To Play Or Not To Play
I’m in a much more positive mood now. Yesterday, I had a very promising interview with my favorite company. Of course, that doesn’t mean I will land the work, but it is encouraging. Opportunities for people with my particular skills seem to be more plentiful. It makes things much easier for me when there is, at least, hope. It will be tough going for a while even with a job since we are far behind with our bills.
Financial issues aside, I am surprised Mrs. Lion is on the road to us playing the game. As she grows more interested in it, I find myself wondering if it won’t complicate our enforced chastity/FLM lifestyle. Even if we do play the game, Mrs. Lion is free to give and withhold orgasms regardless of my score. The reason I have been questioning it is that I wonder if playing it will stimulate Mrs. Lion to give me more opportunities to earn points, or will it just be a counter for things we do anyway? One of the key benefits the game has, as played by Snake and his Charmer, is that she has additional opportunities to create challenges for him. Each challenge carries a reward for success and a penalty for failure. She enjoys giving Snake this fun sort of stress. Mrs. Lion has never expressed any interest in such stuff.
I don’t think we would gain anything if all we track are days I am locked up, whether or not I squirm when spanked, and if I am edged successfully. This is what our draft scorecard looks like now. I’m sure that it will change before we actually start. If we do, I figure I can back-calculate the points from my last orgasm on May 30. I will probably do that so we can both get some idea of how the scoring might work. We can also discuss whether we want that score to prevent Mrs. Lion from giving me an orgasm until it is high enough. Since my lioness is not fond of calculations (even if I do them) or planned events, I’m not sure how this will play out. As of now she has said she wants to do it. So we will.
We’re off with our giant camper for a few days away in the hot sun. Mrs. Lion has packed a travel bag with toys she can use to torment me. Last year we decided I would be unlocked while we “camp” (Ha!). The reason for this is that the RV toilet is built differently from standard home models. RV toilets have a gently sloping front wall. This gentle slope turns into a ball-rest for me when caged, so I end up giving myself a ball wash each time I pee. Standing to pee solves that problem. There’s nothing like a 4 AM ball bath to wake a lion up and turn a simple biological function into an early morning project. Generally, away from home it is simple for me to take care of that bodily function. Urinals have side walls that deflect any errant streams if my penis isn’t perfectly centered in its cage. Aren’t you glad I shared that with you?
Tonight is punishment night. As of Wednesday night I have no offenses to punish. Friday night is maintenance spanking night. We will be in our camper then. It will be our first travel spanking of the season. Should we get a cake? We have to install our under-mattress restraints. We needed repairs last fall that required the bed to be taken out. So, the restraints were put safely away. There’s something about away-from-home bondage that feels different and naughty. The weather this weekend is expected to be in the mid-to-high nineties. I’m looking forward to the heat. Our “camper” is, of coursed, centrally air conditioned. Spoilt Lions.
It’s amazing how hope can change the color of life. Even though nothing has really changed, the renewed hope of employment has lifted a heavy weight from my heart. I’m really looking forward to our trip and the fun inside our trailer.
Fun and Games
Lion has our game pretty much mapped out. We may play around with the points, but it’s worth a shot. We’ll tweak it as we go along. Now the question is, when do we start? Or have we already? I don’t know if he has a spreadsheet yet. He might have been counting since Monday. The only thing I said about it was that I wouldn’t count his not being horny against him until he gets a job and we get the bills under control. I figure if he’s stressed the last thing he needs is to lose ground in the game because he’s not in the mood.
When I moved to unlock him last night he told me I didn’t have to play if I didn’t want to. Well, of course I don’t. But I didn’t not want to play. I asked him for the Lion weather report and he was partly horny so we continued. I never decide how many times I’ll edge him on any given night. If he seems very horny I just continue until I think he’s about to break. Sometimes I’ve taken him past that point. Last night I took him a little too far on the first try. He had a baby ruined orgasm. Damn. Not what I was going for at all. I did get a yummy reward for it, but I would have liked to keep edging him.
I’d been thinking about his next scheduled date, trying to decide if it was too close to his last orgasm. Plus if the game is starting, does that change things? Do I want to give him a scheduled orgasm before he earns the bonus? Or should we wait till the scheduled one before starting the game? I have no idea what the rules are. How do the bonus orgasms affect his scheduled orgasms? No wonder I pushed him too far. I need to keep my mind on the task at hand next time.
We head out for our first camping trip this weekend. I made sure I packed my bag of tricks so we can still play. I have plenty of whomping sticks and Velcro. I just need to make sure I being Lion’s key along so he’s not trapped in his cage. He’d be very unhappy with that. We’re still on the edging every night plan so he’d miss three days. Poor boy. I will make a real effort to bring it. It’ll be good to try out our new mattress with some play time.
[Lion — I always have my emergency key!]
Enforced Chastity a-la-cart
If you spend much time searching and reading about enforced chastity you have probably read that in addition to a chastity device all sorts of other things are “required”. Do you really have to wear women’s panties? Do you have to shave off your pubic hair? Do you really have to call your keyholder “mistress”? Do you always have to capitalize any pronouns that refer to your keyholder? If you read some sites on the Internet you can certainly get that idea.
Let’s face it, enforced chastity is a kink. It is an unusual sexual practice. It’s one of an almost-infinite range of kinks that humans invent for themselves. Most kinks are directly or indirectly related to sex. Enforced chastity is one of the most directly connected to it. At the core of many kinks is power exchange. One person gives power to another. But it goes deeper than that. Many people want to do more than just submit; they want to feel their submission all the time. Feeling that way is arousing.
