More Than Baby Steps
There were more than fireworks here on July fourth. We sat on a grassy knoll and watched a surprisingly good fireworks display over the lake here. It rivaled the rather pathetic displays at home. After the fireworks, we returned to our trailer. Then the real fireworks began. Mrs. Lion said she had special plans. First, she announced that since she moved punishment night from Thursday to Friday, then logically, Saturday would be maintenance spanking day. She also reminded me that I wrote that maintenance spankings should be at the same intensity as punishments, the better to make her more comfortable administering strict punishments. So she did. Well, not quite as hard as punishment swats, but she used her heavy wooden spoon with the non-slip sandpaper coating. It really stung. She wasn’t done then. Next, she bit my butt hard enough to get an “ouch” from me. The next morning I didn’t feel the bites or spanking. I guess next time will be even more energetic.
She had me roll over and then gave me great oral sex, pausing frequently when I got close. Finally, as promised, she took me all the way. It was amazing! Next came her surprise. She rolled over onto her back and told me to give her an orgasm or three. Once more she reminded me that I wrote about this as a good way to train males to not associate their arousal with giving orgasms. Having just ejaculated, I wasn’t at all aroused while pleasing her. I still had a great time. I don’t need to be turned on to love giving her orgasms. This is also something of a record. She went from early February until June 28 without coming. Now, only six days later she wanted another orgasm. I hope this is a sign that she is more interested in sex. She seemed a bit “damp” when I started. Perhaps getting me off turns her on a little. I would love that.
This is the longest we have had a break in over a year. It certainly feels very good to escape the pressure we are under at home. Of course nothing is actually better, but we can allow ourselves to forget for a few days. There are two large wild fires burning within fifty miles of here. One of them had just started when we were driving by on one of our adventures. It was the first time I saw a giant pine tree catch fire from top to bottom in a couple of seconds. After we went shopping, on our way home, we stopped and watched helicopters scoop up giant buckets of water from a lake and then drop the water on the fire. It was frightening and fascinating. Our route home takes us right past one of them. We hope that the road will not be closed and force us to detour over a hundred miles.
Mrs. Lion has been making more decisions. They are the daily sort that I frequently make, like what to have for dinner or breakfast. I’m doing my best to ask before doing things. This may seem like small stuff to many, but for us it is a sea change. This trip helps us with it. We are away from home and our habits there. In this more neutral setting it is easier for me to establish new patterns. There is certainly progress.
One area we have discussed but not yet advanced is discipline as needed. Corrections are now based on a rather small set of behavioral rules. Mrs. Lion is getting more consistent enforcing them. A while ago she mentioned that she wanted to respond more at the time of the infraction. That’s logistically much more difficult. But as I think about it, it makes sense in that it will focus us both on the FLM when it is most needed. How this is done when we are at, say, a supermarket is unclear to me. It may require different punishments that don’t require my bare bottom, or a delay until we have privacy. In any case, I am doing my best to avoid forcing her to punish me. I know it is very difficult for her. Maybe the next step is spanking at home at the time of infraction. If I do something in pubic, we can discuss it and she can correct me later. FLM is much harder for me than enforced chastity.
Fireworks
We had a nice day yesterday; very uneventful. I like that. After we drove to town to schedule our posts, we took the dog to the lake so she could cool off. She loves wading. Then we came back to the camper to relax. We knew there were fireworks scheduled but around here we never get our hopes up. It was actually very nice.
I promised Lion some fireworks of his own last night. He had no idea what I had in mind except an orgasm for him. I started out with some Velcro. He hates those little teeth. When I was done torturing him with the Velcro I decided that he needed his maintenance swats I hadn’t given him since I deferred his punishment swats. He started to protest but wisely thought better of it. I whomped him quite a few times. As soon as I was done he rolled over even though I hadn’t told him to. I asked him where he thought he was going. He apologized and rolled back over. He needed another round of butt chomping. He thought his buns were sore from two nights of whomping. This time I chomped very hard. I’m sure he felt it for quite a while.
As I was giving him oral attention, I asked if he wanted to know what his fireworks were going to be. He did. After his orgasm he was going to give me orgasms. A few weeks ago he wrote a post about men not wanting to reciprocate after their own orgasm. Clearly Lion does not have this problem. He was happy to give me multiple orgasms after his. However, he said he hoped his fireworks involved Lion riding. Well we were testing his theory this time around. There’s always next time for Lion riding. It’s not like he’ll be waiting very long.
I like having Lion wild for these trips. Yesterday he was sitting in a chair and I got a wonderful view. I couldn’t help but do a little fondling. I’m sure he liked it too. [Lion – I loved it!] I couldn’t have done that with the cage on. Sometimes I make very good decisions.
Punishment At The Campground
Here we are in the middle of nowhere. We are so far from civilization that there is no cell phone service. Can you imagine that? Lioness and I are writing our posts on our laptops in our trailer, then we drive into town (about 12 miles away) and find some cell service and upload our posts. As a result, I can’t give you the latest news. Mrs. Lion’s post will fill you in on Saturday’s festivities.
Friday night was our postponed punishment night. Mrs. Lion travels with a toy bag that contains some seriously painful implements. Last night she used a very heavy wooden spoon. The back of the bowl is covered with “traction tape”. That’s the extremely course sandpaper used to prevent slips on stairs and walkways. It is truly non-slip. That means when she lands a swat, the spoon doesn’t slip at all. 100% of the force goes to the spot she hits. I swear I could feel every grain of coarse sandpaper.
