Signals
I am very happy to report that I was able to give Mrs. Lion some nice orgasms Tuesday night. She seemed more affectionate as we lay naked in bed, so I reached over and began playing with her nipples. She told me not to pinch them, so being a naughty lion, I pinched. She responded instantly and her nipples stood up straight. She continued arguing that it wasn’t the pinch. So I tried again on the other side with the same result. It was big fun. Since she was receptive, I kept stimulating her and she had a great time. I remained safely locked in my cage. All of the attention went to Mrs. Lion, even after her orgasm. I liked that. She accepted pleasure without reciprocation.
After reading her post on Tuesday, it became clear to me that I don’t read Mrs. Lion’s signals when she would like sexual attention. Some may say that as my keyholder, Mrs. Lion should simply demand the exact pleasure she would like. Not everyone is built that way. Mrs. Lion just can’t demand attention; at least not at this time.
She isn’t alone. I have always been uncomfortable asking for sex. So, over the years we developed a “lion wants sex” signal. I would scooch over in bed to be closer to Mrs. Lion. She understood that I was horny. According to her post, Mrs. Lion rolled over and was affectionate as her signal the other night. I just didn’t catch the meaning.
The more I think about these signals, the less I like them. Essentially we are saying that whenever we display spontaneous affection in bed, it means that we want sex. If we continue with this method of sexual communication, we will keep a distance between us unless one of us wants an orgasm. This is one of those situations where the signal makes sense, but it also restricts plain ol’ affection.
So, what do we do? Mrs. Lion doesn’t want me approaching her daily to give her an orgasm, but also can’t directly tell me she wants me to please her. As her caged lion, I want to provide her with pleasure absolutely any time she wants it. Ideally, the signal should be unmistakable since I am a dense lion. It should also be something that isn’t part of our affectionate behavior, like rolling over for a kiss.
I think Mrs. Lion has to work this out. The most important thing is that whatever she chooses as her signal is comfortable for her to do. It can be anything she wants. What do you think, my lioness?
I’m Back
Poor Lion thinks he’s at fault for my feeling lost when it comes to playing. I don’t think it’s his fault at all. I don’t think it has anything to do with my just doing it because he wants me to do it. I don’t think it has anything to do with my not getting anything out of it. Up until yesterday I had no idea what the problem was. But the more I thought about it, the more I think it has something to do with work.
Back in April we merged with another office and things went downhill. At the end of June it got worse. Almost every day I feel like I am banging my head against the wall. Most of us are unhappy and looking for different jobs. On top of the stress of working with coworkers who don’t seem to care anymore, I now have the stress of looking for a new job. I hate looking for a new job. Unfortunately, I’m sure I’ve been taking this stress home with me. It has nothing to do with Lion and everything to do with stupid work conditions.
Starting today, on the way home, I am dropping off my stress at the end of my exit ramp off the highway. He can camp out for the night in the woods. I’m sure he’ll be waiting for me there in the morning. Or maybe he’ll hitchhike with someone else. Sorry, unsuspecting commuter behind me. I’m going to do my best not to let him in our house anymore.
I will still adhere to Lion’s anal training and his six day wait. I want to do whatever I can to keep my focus. However, I’ll probably amend it to a five day wait given the fact that our anniversary is Friday. I can’t have an arbitrary wait time affect our celebrations. And maybe with the stress kicked out of the house, my libido will feel more welcome. Last night, Lion gave me some very large orgasms. Maybe I’m coming out of my doldrums already. I hope so. There’s nothing I want more than to make Lion happy.
Second Thoughts
Mrs. Lion has been struggling with staying interested in playing with me. She has been writing about this lately. I have been feeling this loss of interest for a while now. It makes me want to be uncaged, not because I am upset with Mrs. Lion, but more because I am feeling that I am putting pressure on Mrs. Lion and making her life more difficult. This bothers me a lot. I feel selfish.
The giant rationalization that I hear over and over is that the caged male is really doing a favor for the keyholder. She is supposed to get sexual and household benefits as her side of locking up the male. In our case, that just isn’t true. Mrs. Lion says she doesn’t want more sexual attention and isn’t inclined to be a domestic taskmistress. I’ve just become another chore for her to do.
