Like most things that get discussed endlessly on the Internet, male chastity has its share of debates over terminology. Some guys think the term only applies to wearing a locked chastity device. Others claim you have to wait a certain amount of time for an orgasm before it counts. The problem with forums and blogs is that they are fertile ground for stretching topics to the absurd.

In the old days (ten years ago), the big debate was over inescapable devices. If you could get your penis out of the male chastity device, it was ineffective. The elephant in the room was that the men trying to escape either asked to be locked up or locked themselves up. If the male wants to be locked in a male chastity device, why in the world would he try to escape? Dumb, right?

Guys seem to have gotten smarter in recent years. As we’ve written here, the most important attributes a male chastity device can have are comfort and erection suppression. To be effective, you have to wear the device 24/7 without irritation or too much discomfort. If you need to put lube under the base ring, it is too small.

1-inch long jail bird
The short Jail Bird cage keeps my urethra centered in the front opening of the male chastity device.

I added a third quality that I need to make wearing a device tolerable: the ability to pee without making a mess. This is a difficult design problem for device makers. It’s fairly easy to design and manufacture male chastity devices that are comfortable and prevent erections. It’s much harder to allow normal urination.

Over the years, I’ve discovered that if the penis cage or tube is short enough to assure that the urethra is always centered over the hole in the front of the device, peeing is effortless, even at a urinal. There are two ways to guarantee this. The easiest is to get the cage short enough so that even a post-ocean swim weenie remains in full contact with the front of the device. That means the cage/tube is very short. My Jail Bird Cage is only one inch long. My penis will comfortably fit in a cage just slightly longer than the head of my penis. The diameter of the cage needs to be very close to the actual diameter of your flaccid penis. My soft cock is 1-1/2 inches in diameter. The cage is 1-1/4.

evotion orion ring to hold penis head in place
The Evotion Orion has a molded-in ring to keep the head from slipping back.

The second way this can be done is with the cage or tube having an internal ring just below the head. This ring “catches” on the groove below the head and keeps the urethra in contact with its hole. The Evotion Orion male chastity device has this feature. There is a drawback to this. I’ve gotten a sore on the head of my penis where it hits this ring. This happened twice. The Evotion people didn’t offer to try to fix this issue. I don’t know if other guys have had similar problems.

Do you have to wear a male chastity device to be practicing male chastity? The terminology nazis claim that you have to wear a device. Without a device, you are practicing “orgasm control.” I disagree. Orgasm control is the activity associated with male chastity. The entire point of both is that the owner of the penis does not get to decide when it will ejaculate. Mrs. Lion decides when I get to come. I do not have a vote.

The principal reason a male chastity device is needed is to prevent male masturbation. Since the keyholder can’t physically supervise her chaste male 24/7 unless locked up, he can secretly jerk off. Wearing a male chastity device discourages sneaky jerk-offs. I wore a device 24/7 for three years. Mrs. Lion told me that I’m not allowed to masturbate, ever. The more-than-thousand-days of losing access to my penis successfully trained me not even to try. I haven’t jerked off since January 2014.

Mrs. Lion doesn’t keep me locked in a chastity device now. I don’t think I could get myself off even if I wanted to. No matter how close to an orgasm she brings me, I never try to finish myself. She has total control. It’s automatic. My orgasms belong completely to her. We don’t even think about it anymore. That is real Male Chastity.

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