Vacation Fun And Spanking Training

hand-shaped riding crop
This hand-shaped riding crop is just the right length to deliver a stinging swat that leaves a nice, red, hand-shaped mark behind.

(Sunday, June 1 2014) We went away this past weekend. Last night, Mrs. Lion surprised me. First, she released me from my cage. Back in February, Mrs. Lion gave me a very romantic Valentine’s Day gift: a set of under-mattress restraints for use on our travels. Last night she announced that we would test them. I positioned myself on my back, feet wide apart ready to be restrained. She informed me that she wanted my other side up. I rolled over onto my stomach and she secured me to the corners of the bed. She smiled and mentioned that she had a very nice set of travel toys. I could hear the zipper of her gym bag open. She showed me the business end of a riding crop that had a leather hand (see phot0) on the end that would hit my butt. This particular toy is one I have used in the past on some tender female bottoms. Delivered with enough force, it leaves a pretty little hand-shaped red mark on the bottom’s butt.

Mrs. Lion began with mild hand swats. They felt really good. She kept hitting harder and harder. My endorphin level was keeping pace with my spanking and I was getting into the sensations. She then switched to the crop. Ouch! It really stung. She kept going, varying the intensity. I admit it, I prefer “thud” to sting, but that crop was playing music on my butt. She kept it up for a while. She then switched to a paddle. [This was actually a strap – Mrs Lion] I never got a look at it, so I don’t know what she brought along. That paddle had no thud at all! It was pure sting. I started thrashing about and whining. To her credit, Mrs. Lion ignored my pleas and kept punishing my bottom. I can’t begin to say how much I wanted her to stop. I even told her to stop. Thankfully, she has learned to ignore my “orders”. If I were the top, I think I would have commented that my butt needs some toughening up and promise daily paddling until I learned to behave.

Eventually the spanking ended and the travel restraints were removed. Mrs. Lion asked how I liked the restraints. I told her that they were effective. When I first received the gift, I privately wondered if it could really hold me down. It can. Mrs. Lion wasn’t done. She proceeded to edge me twice. After last week’s unintentional ruined orgasms, Mrs. Lion stopped a tiny bit sooner. It was perfect. Each time I hit the point where all I could think about was coming. But, no, I didn’t get a chance. After the second tease and deny, Mrs. Lion got up and moved to the foot of the bed. She crawled up and gave me incredible oral sex to orgasm. This was a mind-blowing vacation sex session! Wow!

After I calmed down a bit I asked Mrs. Lion to encourage me more during spanking. She was puzzled. I don’t blame her. She thought she was encouraging me. She had said, “Good boy” a few times while swatting me.  I realized that I hadn’t really explained. I also didn’t really explain to you. Let me be a bit clearer.

Let’s assume that I am receiving a long spanking and the intention is to leave me very sore and teach me a lesson (or just train me to be better about getting spanked). As the toys change or the intensity grows, I will want you to stop. The more effective the spanking, the more desperate I am to get you to stop. An inexperienced top will stop when the whining or demands get strong enough. Don’t stop. You can pause for a few seconds to have what I call, spanking talk.

So here I am bucking and trying to turn over and complaining and begging for you to stop. Hang on to the toy and pause. Say, “You’ve been doing so well. Do you want to spoil it? (wait for an answer) “I know you want to be a good boy, don’t you?” (wait for a yes) “Did you say ‘Yes Ma’am’?” “You didn’t?” (Very hard single swat) “What should you say?” (wait for ‘Yes Ma’am”) (Swat!) “Louder, Please.”  You get it.

Next, establish that he needs to be spanked. Same technique until you get a “Yes, Ma’am!” You don’t need to do this every time he gets too resistant. The other technique is encouragement. This is very important and should be used every time he starts resisting. “Oh, no! Are you being naughty?” (don’t stop while you say this) “You’ve been such a good boy! I like it when you are still and let me help you.” He may try to hold still.

“You can do it! If you are still, it won’t be long now until I am done. If you keep misbehaving, we could be here all night.” You get it. No pause here, just spanking conversation. The verbal interaction is very important for a couple of reasons: You keep in contact with your male. You don’t let him slip into “sub space”. You also get his mind to work with you. That’s critical and why daily spankings are probably needed to train him to allow you to spank him without restraint.

As long as he resists you shouldn’t stop your spanking. He needs to hold still, at least for a few seconds, under your most intense swats before you stop. The goal is to train him to accept any amount of severe spanking without resistance. Ultimately, he shouldn’t even tense his cheeks while you swat.

This training will take time and many sore butts. But that’s not such a bad thing. Is it?


  1. Author

    Quick question – you say “You don’t let him slip into “sub space”.”

    I thought that was a goal? I was surprised that one of the points of talking through it (and getting responses) was to avoid sub space. Perhaps I’m misunderstanding?

    1. Author

      Subspace is not a goal for a top. Bottoms, of course, love it. However, when a bottom is into that space it is pretty boring for the top. Basically it is like swatting a piece of meat. It’s much more interesting when the bottom is reactive and feeling every swat.

  2. Author

    I never had to be restrained. I could keep still, even when taking strokes of a sjambok. Not from Merry, but a “friend. I had a very high pain tolerance. The only time I remember jumping or moving is when she accidentally? Hit my scrotum.

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