Eleven months have gone by of the worst year I can remember. Like most guys who are under orgasm control, I keep records of how many orgasms I am given. You can see the graph that shows my ejaculations over the last five years. In 2019 at the end of November, I had received 49 orgasms. This year the total-to-date is 32. This average is just under three a month. The chart shows my ejaculations by month for each of the five years I’ve been keeping track. It looks like last year and this year are the same for November. I wouldn’t be surprised if December is also equal.
This brings up a topic near and dear to the male chastity crowd: what is the right number? Over the years, I’ve read a lot of blogs, some claiming to be written by women, that try to assign a value. Since bloggers are an incestuous bunch, unsurprisingly there seems to be a consensus. Female bloggers suggest that men do best if they receive an orgasm every 7 to 14 days. This range comes from people who say they aren’t kinky. They also don’t talk about using male chastity devices.
Over the years, without following anyone’s advice, Mrs. Lion seems to have settled on a 10 to 14-day range. She varies a little, but overall that’s what I get. Last year, I ended up with 52 orgasms, averaging one per week. This year it looks like I will end up with 35 orgasms (if I’m lucky). That would give me an average wait of about 10 days. Are three dozen orgasms a year the right number?
The answer to that depends on exactly why orgasms are being controlled in the first place. I suspect the majority of men under this sort of control do it because it’s a sexy game. They like the idea that their partner is in sexual control. The women who take this job, probably have no clear idea of what to do with the power. My suggestion is that to make the game fun for all, the man has to wait long enough to really want to ejaculate. That doesn’t mean the first time he feels horny after an orgasm. It means that he is starting to fixate on the idea that he needs to come. Some people call this blue balls. No, our balls don’t get blue when we need to have sex. They also don’t get larger because of their overflow of semen.
There is an element of conditioning to this game. If the woman really takes control, which means she and she alone decides when he gets off, if the number of days is fairly regular, he will begin to adapt. That means if he has to wait a week, after a while he won’t be particularly horny until a week has gone by. He’s adapted to the game.
There are a couple of different ways you can go with this. One is to adopt a small range of wait time; perhaps between seven and 10 days. If you stick to this, he will start wanting his orgasm badly after a week and grow increasingly frustrated until he gets it. If he knows he will get it before more than 10 days go by, he probably won’t become a pest about it. In some marriages, this sort of regularity is helpful to both partners. In a way, the woman has made a contract to provide a sexual release for her partner at least every so often. For most men, this is much better than the uncertainty of a relationship where orgasms can be many weeks apart at times.
The second way some people play is to extend the amount of time he has to wait. In some cases, the man waits for more than a year between orgasms. It’s not that he doesn’t get sexual fun. His partner encourages him to give her orgasms and she teases him. It’s just that he doesn’t get to ejaculate. A variation of this is that the woman intentionally varies the timing so that he never gets conditioned. For example, she might make him ejaculate every three or four days for a while. Then, without warning extend the time to 14 days. He will get very frustrated and horny. His body has been conditioned to expect ejaculation every four days.
When he starts getting used to waiting 14 days, she goes back to a twice-a-week orgasm schedule. This keeps him off balance sexually. He never knows when he will ejaculate. Mrs. Lion has often said that she likes this kind of technique. However, I don’t think she’s ever actually tried to do it. My time-between-orgasms remains fairly constant. I don’t mind this. I’m just making an observation.
It’s true that I don’t even seem to be ready to ejaculate until at least a week has gone by. I’ve been conditioned. That doesn’t mean that Mrs. Lion can’t play the game. For example, if I came after 15 days, which is what happened Sunday, my next orgasm might be held until 22 days or, seven days.
The reason I started keeping records in the first place was that Mrs. Lion and I could never remember how much time it passed between orgasms. I figured it would just be easier to start a spreadsheet and track not only the orgasms but how I got them. I didn’t create a Grapher that. Over the last three months, or so on my orgasms have been oral. Mrs. Lion has also teased me orally that entire time. It hurts her shoulder to give me hand jobs. I am definitely not complaining.
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