Milestone
Yesterday I wrote about a hypothetical “mistake”, namely that I masturbated without permission. In a prior post, Mrs. Lion said that this infraction would mean she would unlock me and enforced chastity would be over. I argued that such a drastic move would hurt our relationship because we both believe that enforced chastity has greatly enhanced our marriage. I suggested that a severe punishment would be the appropriate way to handle this offense.
In a comment to that post Mrs. Lion said,
I can see Lion’s point about a lapse in concentration in the shower. However, that implies that if he were not caged, a similar lapse in concentration could result in his cheating with another woman. I’m not sure how I would handle that. It would certainly take him a long time to regain my trust. Cheating in the shower may not be as severe an offense as cheating with another woman, but with our relationship at stake, why take a chance?
This is a striking revelation. In her mind, me jerking off is close to cheating with another woman. Prior to enforced chastity, my masturbation would possibly raise an eyebrow, but not open a chasm of distrust. This is very telling. It sounds to me that she has not only accepted enforced chastity, but now control of my sexuality has risen to the same level as marital fidelity. Enforced chastity isn’t a sexual game or something she does to make me happy. It’s now an integral part of the vows we have taken as a married couple.
Prior to the last few days, we’ve never discussed this explicitly. When I brought up masturbation it was in the context of security; keeping me locked when not supervised. Mrs. Lion’s comment took me by surprise. Masturbation isn’t a disciplinary issue. It’s a marital betrayal with consequences as serious as an affair. To be clear, I’m in no danger of jerking off behind my lioness’ back. I’m also in no danger of cheating on her. But it is an odd feeling to realize that my surrender of sexual control is not only permanent, but also so serious to my wife.
I didn’t expect that. I haven’t given it much thought. Enforced chastity to me is just part of my life. I don’t expect to be alone without the chastity device in place. When I am, I act the same way I do when locked in. Of course I know that our marriage has improved since we adopted enforced chastity and that Mrs. Lion has accepted it as part of our lives.
This is a profound change to our relationship. What started as a kink has become one of our key relationship values. I’ve never experienced or witnessed this before. I’ve seen relationships started by people expressly to practice BDSM. I’ve seen those relationships fail when the people involved realized that there was more to living with someone. But I don’t know of any other kink that can create such a sea change in a relationship.
Now there is no doubt in my mind that I can’t take back sexual control. My sexual experiences belong to Mrs. Lion. Any breach could cause my marriage to end. I’m in no danger of risking that. Yes, Mrs. Lion I can be trusted. I know how important enforced chastity is to us.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1
Lion told me some interesting stats yesterday. He had five orgasms in January, four in February, and three so far in March. If he follows this trend he’ll only have two in April, one in May, and then, oh sorry, Lion, none in June. Does that mean he’d start to go negative in July? How do I take back an orgasm? I bet 3.0 would be able to figure that out, but she isn’t here yet.
Luckily, 2.0 has Lion orgasms scheduled for June. Not July though. She just hasn’t gotten that far. I’m sure there will be at least two in any given month. I actually can’t believe Lion has only has three in March. While that may seem like a lot in some other chastity relationships, Lion’s average is usually higher. We aren’t concerned with long waits. Our focus is how horny Lion is and when 2.0 wants to take an orgasm from him. A scheduled date is merely a guide. When 2.0 wants him to orgasm, she makes him. When she wants to torture him and make him wait, he waits.
Yesterday was Lion’s scheduled date. Recently we changed from the scheduled date meaning a definite orgasm to the earliest date he could have an orgasm. Of course, 2.0 can do whatever she wants. Lion wasn’t going to have an orgasm last night regardless of any stats. Now he certainly won’t have one tonight. I can’t ruin the trend right now. That would be silly. Besides, 2.0 was going to make him wait a few days beyond the scheduled date anyway. Why? Because she’s a mean bitch and, despite his objections, Lion wants to wait for an orgasm too.
It is getting increasingly difficult for him to wait though. Last night he was humping my hand and getting very close. Very close. It’s fun to watch him work so hard at it. When I was done with him I actually told him I was done with him and he should put his ring back on when he had calmed down. I’ve threatened him with ice cubes as a means of softening him up more quickly. Given how hard and excited he’s been lately, I may have to follow through with that threat. Part of him, and I know exactly what part, would hate that. Another part of him would love it.
[Lion — I’ve stayed very horny for two weeks the one time we had that long of a wait this year. I think more than an orgasm a week is a bit much. Twice a month might frustrate the hell out of me but is certainly not going to make me lose interest during my wait. I’ve never waited an entire month, so I have no idea how that would feel. I’m not sure I want to find out. Of course 2.0 will do exactly as she pleases. What I want or can take has nothing to do with her decisions.]
