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As promised, I turned on the heater in Lion’s office and set up the massage table. Lion was hungry fairly early so I put some leftovers in the oven, changed the filter in one of our air purifiers and opened the box to look for the directions for putting together a desk chair. We ate dinner and watched Wheel of Fortune. Then we adjourned to his office.

Lion made the comment that he needed sunglasses to combat the overhead light. At the time, I told him I’d turn on the floor lamp and keep the overhead light off. As we played, however, I realized that a blindfold would do the trick. He likes to be blindfolded and it would certainly keep the light out of his eyes. Win-win. Next time.

This time, I still didn’t know what I was going to do with him. My answer came as I was massaging his balls. It had been a long time since his balls had been swatted. I never swat them hard. Lion may disagree. I certainly don’t do it hard enough to cause damage. He doesn’t really like it, but I figure if he didn’t want me to do it, he shouldn’t have asked me to all those years ago. I didn’t come up with it on my own.

I also pinched his boobies. He thinks I’m ridiculous for calling them boobies. He’s a man. He doesn’t have boobies. The very fact that he thinks it’s ridiculous is why I keep doing it. Then I put a clothespin on each boobie. [Lion — I think “boobie” is silly, but if it is to be used, shouldn’t it be used properly? A boobie is a breast. A nippie is a nipple. That’s where the clothespins went.] I don’t know if it was the ball swats or the boobie pinching that got him hard, but he was hard. For a while, I thought I could get him to the edge. Sadly, he said he didn’t think he could get any further “this way.” So we adjourned to the bedroom.

I decided that I’d just edge him and make him wait for an orgasm. Then I decided to give him an orgasm every time we played for the foreseeable future. Starting next time. Lion had other ideas. Lately, the orgasms sneak up on him fast. Consequently, they sneak up on me too. I stopped but too late. I quickly, but perhaps not quickly enough, started again. Lion said it was not quite in time. Sort of a halfway ruined orgasm. I hate that. He does too.

Next time I won’t try to stop. Up the mountain and right over the edge.

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In: Ruined orgasm, Punishment, Spanking

We hadn’t played in a few days. We were tired. We were watching our football team lose. Last night I moved over to snuggle. Lion pulled the covers back so I could get to my weenie more easily. He was making happy Lion noises and getting hard when I asked if he wanted to be sucked. There have been very few times he’s refused that offer.

He was very excited, but I still had to get him hard again. It didn’t take long. Soon he was on his way to making happy Lion noises again. Unfortunately, I misjudged those sounds and gave him a ruined orgasm. I may have salvaged part of it. I got the cream filling, but I don’t think it was as enjoyable for him as it could have been. It certainly wasn’t as nice as if I had edged him a few times and gotten him in a frenzy. Still, it was an orgasm.

I wasn’t going to let him come until tonight, at the very earliest. I wanted him a little more frustrated. I also wanted to tie him to the bed sometime today, to turn him on even more. Plus, I still owed him from Tiesday. And we still haven’t used the restraints I bought.

I guess it shouldn’t have come as such a surprise when he said, “I guess I don’t get tied up.” before we were even settled in after his orgasm. But it did. To me, he was saying the only thing that mattered was that I hadn’t tied him up. I mean, I was disappointed, too. I’d just ruined an orgasm. I hate that. Perhaps I should have said, “I think what you mean is, ‘Thanks for the orgasm.'” Instead, I told him I could tie him up today. I didn’t say that was my original plan. I didn’t say the first thing that popped into my mind was that he had ruined the orgasm. I know he has no control over it, but I got almost no warning this time that I was getting him anywhere near the edge, let alone over it. I didn’t say that because I didn’t want him to feel bad.

I’m sitting here wondering if that’s a punishable offense, and I remembered he thinks anything is a punishable offense. So punish, I will. Last night he said he still has some sore spots. I think he’ll have a few more tonight.

[Lion — We have a fairly long history of promised activities that somehow don’t manage to happen. Not using the new restraints is a good example. I should probably know better than to get too excited about something until it actually happens. But, like Charlie Brown and the football, somehow I can’t help myself.

I know that Mrs. Lion didn’t intend to ruin the orgasm. She never deliberately fails to follow through on a promise. Last night when she promised to tie me up tonight, I was disappointed. I believe she intends to, but the day after an orgasm isn’t going to be sexually charged the way it would have been 16 days after one. This isn’t her fault. I didn’t send the right signals last night. If I say that I don’t want to be tied up tonight, will that mean next time I’m turned on, and it’s a promised opportunity for being tied to the bed, will I hear, “You didn’t want it last time?”

I was very disappointed last night. I didn’t expect Mrs. Lion to tie me down. I didn’t expect to come. It’s not her fault that I did. Orgasms can sneak up on me. I didn’t think it was fair to promise it again for tonight, the one night I don’t really care if she does or not. It isn’t so much that I have an accidental orgasm. It’s the promise to do it the one time I’m least likely to have fun.]

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You’d think that being a male, I would know all about what works for men. I don’t. For example, it wasn’t many years ago that I learned about ruined orgasms. Yes, there had been times in the past when I had them. They were always accidents or miscalculations. I had no idea that women would deliver them just for fun.

It never occurred to me that there was more than one way I could come. Please! No, I’m not talking about hands, vaginas, mouths, or anuses. I’m talking about different sensations that can be delivered at will. The first surprise was ruined orgasms. I had read about women dominating men by doing this to them. Once Mrs. Lion learned to consistently deliver them, I had many opportunities to experience the frustration they induce.

Some males can be brought to a ruined orgasm more than once in a session. This ability is controlled by the amount of semen available for ejaculation. The more produced, the more times he will be able to experience ruined orgasms in a session. Apparently, our ability to reach orgasm depends on a supply of semen available for release. Most of the time, in a normal ejaculation, the entire supply comes out at one time. A male orgasm is a complex set of muscle activities that moves semen to the base of the penis and then out.

