The earliest reading I did about forced male chastity featured docile obedient males instantly tamed by virtue of a device being locked on their genitals. If these guys were submissive to start, maybe I could buy the instant docility. Even now after months of being caged, I don’t find myself inclined to be docile. Reading forums devoted to male chastity and heavily screened to keep fiction out, I find very little along these lines either. In fact, the idea of male control (obedience, etc.) doesn’t frequently appear in the same context as forced chastity. I think it is easy to make the assumption that if a male allows his keyholder to take absolute control over his ability to enjoy orgasm or erection, then it follows that he will do anything to induce her to let him get off. In practice, for me at least, that isn’t the case.
This may be due to the fact that Mrs. Lion doesn’t make me wait very long between orgasms. She never uses the threat of extending my orgasm-free lockup for failing to obey her. It’s true that I have very little to do in terms of obedience. If I avoid dropping food (not easy for me), don’t get grumpy with waitstaff and clerks, and wait for permission to eat, I am obeying my keyholder. Failure to do either results in a shock if I have my leash on, or a small paddling later if I don’t. Neither has anything to do with my caging. I’ve always helped around the house, inside and out, and I cook frequently. So domestic duties don’t seem to be an area that needs exploring.
In my reading, I see that most of the writing by caged males is about living with the hardware. Some talk about length of being locked up. Is this the new “mine is longer than yours” discussion for caged males? Both caged males and keyholders write about tease and denial, ruined orgasms, masturbating and orally pleasing keyholders, and accidental male orgasms. Very little is written about obedience, punishment, or chores.
My conclusion is that ironically, forced male chastity is about sex; odd for something that prevents sex from happening. In most cases it is also about other things. For many it includes top and bottom play where the keyholder does classic BDSM topping of her caged male. This includes bondage, spanking, anal play, as well as many of the other forms of top/bottom play. As far as I can tell, it is independent of the forced chastity. You could argue that forced male chastity is a form of bondage. Strictly speaking that’s correct. Mrs. Lion and I have done top and bottom play for many years. The frequency of this play dropped off to almost nothing in the last six or seven years. So did most sexual activity, particularly for Mrs. Lion.
When I asked her to be my keyholder and she agreed, changes started happening. One of the first things I did after being locked up was to begin this blog. Mrs. Lion read it. More recently, she has become a regular contributor. It’s fair to say that the blog and my forced chastity began at about the same time. This combination has over the last few months, improved our communication, Mrs. Lion’s libido, my efforts to give her orgasm, and our interest in top/bottom play. It could be this blog; the fact that we are communicating through our writing. I am sure this is a valuable part of it. But I think that my cage is a bigger part. Both of us know that I am sexually dependent on Mrs. Lion. We both understand that she has to do something before I can even get an erection.
This knowledge motivates me to give her reasons to think about my sexual needs. These needs could range from wanting an orgasm to wanting to be forced to wait longer. Because her pleasure is also increasing, she has reason to consider resuming our top/bottom fun. I find it very hot to know that I have no control over my next boner or when I will be able to actually ejaculate. Wearing my electronic leash and knowing that even at a distance, Mrs. Lion can give me a forceful message under my balls. I also like the idea (as yet untested) that I will have to wait longer for an orgasm and perhaps will be made to wait even longer if naughty. As you might have guessed, a good part of the excitement of being a bottom for me is that I will be disciplined. I wrote about this in the past.
I can’t honestly say that we couldn’t do all the things that turn me on without my being caged. But I am sure that the fact I am locked up keeps our attention more focused on sexual fun. I know that for me it is impossible to forget that no matter what my mood, I can’t even get hard without Mrs. Lion letting me. That’s seriously sexy!
The other day I was surfing the web, looking at dildos. I’m not sure what I was looking for. Something for Lion to use on me. Something for me to use on Lion. I figured if I saw it I would know it. And then, as one of the “you might also be interested in this” items, there was Clone A Willy. At first I thought it was ridiculous. Why would anyone want that?
I sent the link to Lion and, of course, he already knew about it. I told him I thought it was funny. He asked if I wanted one. By the time I responded to him that I didn’t he had already ordered it. I forget that I have to be careful around Lion. If I show him or tell him something, he assumes it means I want it. As he said in yesterday’s post, it’s his mission to make sure I get what I want.
So I didn’t really want this Clone A Willy thing, but I started thinking about it. What is more perfect than doing ass play on Lion with his own penis? He could literally now go screw himself. And what about me? I want Lion to use dildos on me eventually. Why not his own likeness? And my fantasy about having sex with two guys? Well, now they could both be Lion. It’s a win-win situation!
We have no idea if this will actually work but Lion is willing to give it a try. If we do wind up with a true to life copy of my favorite toy, we don’t know how long it will be before it degrades. This is do-it-yourself stuff here. The quality will no doubt be less than mass produced dildos. We will report back with our findings.
One of the key questions I have had to answer is, “How explicit should photos be on our blog?” When we started out, one of our main goals is to make this site friendly for both men and women, many of whom have never considered any sexual play. To make the site friendly, we avoided obvious penis pictures. However, as our conversation moves into specific activities, it’s clear to me that we need to show nudity and play. As you may have noticed, most of our images are black and white. This takes some of the “porn” feel out of these images.
We appear to have been successful. However, yesterday to illustrate Mrs. Lion’s post about playing in my sling, we added a very sexual image of me in my sling. Was that a mistake? Did we turn off some of our readers? Did we help our readers better understand what we are communicating? I don’t mind being the “model” for some of these images. What Mrs. Lion and I write is far more intimate than pictures of my butt or penis.
What matters most is that we share with you and how you feel about the material. Mrs. Lion appears to have a growing interest in topping more. She knows I want to bottom to her. I would like to share what we do with you. How do you feel about the sling image we posted yesterday (I put it into this post too for your reference)? If you are one of our female readers, would seeing imaged like this, or the ones on this page bother you? Would it help you better understand what we are saying? Would you be offended or turned of? Do black-and-white images make sexual topics more palatable?
Please let us know how you feel. Leave a comment and share your feelings about explicit images. Your feedback is very important to us.
We had Chinese food and one of us got a fortune that said we’d have fun this weekend. Lion’s mind went straight to sex as it often does. Mine did too. I bet he was thinking, “Woo Hoo! I’ll get spanked or flogged or something great!” I was thinking, “Now I have to figure out what to do to him.” The thing is, I already had an idea.
For weeks I’ve been telling him we’ll use his sling. It’s probably the best of all worlds. His hands and feet are bound. I can reach everything. If I want to spank him his butt is front and center. I have easy access to his ass for dildos. His balls are begging for attention. I can lick him or suck him. It’s like an amusement park for a top! The hardest part is getting him in and out of it.
Now I’m back to my original dilemma. What do I do with him once he’s helpless? With a cabinet full of toys and torture devices I shouldn’t have too much trouble coming up with something. I might even throw in a blindfold to change things up. It all depends on how creative I’m feeling.
I’m sure Lion will have some suggestions. I don’t mind. Sometimes he gets what he asks for and sometimes he gets a little more than he bargained for.
[I think Mrs. Lion has excellent ideas for sling activities. In the past she did extensive anal play. It’s been a long time since I have had much exercise there, but I am sure I can get back into condition again for her – Lion]