I think there is a good reason why she quickly loses interest in play activities. It’s because there is nothing in them for her. I suspect that this is the situation with many keyholders; they can’t find anything to hold their interest. While we males can sometimes find our penises endlessly fascinating, the female of the species just doesn’t share our enthusiasm. If a keyholder is a very sexual woman, then she can get a great deal more sexual attention from a caged male. In those fairly rare cases, forced male chastity is a win/win.
I’m not surprised that Mrs. Lion has trouble staying focused on our chastity activities. I am grateful and impressed that she works so hard to keep going. She sets herself goals as a way of maintaining interest. On one level I really love this. On a deeper level I just feel guilty that my desire for sexual control is becoming so much work.
This isn’t the sort of thing you might expect to find on a male chastity blog, but I suspect that I am not unique. For me, at least, the big question is what to do about this? Do I try to find ways to make playing with me more interesting for Mrs. Lion? Do I wait and hope she will learn to enjoy our play? Or, do I suck it up and just call it quits? I don’t want to feel guilty about this. I don’t want Mrs. Lion to feel she isn’t doing a good job and she is disappointing me.
We made a commitment to continue until March 2016. I have no doubt that Mrs. Lion will do this and even go beyond if I want her to. Would I be selfish to do this? There are really two questions all of this implies: If we stop, will we go back to an essentially sexless marriage and will we drift apart? If we continue, will our efforts to support force male chastity bring us closer together or push us apart? What is the real value of this practice to our relationship?
Our ninth anniversary is on Friday. We have been together 12 years in all. I love Mrs. Lion more now than I did all those years ago. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. None of my questions relate to whether or not we will stay together. We will no matter what. The question on the table right now is whether we will spend them with my cock in a cage or not? The bigger question is how will we improve our intimacy and sex life between now and our next anniversary? Will male chastity do the trick, or do we need to try something else?
Oreo’s 1 Mrs Lion 0
Last night I had a wild Lion who said he liked being wild and wouldn’t mind being wild from now on. Was this a trick? Was it a test? I don’t know. But I started toying with the idea of a weenie vacation. If it was scheduled and done because I wanted to give him some time off, then would it be ok for Lion to roam free? I don’t see any difference between giving him a day off and giving him a few days off. And if I said he had four days off wouldn’t it be similar to telling him he had to wait four days for an orgasm? Similar in that he’d have four days of unrestricted sitting (no pinching) and peeing standing up (no need to worry if he’s centered or might spray all over the place), but there’s an end date looming in the distance. On the one hand he’d be looking forward to a date and on the other hand not so much looking forward to a date. And, let me be clear, he will have a date to be recaged. Maybe he can earn his wild days. I’ll have to give this more thought.
Also last night, I was a little frisky. I knew I was competing with the television again, but sometimes Lion can’t take a hint. In his defense, I didn’t actually say I wanted his attention. In my defense, I was all over him. Also in my defense, it’s sometimes difficult for me to ask for attention especially since my libido has been in the crapper. I don’t want to spook it and make it go into hiding again. So when Lion went for the Oreo’s I knew it was game over. This has been an ongoing issue for us and obviously we haven’t solved it.
His idea to try every night was too much pressure for me and ultimately a lot of rejection for him. Unlike him, I’m pretty sure that when I initiate he’ll be horny. There have only been a few times when he’s turned me down. And when I say he’s turned me down it wasn’t actually me he was turning down. By that I mean, he was the one on the receiving end and he wasn’t horny. Not that I was horny and he turned me down.
So along with my goal of waking up my libido, I have to figure out how to tell Lion that it might be waking up somewhat. Sometimes I tell him that I feel it during the day. But by the time we get home, and dinner and dishes are done, and we get settled in, it’s gone. I guess we have to make it more of a priority. Sex before dinner. Sex as soon as he walks in the door. Well, that doesn’t seem plausible. But we certainly need to figure it out. Maybe I should have instituted the “When Lion is turned on the tv is turned off” rule on my own behalf. Turning the tv off will certainly get his attention.
