In 2009 we saw “Julie and Julia” a movie about a woman who decided to cook every recipe in the Julia Child cooking bible, Mastering the Art of French Cooking. She also decided to create a blog chronicling her adventures. The movie interwove the story of Julia Child’s life with Jules cooking adventures. I loved the movie. But what struck me the most was that Julie’s blog became a daily habit for her readers. They were following along and commenting on what she was doing. They were part of her life beyond the kitchen. I really like that idea. That film was my inspiration for this blog. I am extremely happy that many of our readers, like you, share our adventures every day.
Another goal of mine was to provide a woman-friendly blog that portrays our particular kinks in a way that isn’t simply porn. I believe that enforced male chastity and FLM provide some unique opportunities to enhance relationships by moving unspoken needs to the forefront of the relationship. That’s certainly been the case in our house. Ironically, creating and continuing this blog has had as much value for us as enforced chastity. We communicate with each other through the blog as much as we also share with you. The fact that both of us write daily keeps things honest. Countless misunderstandings have been nipped in the bud thanks to the back and forth here.
It may be our own failings, but Mrs. Lion and I did not have meaningful conversations about our sexual needs very often before we began enforced chastity and this blog. We were both reluctant to share any more than the most basic stuff. As a result, we rarely had any sexual contact. We never provided meaningful feedback to one another. I’m not sure why. As you can tell, I’m not exactly shy about expressing myself. But with her, I just couldn’t. I didn’t want to make her feel badly. I didn’t want to risk my relationship by demanding things she clearly doesn’t like. I was avoiding an imaginary conflict.
If you go back to our earliest posts, Mrs. Lion was unhappy that I didn’t initiate sex. She wrote that she was angry about that (not in those exact words) and decided she wasn’t going to initiate if I didn’t. Enforced chastity changed that in some respects. She informed me that if I wanted release, I needed to initiate pleasing her. I still didn’t. I wish I understand that part of me, but I still couldn’t do it. Then, we came up with the idea that on certain nights, I was expected to get things going for her. That worked. I was able to begin pleasing her without prompting. But I was just “going for the gold” and Mrs. Lion wrote that she needed more buildup. See, the blog was working! So, I added lots of kissing and fondling and general non-genital foreplay. She liked that a lot. But then she said that it was too much. She came, but really didn’t want to. She just wasn’t turned on that much.
This is when she began writing about her lack of libido. As usual, she blamed herself for making things less fun for me. She just doesn’t want sex for herself. This lack of desire for orgasm changes the enforced chastity fantasy a lot. Getting her off was removed from the table. All that is left has to do with me, my arousal and orgasms. This is not easy for me to accept. I really love giving my lioness orgasms.
Mrs. Lion, don’t take this to mean you should let me do it just to make me happy. I don’t want that.
I keep wondering if I’m just not sexually attractive to her. She says I am, but she just isn’t interested in sex. I’ve learned to accept that. I don’t like it, but I understand. When I get back to work and we have some free cash, I’m hoping Mrs. Lion will go for hormonal testing to rule out any physical issues where lack of libido is a symptom. Maybe we will find a way to do it sooner. I think it is a priority. She doesn’t. As usual, she puts me first. In the meantime I will be as much of a nag as I can be without getting punished.
In the meantime, Mrs. Lion has become an excellent keyholder. She is very effective at keeping me horny and unsatisfied. When I whine a bit, she reminds me that this is what I want. Right? I have to agree even though I want to growl. I love the fifteen minutes or so a day when she teases me. I get to be hard and feel that intense sexual buildup. She assures me that it will be “a matter of days” before I can come. I pointed out that 2050 is a matter of days away. She smiled and said, “I know.”
So here we are nearly 800 posts later. We have readers like you who follow our adventures. About one third of our readers come back every day to read our posts. The others come in via Google and other website links looking for specific information. According to our web stats, many of you also follow links from here to other blogs. I think that’s great. We have a community of sorts where you can read about others who are living with enforced chastity and FLM. Our blog has become more popular and I am delighted with that.
I am happiest with how our blog has helped my lioness and I provide feedback to one another. The commitment to daily posts keeps us talking about things. The ability to thoughtfully craft our posts has allowed us to talk about things it would be difficult to discuss face to face. You have commented about things we write and have offered us new insights that have also helped us grow. Like in the film “Julie and Julia,” our blog has taken on a life of its own. It’s a very good life that has helped us have a better sex life. Hopefully we have been of some value to you too. Thank you.