I find it interesting that, from what I read, people approach a FLR from many directions. There are those, like ours, who appear vanilla to the outside word. You would have to know what to look for in order to know what is really going on. Then, there are the people who live out a 24/7 BDSM scene, complete with rituals, costumes, and males acting as servants.
It wouldn’t be possible for us to live in a BDSM scene. Our lives are well established in terms of sharing chores and caring for one another. If Mrs. Lion wants me to rub her feet, I will. Not because I consider that a submissive act; I don’t. It’s because she wants me to do it. Similarly, so much of what she does like putting me in panties, spanking me, even locking me in a chastity device, isn’t out of her personal kinks. She does those things because I asked her.
Here’s a little secret: Pretty much everything dominants do to or for a submissive originates with a request from the submissive. This pattern is inherent in the fabric of consensual activities. Also, if you examine the actual activities, it becomes clear that the origin had to be the submissive’s wish. Our longest standing practice is enforced male chastity. I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up in a chastity device. She agreed.
That agreement didn’t imply a subscription to my kinky wish to have my penis locked away from my sexual access. She wasn’t worried I was going to fuck another woman. I hadn’t done it in the preceding decade. Why any sudden concern I would start then? None, of course. She did it because I wanted it. She assumed it would make me happy. My actual motives were more complex. Many of my original posts talk about them. Over time, enforced chastity wove itself into our relationship. Both of us found value in the practice. Because of that, it’s a permanent part of our lives.
No one outside of our marriage has any idea we do this. Nor do they know that Mrs. Lion is in charge and punishes me when I break a rule or fail to obey to her satisfaction. It’s our brand of FLR/domestic discipline. It works for me. Mrs. Lion is reasonably comfortable performing as my disciplining wife. She doesn’t particularly enjoy hurting me and she doesn’t care very much about the rules she enforces.
That doesn’t mean she will lose interest and the beatings will stop. She will continue and will get better and better at her role. I know she does it right now because it is something I need. I am hoping that over time, with input from others, that she will find value in it for herself. Once she does, I’m in big trouble. Like enforced chastity, I will be her disciplined husband for the rest of my life. Pretty cool!