A ruined orgasm occurs when the penis is stimulated just enough to trigger the sequence. Once that happens, the supply of semen at the base of the penis is sent up and out. However, without continued stimulation, the sequence aborts. That sensation isn’t pleasant. Of course, you know that. After a brief (only a few seconds) rest, stimulation can be resumed, and excitement will build again. Rinse and repeat.

Many women don’t fully understand when they create a ruined vs. full orgasm. A ruined orgasm occurs when penis stimulation stops, and then nothing happens for up to 15 seconds. Then the semen oozes out. Some guys will squirt. I don’t. The key is that after you move your hand away, the penis may twitch a bit, and then some semen emerges. Resuming stimulation once the semen starts to flow won’t rescue the orgasm. It’s too late. Some women whose partners can have more than one ruined orgasm will take mercy and keep rubbing for the last one. That way, he finally gets to enjoy what every man desires.

A second odd male sexual ability is edging. Female orgasms build slowly. Excitement increases until the orgasm occurs. Males are completely different. We will get aroused, and then our arousal plateaus. It may increase a little, but we don’t feel a gradual buildup to our climax. Instead, when we are ready to come, our excitement builds rapidly, and then we ejaculate. That ramp-up can be as little as two or three seconds. Some men experience a slightly longer buildup.

Edging is first cousin to ruined orgasms. It takes some practice to successfully edge a man. Edging is stimulating the penis until just before ejaculation is triggered. Ruined orgasms require stimulation until just after that trigger point. There is fun on either side of that razor’s edge. The better you are at edging, the closer you get to that trigger point. If you get really close, it feels like ejaculation is on the way. When you suddenly stop, there is a huge buildup of arousal with nowhere to go. I may be sweating and panting. I will try to hump air in order to get over the top.

Unlike ruined orgasms, every man can be edged over and over. You can’t go on indefinitely. Eventually, he will “break.” He will get soft and be unable to be aroused. Mrs. Lion has done this to me a few times. It is super frustrating. Within an hour, most guys will be ready to go again. Do this for an evening, and you will have a sweaty guy with a sore cock.

Most women use their hands for either activity. Mrs. Lion can do it with her mouth. She can sense the level of my arousal and stop on either side of my trigger point. She is a very skilled lioness.

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As Mrs. Lion wrote yesterday, I had a ruined orgasm on Friday night. It’s the first one since July. It crept up on both of us. I felt myself coming close and my hips were moving a little. Then, suddenly I felt a muscle tighten in my right thigh — a sure sign an ejaculation has begun — and that was it. Mrs. Lion stopped just after that muscle tightened. That was it. Since she was giving me a blow job, she was able to catch the semen that dripped out. She likes that.

She also wrote that I might be horny again on Saturday night. Since I am writing this post on Saturday afternoon, we shall see. From my reading, the ability to ejaculate again after a ruined orgasm is based on whether or not all of my semen supply was exhausted. Some men can have multiple ruined orgasms. If there is a good supply of semen stored up, then they can. The incomplete orgasm that constitutes a ruined orgasm only empties the semen in the chamber just below the base of the erect penis. This chamber fills as arousal gets very close to ejaculation.

In a normal orgasm, muscle spasms refill the chamber, and the fluid squirts out. This happens over and over until no more is left. Apparently, I have a very small supply that usually only partially fills the chamber. That’s why my erection fades quickly after the ruined orgasm. If I had a larger supply, I would have remained at least partially hard and could be coaxed into either another ruined orgasm or a complete one. Some men can have four or five ruined orgasms in a row. You can see a good example of this on YouPorn. Here is a link (part of my research).

Mrs. Lion is right that I might be horny. It depends on my semen production, apparently. If I have a supply, even one too small to appear, I will want sex. Mrs. Lion can encourage semen production by teasing me during the day. Each time I’m stimulated to get an erection and hold it for a while, my body gets to work. This is one reason why I want her to take frequent teasing breaks without trying to edge me. A once-a-day session is nice and I love it. However, more frequent, smaller sessions are very helpful as well.

just published: a great, new spanking book

My friend Julie of Strict Julie Spanks has just published her book, Julie’s Spankings: A Semi-Autobiographical Account of a Young Wife’s Husbandly Spankings and Embarrassingly Public Punishments in a Family and Church Setting. It’s available on Amazon Kindle. Click the title to visit the order page. I had the privilege of copy-editing the book. It’s extremely hot with chapter after chapter of sexy spanking and humiliation scenes. If you are a fan of her blog, like I am, you know how arousing her writing can be. The book is free for Kindle Unlimited subscribers and only a few bucks for the rest of us. By the way, the sexy cover shot is really her!

get the red in

Her red bottom in the picture is real. I have had a problem reproducing accurately the way my bottom looks after a spanking. I’ve tried using a point-and-click camera as well as a semi-pro DSLR. The red seems to fade to nothing. Julie shared a technique she developed to “get the red out”. It doesn’t enhance the color, just brings it out to the actual way a freshly-spanked bottom looks.

Recently, I published a picture of my rear after a spanking. I used Julie’s technique to correct the color. Mrs. Lion looked at it and pronounced that it accurately reproduced how I looked when she was done. We can’t figure out why digital cameras have this problem. I’m an experienced photographer and I’ve worked with the camera-raw images (no corrections applied by the computer in the camera). The red is barely visible. It turns out that judicious color correction can bring it back. That’s what I’ve been doing. Mrs. Lion reviews and certifies there is no exaggeration. Below you can compare the before and after images.

lion's spanked bottom
Before (Left), After (Right)

It always bothered me that we couldn’t accurately show spanking results. Now we can!