Sweet Spot
I found Lion’s sore spot. A few days ago he said I knew just where to hit him for the biggest effect. I didn’t. But I do now. He said it seemed like I zeroed in on it. I didn’t. And I’m not sure I will now. It’s hard to miss. It’s pretty much the sweet spot of his left cheek. I can’t exactly avoid it. I don’t know if he’s always been more sensitive there or if it’s a new development. Maybe it’s worse now because I’ve been hitting harder. The only way for him to not get hit in the sweet spot is to not have any punishments. Yeah, I know. He can’t really avoid it.
Lion’s play last night consisted of the smaller Njoy butt plug. He held it for a while and then announced he had to pee. He doesn’t think he can hold the plug in while he pees so I had to remove it. Part of me wanted him to try. The other part of me didn’t want to explain to the landlord how the toilet broke. Lion was also sure to tell me how horny he was. I just smiled and told him I was glad.
I won’t say the weekend is already upon us because this seemed like a very long week at work, but here we are again. Two days to torture Lion. Last night he told me he likes to know what’s going to happen. It wasn’t in relation to chastity or play, but I wonder if he wants to know what will happen over the weekend. I would guess if it’s a nice thing he’d want to know. If I were to tell him he’d get his orgasm by Sunday night, for example, he’d be very happy. If I were to tell him he’d be wearing diapers again, he wouldn’t be so happy. It’s another case of “be careful what you wish for”. Yes, the hypothetical orgasm or diapers would happen whether he knew about them or not, but would he be better off one way or the other? I can see the excitement building for something you want. It’s fun to look forward to things. I can also see the dread building for something you don’t want. Sometimes it’s better to have a bad thing sprung on you at the last minute so you can deal with it and be done with it. It’s difficult to have it both ways though.
For now I’ll just say that I have plans for Lion over the weekend. Good or bad, they are plans. He’ll be a happy boy either way.
Starting Enforced Chastity Without Spending A Lot
We get a lot of mail from people who are unhappy with chastity devices they have purchased. All of the complaints are about bad fit. Invariably, the problems are with inexpensive, off-the-shelf chastity devices. Many of these devices come with multiple base rings that are supposed to “customize” the fit. The vast majority of people buying these end up with issues that contribute to quitting enforced chastity before giving it a real chance.
It makes sense not to want to invest over $300 USD for a custom device when you don’t know whether or not enforced chastity is for you. Unfortunately, when we start out with this, our focus is almost invariably on the device and how secure it is. The hot fantasy is about being unable to get erect or orgasm; stopped by a diabolical device controlled by someone else. So, it makes sense that the first step is to locate a device and lock it on. Wrong.
I know I won’t convince anyone gung ho on getting caged to take a more measured approach, but don’t say I didn’t warn you. For enforced chastity to truly work, you will need a device that you can comfortably wear 24/7. If you also want high security, you will lose comfort and increase cost. You want to try enforced chastity and you don’t want to spend much money. Here’s an idea on how to do just that.
Try starting without a full chastity device. No, I’m not suggesting you just abstain; well, not exactly. Here’s what I’m thinking. First, spend $25 and buy a set of sizing rings from Mature Metal. This is a set of nine plastic rings ranging from 1 1/8th to 2 1/8th inches. Find one that seems right for you. Then wear it for a while. If it seems too big, try the next size down; too small, the next size up. When you think you have the right size, keep it on. The idea is that you will wear a cock ring 24/7. You can change rings to adjust size, but never go without one.
If you have a partner, let her know that you want to be caged. Have her read our article for potential keyholders. It will give her a good idea of what enforced chastity is about. Explain about the cost of a custom device and tell her you would like to try chastity out with her help. Then ask her to set a date, not too far in future, to allow you an orgasm. The rest is easy. Use willpower instead of a cage for a while. You will be tempted to cheat, but don’t.
During this trial period you will learn several important things: You and your keyholder can experiment and determine if this kink works for you both. While you are learning, you are wearing that sizing ring. Getting the base ring size right is the most difficult part of chastity device fitting. By the time you are ready to really get locked up, you will know what size base ring you will need. This page will help you with all of the necessary measurements when you are ready to order.