Trust And Verify
I’ve been writing and talking about a stricter 2.0. This prompted her to write a bit about my desire to be securely locked even more of the time. I pointed out that leaving me wild in the shower, for example, gives me an opportunity to masturbate unobserved. She said that if I did this, she would either unlock me and end enforced chastity or punish me. She isn’t sure which.
That comment started me thinking about how things have changed. In the beginning, enforced chastity was my “thing”. Mrs. Lion acted as my keyholder out of a desire to make me happy. Under those circumstances, ending enforced chastity would be the appropriate response to such a blatant defiance of what I wanted. Now, over two years later, I think that things are completely different.
Should I commit the sin of jerking off when not authorized and Mrs. Lion decides that we will end enforced chastity, a lot more will happen than no longer indulging my fantasy. We’ve evolved what started as a sexual game into the linchpin of our sexual relationship. If the cage comes off, how do we maintain the intimacy we have? There is no incentive for her to tease me. That was part of enforced chastity. She isn’t interested in sex for herself so there is no motivation for mutual sexual contact.
I think we would return to our past, unsatisfactory sexual distance. Mrs. Lion and I have discussed what might happen if I got tired of being locked up. She made it clear that is no longer an option for me. The reason: the risk of losing our sexual intimacy and other benefits we both enjoy. This is no longer my kink. It’s a key part of our relationship. So, ending it would be destructive to a lot more than my chastity fantasy.
If you wonder how this could happen since I know how important it is to surrender my sexuality, the answer is fairly simple. Assume I am daydreaming about something sexual while in the shower. I’m uncaged and my hand wanders into forbidden territory. It feels good and before I know it, I come. There is no excuse for it, but it could happen. I’m sure that most guys have had similar experiences. So far I have been extremely careful to no have such thoughts when wild.
Let’s assume I do this. What should Mrs. Lion do when she finds out? Since enforced chastity is so important to us both, ending it is probably off the table. Punishment must be administered. I have no idea what she would do, but I am very sure I wouldn’t forget it. The switch from abandoning the kink to punishing for a serious infraction is an indicator of how important enforced chastity has become for us. That’s why I am writing this. My sexual behavior is not only controlled by my lioness. She owns it absolutely and isn’t going to return it to me, ever.
A reason I wrote about stricter caging is based on my realization that we need to avoid giving me any opportunity to sexually touch myself. Yes, I have excellent self control. But enforced chastity is a 24/7/365 practice. Opportunities to mess up need to be avoided. As I see it, the less possibility of a “mistake” the better for me and for us.
That means I probably shouldn’t have any time when my penis is available and I am not directly supervised. No more “wild” showers unless Mrs. Lion is watching me. No RV weekends uncaged. If I am uncaged to use the bathroom, direct supervision should be supplied. The reason we use a locked chastity device is to make unauthorized sexual touching impossible. Since the consequences of an “accident” would resonate through our relationship, that locked device is much more than a symbol. It prevents a problem that would be difficult to handle.
[Mrs. Lion – I can see Lion’s point about a lapse in concentration in the shower. However, that implies that if he were not caged, a similar lapse in concentration could result in his cheating with another woman. I’m not sure how I would handle that. It would certainly take him a long time to regain my trust. Cheating in the shower may not be as severe an offense as cheating with another woman, but with our relationship at stake, why take a chance?]
Oral Exam
One of my favorite things is getting Lion hard in my mouth. Feeling him grow with the subtle movements of my tongue – sometimes no movement at all – makes me feel some power. He’s in a very vulnerable position. I could cause him great pain, or give him wonderful pleasure. It all depends on how I move my mouth. I also like the control I have over edging him. I can speed up or slow down. I can put more pressure in certain areas. I can concentrate on the area just below the head. I can stroke all the way down as my lips hold him tight. Yup. It’s my favorite way to drive him crazy. I think it’s his too. [Lion — Yup. It is.]
For a long time I didn’t feel this way. Since I can’t see his face, I wasn’t sure when he was getting close. Practice, practice, practice. Now I can tell when I need to stop. Usually. Sometimes I still go too far. Not last night. I stopped just in time a few times. And then I went right back at him. Pure torture. And he loved it. Although I do think he was a bit dazed by the time I was done. Right now he’s so horny I’m sure he wishes today was his definite orgasm day. He actually seemed like he was in pain when I stopped. Don’t worry, Lion. You’ll have your orgasm soon. [Lion — I’m very happy waiting. I had big fun last night.]
In the meantime, 2.0 has been doing some research. She looking for something different to do with Lion. Maybe a new technique. Maybe a new toy. Something that will surprise Lion that she’s found. There are a lot of possibilities out there and she’s taking her time to find just the right thing. This doesn’t necessarily mean there will be a delay in Lion’s orgasm. She’ll know when it’s time for that and the search for other fun is independent of his orgasm. But wouldn’t it be fun if she could surprise him with the new thing for his orgasm? But she knows Lion will be very happy no matter how or when he has his orgasm. The sooner the better if you ask him.
