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Lion is modelling the Paddle Tramp paddle we keep in the kitchen. It’s a perfect size and packs a very big wallop. Lion’s butt is quite small so it makes the paddle look larger than it is. (Click image to enlarge.)

Over twenty years ago I found a very cool paddle in a gift shop. I suspect that the owner thought it was a cheese server. It’s not very big, but extremely effective. I think, swat-for-swat, it’s one of the most painful paddles we own. It has a brand name burned in, “Paddle Tramps”. For the last few years I have visited their website hoping to find another. The wonderful, little paddle (CP110-Oak) we have hanging in our kitchen [See image, right] wasn’t on the site. Then yesterday, I checked again and found it! It’s only $7.95 plus shipping. It measures 3 1/2-inches wide, 9 1/2-inches long, and 5/8-inches thick.

Paddle Tramp specializes in fraternity paddles, not cheese servers. They call our “cheese server” the “Traditional Paddle CP110-Oak” I call it “The Bottom Warmer”. Click the product model to see it on their site. Oak is a very hard and dense wood. The paddle is probably a bit too big and heavy for a purse, but it is absolutely perfect for general disciplinary use. It’s just the right size for OTK spanking, or as we use it, “bend over and grab the kitchen counter”.

We have a longstanding rule that I am to be naked at all times when home. So, my bare bottom is always available when Mrs. Lion wants to spank it.  If I offend in the kitchen, she normally starts by giving me the look. Then, she unhooks the paddle. I bend over the counter. She administers several very hard swats. Each swat stings and burns. She does at least 6 or 8 rapid fire swats, alternating between cheeks. Over the years she has made good use of this of this handy attitude adjuster. In my opinion, this paddle is way more effective than our hairbrush paddle. The heavy oak and the barely-rounded edges assure that I understand how Mrs. Lion feels about what I’ve done.

This bargain paddle is perfect for beginning spankers as well as veteran disciplinarians. Using it requires no training or practice. It’s compact size assures it finds its mark on the very first swat. It’s the right size to reach the very tender tissue on the inside of thighs as well as make an amazing impression on the sit spot or above. Even a light swat stings. A strong swing makes me yelp and jump.

Best of all, if you or your partner is new to spanking, this little paddle isn’t intimidating and will give her a chance to try spanking with a truly effective tool. We have a very large collection of paddles and other spanking implements; some costing over a hundred dollars. This $7.95 paddle has to rank in the top three implements I fear. Because of its very low price and extreme effectiveness, this is the ideal first paddle for a new spanker to acquire. In fact, it’s the only paddle you may ever need. It’s size and weight are absolutely perfect for warming any bottom.

 

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Here I am after my July 4th spanking. I guess I am red, black and blue. (Click image to see full-size)

Mrs. Lion reads all my posts, generally before I post them. She supplies proofreading support that I truly appreciate. Anyway, after reading my rather depressed post about what I learned on my vacation, she told me she still had interest. She agreed that play and discipline took a backseat to whatever else we were doing. She expressed no opinion about why this happened, but resolved to fix things.

So she did. That very afternoon, when we got back from our adventures, I was told to be naked with my training collar on. She said she was going to spank me. We had been discussing spanking techniques for the last few weeks. Initially, my suggestion was that a disciplinary spanking started with very hard swats and continued that way. For over a year that’s the technique Mrs. Lion has been using. She’s never been able to give me more than eight or ten swats before it is too much for me.

Julie of “Strict Julie Spanks” left a comment here that started me thinking. I wrote a post about it. Julie wrote that when she spanks her husband, he can say “Yellow” which means the swats are too hard to take. He can also say “Red” which stops everything, presumably for a true emergency. Mrs. Lion and I discussed that other spankers report giving 200-300 swats or more in a spanking. We have almost never hit ten. I suggested that, like Julie, perhaps the swats need to build up over time so that I get used to being hit.

That sounded to us like a play spanking. That’s when the intensity is controlled to allow the bottom’s endorphins to keep up with the stimulation. That didn’t sound like punishment to either of us. But then, the six or eight swats I generally get didn’t seem all that serious either. Mrs. Lion decided to try the slower buildup method. She did the other night. She slowly built in intensity. When it got to be too much for me, she backed off, way off. Then she quickly got back to the real swats. The spanking lasted well over 200 swats (no, neither of us were counting, but I’m sure we got past 200). When it was over, my butt was well bruised with white spots in other places. It burned and I could feel it all night, even when in a comfy chair.

I don’t get all that red (see image above, right), even after a spanking like that. I also “heal” remarkably fast with almost no trace of the spanking in the morning. This has always been true of me. Oh well, it gives Mrs. Lion a fresh canvas every day. Even though most of the marks faded, it still hurts to sit today. Yes, it was an effective spanking.

The big question is how we distinguish between a “play” spanking and a disciplinary one? The answer is actually very simple: I know we are playing in one case and I am being punished in the other. The disciplinary spanking takes place when and where Mrs. Lion wants. While I can ask her to back off, I can’t stop her. As she gets more experienced at this technique, like Julie, she will “sneak” past my limit and hit me with even harder swats. Over time, she will also learn how far she wants to go. I am deceptive in that my butt looks as though I have been brutally beaten, but turns out to be mark-free the next morning. That’s not to say it doesn’t hurt to sit.

I’m writing this in the late afternoon. We drove home today from our vacation trip. I interrupted Mrs. Lion more than once. That means once she has recovered from driving I can look forward to the second of this new sort of spanking. I am very sure it will last longer and be more intense.

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This was the result of one the most severe play spankings I’ve received. I only felt it for a few hours. Generally, a spanking looks much worse than it really is. Bruises and white areas are a good sign the message has been sent.