This trial period will do much more than save you money while you try out enforced chastity. It will show you that it isn’t really the device that keeps you from masturbating. It is your decision that you want to surrender sexual control. This knowledge will allow you to finally order a device based on comfort. “Security” isn’t as important as you thought when you first considered being caged. My Mature Metal Jail Bird is not impossible to escape. I know it can be done. But I have never tried. You won’t either. Just remember who agreed to do this. You. Why spoil something you want?
I Can Help
Lion has boring toenails again. I was going to remove the sparkly green polish last weekend, but every time I thought about it I wasn’t near his toes. Even though it was a very light green and it was almost unnoticeable, Lion is happy to be rid of it. Now that I think of it, he was very stylish in his green, frilly panties and sparkly green nail polish. Matching accessories. He could have been the cover model for Female Led Relationship Monthly, if there were such a thing.
Today is punishment day again and Lion has nothing in his bank. I may just give him a few swats because I’m pretty sure I missed something along the way. [ Lion — I interrupted last night and got a dirty look, but nothing for the bank] Maybe he interrupted me and I let it go. I don’t know. But it’s probably a good idea to smack him a few times just to keep him in line. Plus, a few hard swats will help in his quest to stay still during punishment. I’m only thinking of him, after all. He needs practice. I can help.
Last night I helped him with his horniness problem. I made it much worse. It’s the least I can do. Yesterday he said I made it worse just by emailing back and forth. All I said was he’d probably be unlocked and played with. Completely innocent. Can I help it if Mr. Weenie tried to burst through the cage? As we get closer to his magical scheduled date, it can only get worse. Then, when we go right on past that date, it will get worse again. How much further beyond the date will 2.0 make him wait? I don’t know. Maybe, since it’s the first time, she won’t make him wait long at all. Maybe she’ll make him wait until after the next scheduled date. She’s fairly diabolical at times.
The only thing for sure is that 2.0 will keep Lion guessing. She’s very good at that.
Tender Butt
Our posts over the last couple of weeks mention Lioness 2.0. For reasons neither of us understand, she decided to become stricter and less interested in whether I am enjoying what she does to me. Let me be clear that I consider this to be a very good thing. I don’t think it is such a good thing when activities start getting very intense. But given the distance of a few hours from the activities, I acknowledge that she is doing exactly what I want.
This is the first time in my life that I am truly not in control, particularly when we play. 2.0 is not going to stop what she is doing just because I am unhappy at the moment. Of course she will stop if I am in genuine distress. We don’t currently have a safe word. She trusts me to report honestly if things go a bit too far. We also don’t have a signal to “slow down”. Part of her control is that she decides how much buildup I get. I agree with that decision.
Our play is much more intense. She wants me to really feel what she is doing. I think that this is just the beginning. Sensibly, she is not starting at full intensity. She is learning to judge how much I can take versus how much I want. I’m beginning to learn to take what she gives without needing to be tied down. I’m not very good at that. Punishment spankings, particularly when she hits a certain spot become too much for me and I try to either get away or verbally stop her. So far 2.0 doesn’t stop immediately, but she does seem to turn down the force and end the spanking
I don’t expect that to last. I have no idea how I will learn to handle it when she keeps going. I suspect that when things get that serious, I may need to be tied down. I am fine when she hits other parts of my butt. There is this one spot that sends me through the ceiling. I don’t recall any bottoms I have spanked reporting anything like this. I don’t expect or want 2.0 to avoid the spot. I just have no clear idea how to learn to improve my ability to receive her spankings. Any suggestions?
My inability to overcome this bothers me a lot. I think I have improved in my bottoming in the other areas we have tried. I can handle anal penetration and I am making progress with pegging. But spanking seems to be an activity I am not learning to manage. I understand it hurts; and in the case of punishment, should hurt a lot. My unacceptable reactions seem involuntary. I know they aren’t. But I can’t help myself.
Other people regularly handle much more severe spankings without even a whimper. It’s become important to me to be able to accept a severe spanking without squirming away. Mrs. Lion will not put up with too much of my escape attempts and complaints; at least I hope she won’t. I just have no idea how to do better in this area and it frustrates me.
