Damn Buccaneers! I thought it would be a closer game. The lion got 18 warm-up swats and 93 hard swats. That’s not really a lot in the overall scheme of things. However, I thought it would get his motor going. And it did!

I started with my hand, as I usually do. Then I sat up and continued with my hand. I didn’t think I could get very far that way, but it was nice to try. He’s been doing better with my mouth, as I bet most men would. So I switched to oral. It still took a while, but I think he responded quicker than he would have by hand.

I got him pretty close a few times. He wasn’t quite panting. I was worried about a ruined orgasm. I also thought that maybe I should let him come again, but I wondered if it was too soon. Yes, all these things go through my mind as I’m sucking him. Multitasking. I was just really happy he was staying hard for so long. When I was done, I said we might be getting somewhere. Lion said he doesn’t think he’s as unbroken as I think, but he’s less broken than he thinks. I’m encouraged by the baby steps. I’m cautiously optimistic, and I’m rarely optimistic about anything.

At this point, I’m thinking we go full steam ahead. We can try some anal training and some more spanking. I’m sure both will help our cause. Lion has some other ideas, but I won’t steal his thunder. His post for tomorrow speaks to that. I’m happy to help things along in any way I can. It’s a good thing I like jerking him off and sucking him; otherwise, this might be difficult. It’s like an experiment, and we know how much I like experimenting on Lion. He’s a lucky boy.

I am writing this on Sunday afternoon, a little while before the Superbowl. Mrs. Lion decided we would play spankball. Her post yesterday said I would get three swats for each point scored by Tampa Bay and two for each by KC. It would be her way of letting me know which team she wants to see score (Tampa Bay). [Mrs. Lion — Actually it’s because I’ll be mad that Tampa Bay scored.] She also decided to wait until the end of the game and give me all of the swats for the score at once. That way, I won’t have time to recover between spanks. The effect will be maximized.

We experimented with ways to differentiate between play spankings and punishments. It seemed that if play spankings were no different than punishments, I would either be unfairly hurt or punishment spankings would be minimized. Mrs. Lion tried making play spankings milder. That didn’t work. She tried building up the force more slowly and using her hand in the beginning. That also didn’t seem to do it.

I suggested that there is probably no difference between a spanking administered for breaking a rule and one given “just because.” There are plenty of BDSM activities other than spanking that hurt. That doesn’t stop them from being hot. The issue with spanking is that it is used for BDSM and punishment. For a while, Mrs. Lion only spanked me for punishment. That avoided any confusion on my part. It also stopped an activity we both like. The current thinking (at least mine) is that a spanking is a spanking. Whether it’s for not setting up the coffee pot or for play, it’s the same thing. Mrs. Lion uses a paddle to make my bottom hurt and keep hurting for a day or two.

It isn’t rocket science. It’s an activity that has proven effective sometimes to turn me on and other times teach me to correct my behavior. Neither of us has any trouble differentiating between the two. There’s no reason to change how it is administered. In fact, we learned something new the last time I was punished: Mrs. Lion used a timer to establish the minimum duration of my spanking. It was very effective. I felt the spanking for three days. That’s the desired outcome. This is true whether the spanking is for fun or punishment.

I did a little research. There is a lot of material about spanking on the web. Most of it is garbage. However, there are a few sites with what seems to me to be good advice. One thing I read that we learned through experience is that there are two phases to a spanking. The first is preparation. It’s almost impossible for me to hold still if the spanking starts with very hard swats. That seems to be true of most people. The experts advocate “warming up” the person being spanked before the actual punishment. One of my favorite sources of knowledge is the old Disciplinary Wive’s Club website. It teaches that a fairly long and painful warmup is needed before announcing that the punishment is starting.

The concept of informing the person being spanked when the warmup is finished is very powerful. I can imagine enduring several minutes of painful spanking only to be informed that the actual punishment hasn’t started. While Mrs. Lion doesn’t announce this–too bad, I think it would be very effective–I can feel a difference when she begins the second phase. Being told that worse is coming is very powerful.

Based on my experience on the receiving end, I think the second phase is the most effective. I think Mrs. Lion has nailed the warmup. Maybe the clock needs to start on the actual punishment phase. Perhaps starting a timer when she would normally begin the harder swats would be most effective. I know that when she begins those, I truly feel her displeasure (or authority). The so-called play spankings do more than satisfy a sexual need. If strict enough, they let me know who is in charge and that I have to stay in position and take the pain. That’s why there is always a good reason for any spanking.

