Lion announced he was horny from over 2500 miles away. There’s not much I can do about from here. However, tomorrow I’ll be considerably closer. Right next to him as a matter of fact. I’m sure I’ll be tired but I bet I can at least make it worse for him.

Last time I went with Lion on a business trip I ran all over the place trying to see everything in a few days. I had no idea if I’d ever get a chance to sightsee there again. I missed a lot but this time I don’t feel like I’m under any time crunch. Slow and steady wins the race. I’m still very excited though.

I am envisioning many opportunities to correct Lion while we’re away. He gets excited and tends to want to run the show. He feels he has the best insight into places to see and things to do. We should go here or we should do this. Sometimes it makes sense but he forgets that I have ideas too. For example, we have a tour scheduled on Friday and dinner reservations Friday night. What’s the best way to get from point A to point B? I offered a solution. He questioned part of it. He offered a different solution. We went back and forth a bit and eventually settled on what I said originally. I’m not saying he shouldn’t offer suggestions. He just needs to tread lightly.

Unless I come up with a brilliant idea between now and then, I probably won’t have a post for tomorrow. I do have a layover but I’m not sure I’ll be up for writing a post. I suppose I could even write in the plane. But with Lion gone I have less to say. My next post will be an east coast post.

Mrs. Lion and I are on opposite coasts today. Fortunately, she is joining me i couple of days. My room has a king-sized bed. We prefer that. As she wrote yesterday, I wasn’t interested in sex. I wasn’t nervous about traveling. I just felt badly that I was on the road again. Given how much I love where I am, it was odd for me to feel so strongly. I still can’t understand why I felt so strongly, but whatever the cause, it got in the way of an erection.

I feel fine now that I am here. I’ve been thinking about our approach to FLR. It is far from the way other blogs describe. We have evolved our own approach. The first step was to recognize that “play”, which to us is essentially a BDSM scene. It has nothing to do with discipline, or for that matter, male chastity.

Our FLR extends to giving Mrs. Lion the last word on any matter she cares to decide. Otherwise, we are a loving couple that shares decisions and work. The twist is that Mrs. Lion can overrule me and make decisions whenever she wants. This allows us to build a power exchange without turning our lives inside out.

Punishment is an extension of a BDSM scene. The difference is that the objective is to hurt me enough to help me correct my behavior. There is no sexual element at all. Our go-to activity is spanking. That’s also a scene activity I like. But I am not a bit confused when I am punished. It may look a bit like BDSM, but it doesn’t feel like it.

It stands to reason that if a power exchange doesn’t force a relationship to radically change, it has a much better chance of success. I believe that is why we’re going strong now that we are in our fifth year.

Lion used to spend more time travelling for work than he did at home. That was before we met. After we met he got a job that sent him to China a few times. Other than one or two day trips since then Lion has been home. Until this job. He loves his job. He does fun things. And when he travels now he goes to a touristy area with lots of things to do. Still, he doesn’t like to travel anymore. Last night he was so down about traveling that he didn’t get his orgasm. I couldn’t get him aroused.

In a few days I’ll be joining him. He’ll work during the day and we’ll do touristy stuff in the evening. Our evenings are so jam-packed I’m not sure when we’ll have time to play, but we’ll figure it out. We’ll have a lot of fun both in and out of bed, I’m sure.

Last night Lion asked about the cage again. We both see the benefits of it. We both understand that there’s technically no need for it. Chastity continues whether or not Lion is locked up. I’ve been doing fairly well playing with and edging him. The cage has served its purpose. However, I hesitate (I think we both do) to retire it completely. For now let’s just say it will gather some dust. At some point in the future we may see a need for it. I may decide one Saturday that I want my balls and weenie locked up and on the cage will go. Lion may get all nostalgic and ask to be caged for a day or two.

I doubt there will ever be a need to stop Lion from masturbating or to remind me that I have a horny Lion who needs to be played with. We’ve progressed quite far from those days. We’ll still continue to work on communication. And we’ll still continue the blog. Lion is still chaste whether he’s locked up or not.

While it is a lot of work writing daily posts, it also provides me with unique opportunities. For one thing, I don’t have to compress events into infrequent posts. I have the ability to explore many sides of our interests through these daily exercises. I’m taking advantage of that now.

I like to read other blogs on the subjects of male chastity, sexual control, and female domination. The vast majority of what I read is written by men. A few blogs are authored, I believe, by women. Most of the readers of all of our blogs, are men. I know that many of our readers like reading Mrs. Lion’s posts because they like to read what a dominant woman has to say.

Most of what she writes isn’t about being dominant, at least in the BDSM sense. She reports on our activities and how they affect her. She sees herself as a journalist. I think of myself as a columnist. Between us, you get a good sense of what is happening in our relationship. I’m her most avid reader.

Occasionally, I read a post that amazes me with its authoritative voice and the misinformation it preaches. I recently read one such post that prescribes how long a man should wait between orgasms. It’s filled with pseudoscience to rationalize ejaculatory spacing. I’ll bet you a nickel that the only readers who actually accept this stuff are male. In fact, I’m pretty sure women don’t spend much time at all thinking about the frequency of their partner’s orgasms. Ask Mrs. Lion. She’ll tell you that it isn’t something she particularly cares about.

Men, submissive men, love to obsess about orgasm spacing. Some, who wear chastity devices, take great pride in how few orgasms they have in a year. It’s an exciting concept to them. Some, revel in the number of orgasms they give their partners while they remain dry. That’s all cool.

As long as we remember that male chastity is a male fetish, it’s easy to understand why orgasm infrequency is such an important topic. It’s even more fun to rationalize that infrequent orgasms have health benefits. That misinformation is fairly recent. Four years ago it was all about how a male will become sexually attentive only if he is stopped from ejaculating.

If a woman stays with a man who is only willing to please her when he is desperate to ejaculate, she has a poor self image. It’s true that most of us get a bit sleepy and lose interest in too much activity immediately after we ejaculate. But we all recover our energy and ambition in a short time and we are ready to please our lovers. We may not be able to ejaculate for a while and we may not be able to get erect, but our tongues and fingers work just fine.

There is no real medical evidence that ejaculation is harmful in any way. In fact, men who have 30 orgasms a month have been shown to have reduced incidence of prostate cancer. The improved odds are statistically significant, but largely not worthy of serious consideration as rationalization for daily orgasms. Similarly, there is absolutely no evidence that spacing ejaculation out over days or weeks has any medical benefit.

It all comes down to what works for each of us. Mrs. Lion has some fun edging me and making me wait. I like that she does it. I like the frustration and uncertainty I feel when she starts stimulating me. We have yet to find any particular wait that is magical. I like to wait at least three days. That’s because after three days, the orgasms tend to feel better to me. I never complain if they come more or less often. I wasn’t any crazier after I waited three weeks than after one week.

We had fun playing with the extended wait. But we also have a lot of fun when I am allowed to ejaculate. Mrs. Lion decides. That’s because I want her to. I like when she is in control. There’s no science involved. It’s just what we do.