The term “kink” is quite general. It refers to unusual sexual practices and fetishes. A fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. Most people have fetishes to some degree. A “breast man” or an “ass man,” for example, is sexually aroused by the sight of those body parts. Most guys have one or both of those fetishes. Wearing a chastity device can be considered a fetish. Ironically, in this case the fetish is a device that prevents sexual gratification. We are perverse critters, aren’t we?
Most people have sexual fantasies and dreams. Some of these repeat and are remembered. I have had fantasies of being tied up and spanked on my bare ass since I was a little kid. Those fantasies can make me hard. Others fantasize about wearing panties and bras. The variations are endless. My fantasies are about surrendering power. Allowing myself to be spanked is a submissive act. Wearing panties is humiliating. For that matter, so is spanking. That humiliation is arousing. What does that have to do with enforced chastity? Absolutely nothing!
That’s the point. Those are completely different kinks. But they often come up along with enforced chastity along with a lot of others. That doesn’t mean you need to adopt spanking, for example, in order to have enforced chastity. The reason that so many people combine fetishes and enforced chastity is pretty simple. Enforced chastity is rather advanced. How many boys fantasized about having their penises locked up? Not many, I would imagine. In fact, adults that end up practicing enforced chastity generally come upon it later in life. The vast majority of people who have this kink are over 4o years old. Chances are good that these people discovered other kinks prior to finding this one.
So, if prior to discovering enforced chastity, you also had fantasies involving other power exchanges or humiliation, chances are very good that you will imagine chastity scenarios that include those other fantasies. Since my fantasies include spanking, nudity, and other BDSM activities, it’s natural that I would want to weave them into my enforced chastity experience. Based on reading chastity forums, many guys can’t separate their interest in enforced chastity from their other fantasies. So, they create a set of “rules” that are required if you are to have this kink. That’s where the dogmatic insistence on panties or shaved pubes come from. The people building these lists believe that those fetishes are required as well as a chastity device.
There is no reason why you can’t wear a chastity device and limit the power exchange to orgasm control alone. Based on my reading (I haven’t been lucky enough to find a face-t0-face group practicing enforced chastity), many guys start out with orgasm control alone. Some never do anything else. They are satisfied with enforced chastity. Most, though, will add other kinks and fetishes over time. It can take years, but it seems to happen. My theory is that success at experiencing enforced chastity eventually emboldens them to dip their toes into other fantasies.
It isn’t surprising that this happens. Bringing that first fantasy to life requires a lot of courage. Will my wife laugh at me when I ask her to lock me up? Will my device be discovered by strangers or people at work? What will my family think if they find out? The fears are endless. But if those fears are overcome and the enforced chastity works, the courage to try other fantasies is much easier to muster. After all, success breeds more success. And success also wants to share with the world. So, one way to do this is by posting to chastity forums.
A big drawback of the Internet is that many people use forums and blogs to “try on” fantasies. It’s easier to write posts that express fantasies as though they are real than it is to actually bring them to life. People respond to these posts with praise and acceptance. The poster becomes important in his little world. Since its inception, the Internet has been a place to share fantasies as fact. But if you are looking for reality because you actually want to bring the fantasy to life, it can be difficult to separate the people who really live it from the ones who like to write their fantasies online.
When it comes to enforced chastity, there are no “rules” that you must follow if you are to practice this kink. By definition, enforced chastity includes a chastity device that inhibits your ability to get hard and ejaculate. It doesn’t have t be inescapable. It just has to “feel” that way. How often you wait between orgasms is part of the negotiation between you and your keyholder. There is no minimum or maximum. That’s it. Lock a chastity device on your penis and you are practicing enforced chastity, what else you want to include is up to you.
The Square Root of an Orange
Our discussion about our new game seems to have picked up speed and, to my thinking, gone off the rails. I admit, I hadn’t given it a tremendous amount of thought, but I was trying to keep it simple. Lion reaches 50 points by doing these tasks and he gets an orgasm. Done. Yesterday I gave Lion some more ideas for earning points and he ran with it. Really. He was off like a shot. When I got home he had an elaborate chart made. A rolling period of time with points dropping off and points being added. I don’t quite have my head wrapped around it yet.
Last night, as we were talking, I wondered if, instead of having points drop off (or in addition too, what do I know?) we could have a goal that would guarantee him an orgasm. If 50 points gives me the option, then maybe 75 would be the guarantee. Just a little twist on things. I still have to give him a larger list of ways to earn points and maybe adjust the point values. And I don’t have a full list of what would lose him points. We’re really in the beginning stages and I don’t even understand how it’s supposed to work.
Lion has set about figuring out the cosine of the tangent so he can multiply by the square root of an orange. I think maybe I’ll let him figure the whole thing out since I’ve never been very good at figuring out the square root of an orange. When he’s done with his whole presentation of 8 x 10 colored glossy photographs with circles and arrows and a paragraph on the back, then I’ll consider it and make any changes needed. Somehow we’ll figure it all out. It may not look like any game either of us imagined, but it will be something we can live with and that’s all that really matters.
I made the mistake of including orgasms for me as part of the potential points to be earned. Now he’ll be trying to get me to want sex even more than he already does. He wants to get points for each orgasm, rather than my just having orgasms. I think I’ll counter that proposal with a certain number of points for the first one and lesser points for subsequent. I don’t want to encourage him to go for all of his points in one session on me. Maybe 5 points for the initial orgasm, three for the next two and one for each after that. And maybe cap it at a 10 point limit.
I think this will definitely be an evolving game. I’m sure we won’t get it right the first time. We’ll forget to include something or that one idea didn’t quite work. I do know that it won’t be the simple little 50 point game I halfway imagined.