My early research led me to believe that disciplinary spankings start hard and stay hard from beginning to end with no regard for how much they hurt. Disciplinary spankings are supposed to hurt. That’s the entire point. Right? Well, yes but there may be more to it than that.

Let me be clear. A disciplinary spanking should hurt a lot. It’s purpose is to deter future misbehavior. My reading of DD and spanking blogs appeared to reinforce the idea that a spanking should start and stay with hard swats from beginning to end. But then as I learned more, including contact from some disciplinary wives,  I find this concept isn’t exactly right.

My spankings are generally very brief with less than ten hard swats. Mrs. Lion starts full force and every few seconds lands a swat. This brief-but-violent technique is very painful, but not memorable. The small number of swats doesn’t provide enough damage to hurt  for more than a half hour or so.

My original thoughts on this matter were based on the idea of separating play spankings from punishment. Mrs. Lion has been play spanking me for years. She starts off with her hand and slowly builds intensity, changing to paddles after I’ve had a chance to generate enough endorphins to tolerate more intense stimulation. So, if I am to understand the difference between play and punishment, I figured that the disciplinary spanking should have no warmup. That would make the difference crystal clear to me.

It’s a nice idea, but it flies in the face of my physiology. If I were tied down, then starting hard and going on for a long time would be possible. It would make me miserable and I would fight to escape. I know because we tried that during a play session years ago. It was unbearable agony. Mrs. Lion stopped just before I started to cry.

I don’t think that tears are inappropriate during a punishment spanking, but there is a different, more humane way to get there. If the objective is to deter a behavior, then the punishment should provide sufficient discomfort to make a strong impression. There are many ways to achieve this result.

If the results of a spanking are felt for an extended time, it provides a lasting incentive to behave. My current pain is severe, but of very short duration. I suggest that a much longer duration of discomfort provides a stronger object lesson. In order for that to happen to me, I have to tolerate the spanking so that it can go on long enough to make sitting difficult for days.

My newest thinking is that a punishment spanking should include a warmup. I’ve read of one woman who does a warmup until her bottom is able to handle hard swats. Then she stops and reminds him of his transgression then says, “Now we will begin your punishment.” She then goes on in earnest. He’s ready to accept her rapid, hard blows because she took the time to let his endorphins catch up.

Just because he is able to hold still for more doesn’t mean he isn’t feeling anything. Quite the contrary. He will feel the swats, perhaps even cry. But he is able to handle the punishment and only minimally squirm and kick. He will scream and complain, but he is inside his ability to handle the swats.

The disciplinary wife has to be sensitive to how her male is reacting, even during the punishment phase. He will need her to start with less severe swats and be allowed to tolerate what’s coming later. The objective of this spanking isn’t immediate reaction. It’s a deep red color with bruising. It will provide lasting pain that will reinforce the lesson he has to learn.

The rear end, particularly mine, heals very quickly. A bruised bottom isn’t dangerous or the sign of abuse. It’s the objective of a spanking. If sitting is uncomfortable for at least 24 hours after the spanking, it has been successful. It may take a number of spankings to get to this point. Remember, the objective isn’t to over stress your male. It’s to provide sufficient discomfort to remind him to behave, at least for a while.

This may not be true or apply to you or your DD relationship. It’s only my current thinking and I haven’t yet experienced it. I do know that a lot of people want play spankings to end this way. I never did. But I do want my disciplinary spankings to be this severe. I want to be able to tolerate the pain. I know this takes a warmup and the ability to give feedback (Yellow and Red). If Mrs. Lion takes this approach (that includes maintenance spankings), we’ll both let you know how it works.

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It seems to me that punishment spankings should be shorter than play spankings. Maybe that’s obvious. Maybe not. If you read accounts online, it seems like a punishment spanking can reach 100 swats with the spankee’s butt being purple and too sore to sit on for days. If any of the internet accounts are to be believed. I suppose it’s possible some are accurate.

When I swat Lion as punishment, I don’t think I’ve ever gone over twelve swats. I know I should do more, but for the most part, he doesn’t seem able to handle it. Lately, he rolls over after four swats. The point is, these are hard swats right off the bat. There’s no warm up. It’s punishment. There usually isn’t a warning shot.

With play, of course, you start out slow. Let him get used to the feel of being spanked. Maybe start out with your hand. Give a few rubs now and then. Build up gradually to the punishment sized swats. It’s quite possible he’ll wind up with some bruising and it may be hard to sit for a while.

Even if the accounts of purple butts and not being able to sit are true, it’s not what I’m going for. Lion may have other ideas, but I don’t want to hurt him that much. If he wants me to go further, then we have a problem. I thought the purpose of punishment was to make him not want to do whatever it is he did. Since he’s only spilling food or interrupting me, he doesn’t need a purple butt. It’s not like he killed anyone. It’s true, I could swat harder. I could do more swats. There’s plenty of real estate between what I do and a purple butt.

We both need to work on it. I can’t really tie Lion down at this point because of his shoulder. He’ll have to learn to stay still on his own. Besides, if he can’t stay still for the paltry punishment I’m giving him now, how could he ever stay still for a purple butt?

[Lion — This is a subject that comes up fairly often. Since we do play spankings, there needs to be a way I know this isn’t for fun. The spanking blogs by people I know are for real (“Strict Julie Spanks” and “A Spanking Marriage“) advocate, long severe spankings. As Julie pointed out, she allows her husband some input to moderate intensity. From my perspective, spanking is learned at both ends of the paddle. Severity is decided by Mrs. Lion. I would suggest that a longer spanking is required for repeat offenses. The point of spanking is, as she says, to stop me from repeating undesired behavior. How much of a spanking is needed to do this is learned by increasing intensity if I repeat an offense.]