working through some longstanding issues. Our views of these issues has varied (you can also read about that here too). Since I have been caged, our communications on these subjects has opened up more than before and Mrs. Lion has been working hard to work forced chastity into our lives. Things are certainly far from perfect, but they seem to be moving in the right direction.
Last night I had a big surprise. I was massively horny after Friday night’s ruined orgasm. I was unlocked for my shower. I asked for that since it is hard to clean the mess caused by peeing in a diaper. I’m not complaining. The diapers are a brilliant stroke of topping me. Anyway, after my shower, my lioness teased me to the edge. Friday, when we went shopping, she bought a box of condoms. I didn’t ask what they were for. It was obvious this wasn’t something she wanted to discuss. She didn’t even mention she was looking for them. After the tease last night, I had to ask. She told me that I would eventually find out. Now I was frustrated two ways!
I didn’t have to wait long. A little while later, she got me nice and hard and slipped a condom on. I asked, “Why am I wearing this?”
She replied, “How does sex feel with one on?”
“Not as good.”
“Exactly,” she replied.
“Oh.” Something different was going to happen. My lioness climbed on top of me and put me inside her. It still felt great even with the condom on! She moved for a while and then stopped. It was clearly uncomfortable for her. We tried a few more positions without too much luck. It had been a long time since we had done this. My releases had been by hand and oral for years. Hers were mostly by my hand. I asked her to try riding me again. I know that this position has the best chance of giving her a good orgasm.
This time she mounted me with her butt facing me. She also let me take the condom off. Eureka! This position did the trick. It didn’t take long for her to have a nice orgasm. I was so happy! She told me I could come, but I just wasn’t able. That is usually a good thing, especially with being caged. But last night was special, so after she recovered a bit, she used her hand to bring me to a really good orgasm. We both came! We made love!
I won’t say that we have a magic solution to all our challenges. This wasn’t easy for my lioness. Somehow she found a way to ride me. I have been making a point of being more romantic and initiating affection. We are working on meeting in the middle. I am not sure that being caged is a major factor in this. I know that by virtue of the fact that she has total control of my sexuality, it does force both of us to be far more sexually active than we were before. For me, at least, it feels like a new door is opening in our sex lives. Life can be very good for a caged lion.
It’s Her Toy Now
Since being caged also includes male orgasm control, some interesting contrasts develop. During keyholder pleasing, the male’s penis is at the disposal of the keyholder for her pleasure. If this includes intercourse, the caged male is expected to provide the needed stimulation with his penis without coming himself. Some kind keyholders use desensitizing cream to numb the penis and help the male avoid an “accident”. However, the expectation is that he not allow himself to come and warn his partner if he is near the point of no return.
If he reaches this point before his keyholder is finished with her toy, a punishment is certainly warranted. A good, long spanking is appropriate. Interfering with a keyholder’s orgasm is a serious infraction, indeed. We caged males must learn to hold off our orgasms unless we have permission to come. For me, at least, this is very difficult. Nobody said that being chaste would be easy.
Sometimes the direct opposite ability is required. If a keyholder wants her male to ejaculate and orgasm, he should be able to do that on command or at least very quickly so as to avoid wasting the keyholder’s time and good graces. Failure to promptly produce semen is certainly grounds for being locked up without release and perhaps spanked as well.
Orgasm control, either holding off or squirting on command, is a key area of sexual training for any caged male. Our orgasms, no matter how infrequent, belong to our keyholders. We must efficiently produce our juice when required, whether by our own hands or by our keyholders. Another area of control is where we get to ejaculate. If our keyholder wants us to produce in a semi-public place, like a restaurant bathroom and then bring the proof to her, then we must do that too. The point isn’t that we will be made to do these things, it’s that it is completely in the control of the keyholder.
Many male fantasies in forced chastity are around being made to wait for a very long time between orgasms. Few realize that it is equally valid for a keyholder to require very frequent ejaculations; maybe even hourly for a day or more. We don’t have the right to expect our particular orgasm and orgasm denial fantasies to control what really happens to us. We turned that over to an independent person who will do what amuses her. That thing between our legs is not ours anymore. It is a toy that belongs to our keyholder to do with as she wishes.
Rear Entry, Front Frustration
Last night there was a new twist to my forced chastity. Lioness let me take off my diaper, then she removed my cage and instructed me to take a shower and get all cleaned off. She also let me clean the cage which needed some soap and water too. It was heavenly getting clean without having to work around the tight bars. I couldn’t help but get hard during the cleaning. I was a good lion and didn’t attempt to masturbate, but you can bet I was ready to go!
