The most basic male chastity question of all is: What is this all about? Like most basic questions, there are no simple answers. In my case, I would have answered this question differently six months ago when we started. In fact, I’ll bet that six months from now my answer will change yet again. So here’s what I think its all about.
It’s easier to start off by saying what I think it isn’t about. For me, at least, it is not about preventing me from humping other lionesses or masturbating. I think that’s true of nearly all caged males. We aren’t locked up to keep our penises away from unauthorized females or to prevent us from jerking off. Perhaps some keyholders get comfort from the knowledge that their males can’t get release without them. My guess is that this isn’t a priority with many.
While it may seem that way, I don’t think it is really about sex at all. It’s true that my focus on sex has increased dramatically in the last six months. It’s also true that Mrs. Lion thinks a lot more about sex as well. However, I think that is a side effect of forced male chastity, not the central purpose. That brings us to what I think it is all about. In a word, it’s surrender.
If I get down to the absolute root of my chastity experience, I see that it is all about me surrendering to Mrs. Lion. That may take a bit of explanation. First, there are almost no cases where the female partner introduces male chastity into the relationship. Virtually every caged male introduced his partner to the practice. In many cases, including mine, the female partner needed time to understand and embrace the male’s request. I’ve asked multiple times in public forums for examples where a keyholder introduced chastity into her relationship. Only one positive and one “maybe” were mentioned.
So, what does this mean? It means that males, like me, want our partners to take sexual control of us. We want to surrender sexually. When we started, I knew I wanted Mrs. Lion to take charge. The idea really turned me on. At the time I hadn’t thought through exactly what this meant. I had visions of “scenes” where I bottomed to Mrs. Lion and she would spank me, anally use me, and give me great orgasms. I didn’t think deeply about the underlying message.
Six months of 24/7 lockup has given me time to think about what is happening. I have realized that the key to my satisfaction with being caged is the fact that I can’t forget I have given all control over my sexual pleasure to Mrs. Lion. She hasn’t taken it. She probably didn’t (or doesn’t) want it. But she understands that for whatever reason, it’s something I want and need.
That’s the key. Forced male chastity isn’t about the keyholder taking control and using it for her own pleasure. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The real explanation is that the caged male wants, maybe needs, his keyholder to have control over his sexuality and, at least in my case, other areas of his life. While the fantasy might be that the keyholder takes control and then bends her male to her will, the reality is that the male asks the keyholder to take control and he wants her to unmistakably show him he has forever lost control over the use of his penis.
My big learning after six months is that this isn’t about Mrs. Lion wanting to control me. It is about my need for her to take control. That’s why I don’t need an inescapable chastity device and why I would never cheat and play with myself even if unlocked. The entire forced male chastity experience is for me at my request. No matter how cruel my keyholder may appear, everything she is doing is because I want her to take control and make me feel it.
That’s what I think this is all about.