Many of my posts are about how much I love my Lion. And when I think of this site, more often than not, I see it as a love story. Sure it’s about playing and sex and that little cage my cock is locked up in. But for me, it’s about rediscovering my husband.
I never stopped loving Lion. We had drifted very far apart. When he approached me with the chastity idea I thought it was just another one of his games. I figured we’d do it for a while until we (read that as I) got bored and that would be the end of that. But something has happened. That piece of intertwined metal has changed our lives. I’m sure this blog has had a lot to do with it, too. I know I’ve learned a few things I never knew about him. And along the way maybe we are helping people who join us here.
Locking Lion away has somehow freed him. He now seems willing to attempt initiating sex. At least some forms of sex. Before it was all about him. I would have to make the first move-unless you count the first move as wriggling closer to me and announcing he was horny-and he was the only one who got attention. Now he’s fingering me on a Sunday afternoon. Forget any progress I may have made, that’s the real progress!
Part of me wonders, if the cage came off, would things go right back to the way they were, losing everything we’ve learned? I don’t want to take a chance. This is too important.
I never stopped loving Lion, but I’m really enjoying falling in love with him all over again.
I have been thinking about your comment that you never want to end this phase of your relationship. I think that you may be on a good path but I would also ask if you really need the cage to maintain this intimacy. You already see the pressure of being a full time top/ Domme/ KH.
If you could keep the intimacy, keep the intensity, keep the passion ~for both of you~ without the cage, would you keep the cage? And how will you know without trials?
Interesting question. The first thing that popped into my head when I read it is our wedding rings. What purpose do they serve? We know we’re married, but I don’t want to take mine off. It’s a constant reminder that Lion loves me. I think the cage is similar. I can’t speak for him but I think it’s a constant reminder that I love him enough to take control of him.
My cage is like my wedding ring; it is more than a symbol though. It is an absolute reminder of my lioness’ control over me and my penis. I think it is something neither of us wants to give up. Yes, it is a sacrifice for both of us, but it brings us closer and reminds us both that I belong to her and a reminder for her that I love and trust her enough to own me.