[Mrs. Lion — As I was reading Lion’s explanation of when the real punishment begins (I don’t consciously spank harder at a certain point) I was thinking I should “warm up” with the swats earned for Kansas City points and start the punishment when I get to the Tampa Bay points. Not because I think TB will win and therefore have more swats, but because those points will annoy me the most and thus be harder.]

End note: The final score was 31 to 9. I got 18 regular swats and 93 hard ones. OW!

For the record, I still have sore spots from Saturday morning’s spanking. Mrs. Lion is quite proud of herself for that. It is, after all, what we wanted to happen. I think her success was due to two factors: first, she used the Chechen spanking spoon. Second, she made the session much longer than usual.

Mrs. Lion’s Chechen spanking spoon.

The spanking implement is far more important than many believe. The spanking spoon is heavy and has a small striking surface. It also has a long handle. The handle offers more leverage and power. The small striking surface concentrates the force over a small area of skin. The reason a cane is so effective comes from the ultimate in these two properties. It is very narrow and has a very long handle. The force it delivers is stunning.

Lighter paddles with larger striking areas offer a different kind of sensation. The lighter material reduces the impact, and the larger striking area distributes it over a wider skin section. This is felt as a painful sting and will redden the skin. The spanking spoon hurts with less sting. For me, at least, that means I can take more without moving away. If Mrs. Lion’s purpose is to give me a spanking I will “remember” for days, the heavy spanking spoon is a great choice. If she wants me to hate every second of the spanking, the lighter stingier paddles are best. Most likely, she would want both. To achieve a horrible experience and make it memorable, two paddles are required.

As a spanking progresses, there is a certain amount of numbness that develops. This is easily overcome by increasing force and speed. To maximize unpleasant sensation, the lighter paddle is the first to use. Then, switch to the heavy one for deeper sensations. Like the disciplinary wives club, traditional spankers use a single paddle and increase force as the spanking progresses. This time-tested technique is very effective. However, this sort of punishment takes time.

Spanking duration is very important

I’m not too fond of a long spanking. That won’t shock anyone to learn. But I know that it’s almost impossible to deliver an effective spanking in two or three minutes. Time passes slowly for both the spanker and her target. Two minutes is a very long time when feeling a paddle on my bottom. Spanking is hard work (and good exercise), so time passes slowly for Mrs. Lion as well. Based on my experience with Mrs. Lion, her most effective spankings took about five minutes.

This is probably the shortest duration for effective paddling. Given the goal of making it as miserable as possible, a longer paddle time is better. My suggestion for Mrs. Lion is to set a timer before she starts. Then she can spank until the timer goes off. She can increase the duration by setting longer times. This is very easy in our house. We have Amazon Echos in every room. All she has to do is say, “Alexa, set a six-minute spanking timer.” The Echo will announce, “Six-minute timer starting now.” It will sound beeps when time is up. Of course, she doesn’t have to stop then, but she won’t stop before.

She has used how my bottom looks to determine when to stop. That generally gets me a relatively short spanking. Perhaps, over time, her internal spanking clock will take over, and she won’t need help from Alexa.

Yesterday morning, Mrs. Lion told me that I was going to get the spanking I wanted. She informed me that I forgot to set up the coffee pot for breakfast. It hasn’t been that long since the last time I forgot to do that chore. I was genuinely surprised that I forgot. Mrs. Lion seemed pretty happy that I did.

It isn’t that she likes to spank me. She likes catching me breaking the rules. This time, she also wanted a chance to get out her claws and show me that I need to be careful about writing that she isn’t spanking as severely as she used to. I guess my post motivated her. She spanked me in the morning, right after breakfast. I don’t remember ever being punished that early in the day. I did say that punishing me close to the crime is more effective.

spanking bruise on lion
Mark of the lioness

She spanked me for almost a full five minutes. I know because she chose to do it during the timed five-minute gap between administering eye drops to me. She also did more than 300 swats. It hurt, of course. In the end, I was left with visible signs of her wrath, as she called them, the mark of the lioness. Actually, I was red and sore all over my butt. She did leave two distinctive areas to show her dissatisfaction with me. The one in the photo hurts now. Her technique of hitting in groups of ten swats to a single area assures that she will make an impression.

Her choice of the paddle was the Sporkwood spanking spoon. This is one of the most vicious in her collection. The longer handle gives her extra leverage. The dense, heavy, Chechen wood assures every swat counts. She has some other implements that can hurt more, but the spanking spoon is definitely the most effective and the one I fear. If you can only have one paddle, this is the one I would get. It is the one I got yesterday, right where it counts.

If I seem happy that Mrs. Lion punished me, in a way I am. It means that all is right in our world. She seems proud of the marks she left. I’m happy that she loves me enough to spank me.