Lion’s idea that taking orgasms from him is my kink got me thinking. Why do I want to make him come? Is it as strong a need as his need to surrender power or to be tied up? And what is a kink anyway?
Merriam-Webster defines kinky as “relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex”. By that definition anything you do is likely to be considered kinky. Oral, anal, cowgirl; anything but missionary could be labeled kinky.
Is my need to make him come as strong as his need to be tied up or tortured or any other kink he has? I don’t think so. He told me a long time ago he could give it all up if i didn’t want to do it anymore. And he did, for a while, but he was miserable and we always return to it. I don’t really have a need to make him come. So why do it?
First of all, I like to do it. It makes him feel good. Second, as I said in an earlier post, if I am going to the trouble of turning him on I should continue on to give him an orgasm. It’s a logical progression. Stopping short seems wrong, both in the sense of his wanting to come and my putting all that work into it without climax. But ultimately, for the purposes of our male chastity experiment, the reason I do it is because I can. If I want to ride him and I don’t care if he has an orgasm to accomplish my task, then he can have an orgasm. If I want him to be uncomfortable when he comes because he has a butt plug in his ass, then he’s going to have an orgasm. If he wants me to have power then he will have an orgasm when I decide he’ll have an orgasm.
If that makes it my kink then so be it.