My Birthday Message

Life inevitably intrudes into the things we like to do. Our blog chronicles our adventures in enforced male chastity and a Female Led Relationship with Discipline. We had a very good run: over five years before life turned around and bit us. When something happens that overshadows the sexual side of things, a blog like ours can take one of three possible courses: It can stop publishing, it can obsess on the trials and tribulations of its writers, or it can go on as though nothing ever happened.

I’ve seen blogs go in all three of those directions. I think we are a little different. We haven’t focused exclusively on the sexual aspects of our lives. We’ve shared with you other life events that affect us. Mrs. Lion and I have discussed how much we should share. It’s not that we don’t think you should know things, but rather we are concerned you might lose interest if we focus on the non-sexual events.

To date, we’ve shared when it seemed relevant. Blogging requires some hard decisions. A very large percentage of our readers find us through searches on various topics we write about. It’s unlikely most of them will have any investment in us and will probably consider non-sexual content as unwelcome distractions. A reasonably large number of our readers follow us every day. I’d like to think that this group is interested in a more three-dimensional view of our lives.

Today is my birthday. It feels appropriate for me to use this post to talk about what’s happened to me over the last year or so. The content of this post is not about sex.

In the late summer of 2016 I got a new job and had the very good opportunity of visiting headquarters. I was put up in a wonderful luxury resort and had time to enjoy local attractions. My first night, I visited a really nice Italian restaurant. After dinner, I was walking leisurely back to my rental car. I tripped on a curb and came down hard on my right arm.

My arm kept hurting even a month after I fell. I visited my doctor and he thought I might have injured my rotator cuff. Over the next six months I got three steroid injections into the injured area. They relieved the pain for a while but it invariably came back. Eventually I saw a sports medicine surgeon who sent me for a MRI and then diagnosed a very badly torn rotator cuff.

In March 2018 I had surgery to repair it. It was a very painful recovery and I was inactive for two months. Mrs. Lion took great care of me. We really couldn’t pursue enforced male chastity very well. Though, once I was sufficiently recovered, my sex life was rigidly controlled as though I were wearing a chastity device.

Recovery from shoulder surgery is very slow. As I improved we became more active. Life returned to normal. After the surgery, I noticed that I had lost some sensation in my right hand. I mentioned this to the doctor who had no suggestion as to what caused it. Not long after, I noticed that my balance was poor. I couldn’t walk a straight line with one foot in front of the other. I went back to the doctor who referred me to a neurologist.

The neurologist correctly read my symptoms and sent me for an MRI of my cervical spine (neck). The MRI revealed that the discs in my neck were compressing the spinal cord. This needed immediate surgery because should my neck get any sudden shock, I could end up as a quadriplegic. I had surgery to correct that about six months ago.

As a result of the surgery, my right arm suffers something called C-5 palsy. The deltoid muscle doesn’t connect properly with my brain. As a result, I have trouble lifting that arm. Over the months, the arm has improved but I am still unable to lift it very high. Also as a result of the surgery, my balance has gotten worse.

The neurosurgeon says that spinal cord is not transmitting accurate information about the location of my feet. This makes me unsteady and a bit wobbly when I walk; almost as though I were drunk. He’s not optimistic this will get better. I’m walking with a cane which does seem to help.

In between all these things, I had kidney stones a couple of times and required surgery for that. I’m hoping that I will continue to improve and I will be doing physical therapy make the most of what I do have left.

If that wasn’t enough, last August (2018) I developed glaucoma. It’s been difficult to control and I’ve lost most of the vision in my left eye and almost all the peripheral vision in my right. I’ve had three eye surgeries to help alleviate it. Needless to say, this makes it difficult for me to get around.

Mrs. Lion has been amazing through all this. She’s a devoted partner and has had to pick up a lot of the things I used to do. She uncomplainingly does this. I really don’t think I could have survived without her help.

Because of the loss of sensation in fingers, I’ve been using voice-to-text software to do my writing. It comes up with some pretty funny translations of things I say that Mrs. Lion and I try to catch before my posts are published.

Throughout all this we have resolved to continue male chastity and our FLRD. So far, it’s working. On Monday night Mrs. Lion retrieved a very mean paddle from our camper and spanked me with it. Her normal collection of paddles remains buried in one of our moving boxes, along with most of my clothes. All the stuff will surface eventually.

If I didn’t mention it, we also had to move. At the beginning of August our landlord advised us that they were going to sell the house we had been renting for 13 years. We found another house nearby and Mrs. Lion had to pack our things and supervise the move. The moving trucks didn’t have enough room for all of our possessions, so she ferryied the overflow through much of September.

Sounds like a soap opera, doesn’t it? I’m just wondering if somehow karma decided my number was up. It was time to give me my share of bad luck.

I’ve had a pretty terrific life. I’ve gone on adventures in almost every continent of the earth. Virtually all my wishes have come true and my bucket list is empty. Most importantly, I found Mrs. Lion and she fell in love with me. I know it sounds corny, but we really are soul mates. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me and I will be eternally grateful she came into my life.

Okay, there it is: a summary of the stuff we have been going through during the last year or so. I’m not claiming we have had a soap opera of horrible experiences. Other people have suffered much worse.

My main take away is that she and I are totally committed to one another and we have decided to pursue enforced male chastity and our Female Led Relationship with Discipline as much as we can despite life’s intrusions.

Thank you for staying with us. I know it’s impossible that everything we write will appeal to you. From my perspective it feels very good to know that you are interested enough keep reading our blog.


  1. There are a few new things in this post. I hadn’t realized your walking was going to continue to be shaky with no hope of full recovery. And I also hadn’t realized your vision wasn’t going to recover fully. These are big blips in your life. Good for you to remain positive. All the best to the two of you.

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      I try to stay positive. I just count myself lucky that I had as many good years as I did. So far my mind is still clear and full of dirty thoughts. Thanks to medical science I may escape with eyesight and the ability to walk. Thank you very much for your good wishes.

  2. Damn, what a rough year! When it rains it pours.
    I am sorry to hear about all the sh-t you have been through.
    My neighbor had much the same with the neck surgery. He is walking again with a cane, but has a tough time with one foot not picking up and moving as it should.

    Glad to hear that despite all of this, you are able to keep your spirits up and count your blessings, mainly that you have Mrs. Lion to provide a lion’s share of support.

    Also glad to hear that you are able to continue with the male chastity and female led relationship. I sometimes wonder if we will just fade out of it and I sure hope not as it is still the most exciting thing. After my wife gave me a short belt whipping last night before bed I had to tell her that doing so just makes me love her more.
    She said she knows that and that she does it because she loves me.

    So many blogs that I have read over the last few years have gone dormant and I wonder if they just stopped with the blog or did the FLR fade away.
    Good to see that you are carrying on with both.

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      Thanks for the good wishes. Despite the problems neither of us had any thought of giving up on our power exchange. It never even came up in a conversation.

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