When I emerged from the bathroom naked and clean, Mrs. Lion had the stainless steel butt plug (see photo on right) out with a tub of Boy Butter lube. Boy butter is specifically designed for anal play and is easy to clean up and very slippery. She lubed the plug and my butt and in it went. She told me that as long as it was nestled up my ass I could be without my diaper and cage. It was pretty uncomfortable at first, but after a few minutes I got used to its considerable weight.
After an hour, Mrs. Lion moved over beside me on the bed and began playing with me. Oh boy! I really wanted to come. She continued as though driven by a purpose. I hoped the purpose would be to let me squirt. I didn’t want to come without permission, so when I was almost ready, I told her I was going to come. I half expected to have her stop and leave me wanting, but she continued. The problem was that she only continued for about ten seconds and then when I was just ready to blow, she stopped and moved her hand away. It felt like a door was closing and I watched helplessly as my semen oozed out of my penis. I made a sad sound. Lioness looked pleased.
“Is that it?” I asked hopefully. “You know, I bet there is more if you want to do it again.”
“Probably,” she replied, but made no move to take me up on it. She moved to her side of the bed and I started the paused TV show. I lay there another hour as the plug grew uncomfortable.
After a few more minutes, I asked, “Can you take it out, please?” She nodded pleasantly and told me to roll over on my stomach. I turned over and she pulled it out. That hurt!
“I guess I pulled it out too fast,” she said. “Sorry.”
“No problem,” I said. It was good to have it out and also good to get some sexual attention. Beggers can’t be choosers.
Male Chastity: Activity Or Lifestyle?
Male chastity is initiated by locking up the male’s penis in a cage that makes it impossible to achieve an erection and ejaculate. At least that is the goal of the hardware. So, one would imagine that the objective of this practice is to prevent the male from having sex, alone or with anyone else. However, it’s a bit like pregnancy; you get that way by having sex, but once pregnant there is a lot more to do for the next twenty years or so.
Very few, if any caged males expect that sex prevention is the reason they want to be locked up. There is a not-so-subtle power exchange implied in the process. So, are we talking about a set of things to do with a caged male, or are we really embarking on a new lifestyle that will seep into every corner of our lives? A lot of folks work hard to keep the forced chastity and the sexual activities around it isolated from the rest of their lives. Is that possible?
Lioness and I are now about two months in to my 24/7 caging. I went in with expectations of some female topping along with controlling if and when I get to orgasm. Fortunately for me, lioness lets me orgasm twice a week so far. I like that a lot. Of course that could change at any time. She has also imposed weekend diaper wearing and forces me to bargain for occasional exceptions. All this fits in nicely with our initial concept. I also imagine there will be some discipline and imposition of other requirements. It’s an expected part of our version of forced male chastity.
The big question is that if we do this consistently and incorporate these practices in our daily lives, have we moved forced chastity from an activity we share to a new lifestyle for us? I go both ways on this. In some sense I see that we have added some nice spice to our sex life and as such this is an activity. But then as I consider it more, it occurs to me that my being caged insinuates itself subtly into other unrelated parts of our lives. For example, if we are going to go out for dinner and then see a movie on a Saturday night, lioness has to consider whether or not I could enjoy the evening if I have to spend part of it in a wet diaper. Does she give me a “vacation” from my diaper? Does she let me sit in a wet one or try to hold my pee in? If she lets me out for the evening, does she exact a price later? Will I have to wear one during the week as well?
Granted, this is not a big deal but it is a new complication. On another level, should she make me wait longer to orgasm if I do something non-sexual that displeases her? If she does, are we now using forced chastity to support a more generalized female domination? Do we need to discuss it? In my case, I would accept such an extension, even welcome it. But will this change the way lioness views me as a man?
All of these questions wouldn’t even come up if forced male chastity was just an activity. They are very relevant because whether we asked for it or not, it becomes part of our lives; a new lifestyle. Everyone is different and how they approach the practice is individual. However, in many male fantasies about being caged, there is an underlying request for female dominance at some level. It may just relate to sex, and pleasing the keyholder, or it can extend into non-sexual parts of the couple’s lives as well. Either way is fine. The important thing is to be aware of what you both want and talk about it. After the conversation, let the games begin!