I was being punished for interrupting Mrs. Lion last week. She really hates that and when she catches it, I suffer. So my butt was stinging Friday night. Right after the spanking she had me roll over for some teasing. It took a bit to get my motor running, but she knows exactly how to jump start me. She edged me a couple of times and called it a night. It’s been several days since she’s edged me. Friday was my seventh day of waiting. When she was done, she smiled and said she had some fireworks planned for me on the Fourth of July. That’s today (I’m writing this in advance so I have time to go to town and upload it.) Knowing her, I’m pretty sure my butt will be sore again. I wonder if she will give me an orgasm tonight or just play and leave me high and dry.
Mrs. Lion has been making some decisions. Friday, she asked me to do the driving when we went off on an excursion. That’s very new. She decided what we would have for desert last night. She also asked me to go into the bedroom when she was ready to punish me. Mrs. Lion doesn’t (at least so far) “tell” me to do things. She asks. Of course I agree. I wonder what would happen if I said no. Would my bottom be reminded that I can’t say that? I hope so. This stuff may seem very lightweight to you. But it isn’t for us. Bear in mind that until now I have made all the decisions: big and small. Now she is asserting herself. I have no doubt that these baby steps will soon be followed by a much more assertive lioness who will deal with any insubordination with a very red, sore lion butt.
I really try to encourage her decisiveness. I worry that even light pushback from me will stop her progress. I’m not confident that she has enough comfort with being assertive and with spanking me for punishment that she would survive any lion paw dragging. The problem as I see it, is that if I test her, I will just discourage her and she will retreat. If, at some point, I don’t resist and face the consequences, I will never truly believe that I’m not letting her make decisions. I’m also not sure that she believes that she is making the decisions, not that I’m just letting her.
This is one of the difficult transitions we have to make into FLM. We both have to believe that she is really in charge. I have learned that breaking a rule is no fun for me at all. I don’t like the spankings. So far they are mercifully short. But they send a message. I think the next step is to send a much stronger, hurt-the-next-day message. That will be really hard for me to take. But then that’s the idea, isn’t it?
In terms of Mrs. Lion making decisions, at the same time she is upping the punishment anti for rule breaking, she can continue deciding and asking me as she is now. I think she will slowly gain comfort making bigger decisions and eventually stop asking and start telling. My job is difficult too. I have to accept and thank her for much stronger spankings. She has to remember that it is what I want, though not necessarily at the time she is spanking me. I have to remember to thank her and let her know that I want her to hurt me this way. I have to make it easier for her to become stricter. It’s worth some seriously painful spankings to help her feel her power. If Friday night she hit me two or three times as many times, I would have gotten a much stronger message. I have to learn to lie there and take it and I need the reminder the next day that I displeased her. I also think her “maintenance” spankings have to be a lot more like, if not identical to, punishment spankings. The idea is to desensitize her to my discomfort and for me to learn to hold still or else. I will regret writing this, but I think we need to move to the next level.
What are your experiences with discipline and transferring control to the female partner? I’d appreciate it if you could offer a comment with your insights into how we can grow our FLM and domestic discipline Thank you.
4th of Ju-lions
Yesterday was a banner day for me. It felt like I made a ton of decisions. And Lion seemed to ask for permission to do things rather than assume we would do things he wanted. I told him early in the day that I didn’t feel like driving. He was leaning toward exploring. I said I was fine with it as long as he drove. He’s not used to driving my truck unless it’s pulling the trailer. To my surprise he agreed to drive.
There’s a road near here he loves to go on. He said it’s not as much fun when he drives. He’d rather be able to see the scenery. Hey, me too! Along the way we saw our second wildfire in two days. This time we actually saw the flames. It’s very powerful to watch an entire tree go up in flames in an instant. We stopped to watch a helicopter collect some water to dump on the flames.There was also a plane grabbing water from a nearby lake. I really hope they get it under control soon. The wildfire we saw Thursday has destroyed at least 1000 acres.
Lion is constantly on the lookout for decent pizza. Yesterday he saw a huge sign for a pizza shop and asked if we could try it last night. As we were eating it he said we should try it again before we leave. I reminded him that one of the reasons we could afford the trip was because we were supposed to be eating in just like we would have at home. So far we had only eaten lunch in. He reluctantly agreed. Today we will be eating at the campsite.
Last night was deferred punishment night. I whomped Lion with a mean wooden spoon. I haven’t edged him in quite a few nights. We were busy getting ready for the trip and then Thursday was shot. I finally felt like playing with him. He, of course, obliged. He’s been a horny boy. I told Lion tonight he would have his own fireworks. Oops! I just checked my schedule. He’s not due for an orgasm until next weekend. Too bad. I have plans for him tonight. That’s one of the best parts about being in charge. I can do what I want.So tonight he will have an orgasm and that’s all the beans I’m spilling right now. He’ll find out soon enough.
I also decided what dessert we had last night and what we had for breakfast this morning. Perhaps not a big deal, but since I don’t like to make decisions, every little one helps. Especially since I completely shut down the other day. Lion is also trying his best to defer to me. It’s not easy for either of us, but we’ll get there. Together.
