I have been caged over two months. Mrs. Lion has been very good about teasing and denial, ruined orgasms, and the general maintenance a caged male requires. But it is still very clear that she is caging me because I want it. I am sure that if I ask her to take my cage off because I don’t want to wear it, that she would unlock me and give me the cage. While that is very loving, it is exactly what I don’t want. I want her to own the cage and to keep me in it as long as she wants. I also want her to own what is inside the cage as well.
This can be very difficult for her. She has made it clear that having my cock locked up does not turn her on. She isn’t excited by the power she has. She has told me that while it doesn’t turn her on, she will do it because “I like it.” Well I do like it, but not because it is a thrill to have my dick in a cage, but because I am surrendering sexual control to my lioness. I understand the truth in the old saying “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” There is nothing I can do to make Mrs. Lion get aroused by exercising sexual control over me. I accept that. But if that is the case, does it mean that I can never surrender sexual control to her?
The answer is that I can, but it means that she needs to take one more step to make this possible. If I can control whether or not I am caged in the long or short term, then I am in control. However, if Mrs. Lion consciously takes ownership of my cage and lets me know that if I want out, I’m not getting it, then I will begin to feel her control. If she also teases and denies, gives ruined orgasms, and if possible, lets me know what I can do to please her, I will feel that she has taken sexual control of me. Ideally, this power will turn her on, but even if it doesn’t, it will work for me if she does these things.
You have to ask where her WIIFM is (pronounced WiffIM, it’s What’s In It For Me)? That’s the hard part. Are there things I can do for her that will make her feel more wanted? Can I do things around the house to make her life easier? There are, and I am trying to do them. But I wonder if she even notices. I don’t need praise for everything, but acknowledgement would be really great.
I suspect that we aren’t unique. Forced male chastity has put a burden on her that she didn’t request. I wish I could find a way to make her have fun owning my sexuality. I don’t think it will “just happen” if we keep it up. I think it is a decision Mrs. Lion must make and I must support. In forced chastity, communications is key, just like the rest of having a successful relationship.