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It should come as no big surprise that Lion and I remember things a little differently. We have a habit of writing posts about the same thing from vastly different points of view. It’s not that either one of us is right and the other wrong. However, sometimes I do wonder if Lion isn’t thinking about someone else.

I don’t remember Lion needing to ask me to ride him in the early days. I also don’t remember his giving me oral orgasms after Lion riding. If anything, I think he licked me before I rode him. Afterwards I would have been done. No oral stimulation needed. As for last night, I didn’t have plans for Lion. I knew I needed to do something since I said I would be paying some sort of attention to him every night rather than every other night. I was thinking about spanking because we were talking about leaving marks. He kept saying he was horny. Boy was he horny. Just ask him. He was horny.

Earlier in the day I had tweaked my back moving some boxes. Then we went out to dinner. Afterwards my back was still twinging. I decided spanking probably wasn’t going to happen. Moving at all was questionable. But after the football game I decided to unlock him and go from there.

Somehow I always think I’m not going to actually edge Lion. It’s my intention to unlock him, take him for a spin around the block so to speak, and lock him back up. And then I wind up edging him anyway. It’s unusual for me to get wet while playing with him. I know that’s the way it’s supposed to work and the way it works for most people, but it usually doesn’t for me. So I figured since I was wet, and he was horny (he’d mentioned that a few times) I would ride him. And I knew that he’d never be able to keep himself from having an orgasm so I didn’t even tell him to. I didn’t make it easy for him though. I went very slow at first and then I even stopped. I’m surprised he didn’t keep bucking when I stopped. He just let out a small moan. Maybe he thought I was done and wasn’t actually going to let him come. Would I do that to him? Well, yes, but not last night.

It was actually an afterthought to have him clean me up. I remembered I told him a long time ago that if he came in my mouth it was mine but if he came inside me or on my hand he had to eat it. I haven’t been doing that. I’ve been greedy. Last night it just seemed like a good idea to have him clean me. And, of course, he gave me some wonderful orgasms too. It was definitely a win-win situation.

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I am happy to report that Lion is back in action. Yesterday he managed to remain vertical for most of the day and he was able to eat whatever he wanted. And, while he had serious concerns about being broken sexually, this is not the case.

Last night I did try something different with him. First I gave him little love taps on his balls and cock. Not surprisingly, his cock sprang to life. Again, I wasn’t taking any chances so I moved into position between his legs. To change things up a bit I only touched him on the upstroke. I think it surprised him a bit. When I did suck him normally and then stopped, he actually whispered, “don’t stop.”  Of course I had to tease him a bit more, but by only touching him on the upstroke I was hoping I wouldn’t push him over the edge too quickly. It worked perfectly.

Afterwards Lion said he was glad he wasn’t broken. He said what happened Saturday night had never happened before and he was afraid something drastic was wrong. I didn’t think he was broken for good. His concern was that he’d be useless without the ability to have an erection. Of course I know men’s erections are a symbol of more than just sex, but Lion would not be useless if Mr. Weenie took a permanent vacation. After all, he’d still have his tongue and his fingers. I’m teasing my Lion. Obviously we are about more than just sex. I’m glad Lion feels better in every capacity.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Punishment, Sex

I am now nine days into my eleven day wait. I’ve gone through my typical chastity phases: horny, grumpy, and now very horny. I’m a little surprised that even after all these months my response stays the same. I was thinking about the difference between now, being caged and committed to surrendering sexual control and before we started. Before we began our chastity adventure, we weren’t having much sexual contact. I would regularly go more than a week without masturbating. But somehow it was different.

A big part of the change is that Mrs. Lion gives me a lot of sexual attention. Granted, she doesn’t necessarily give me sexual satisfaction, but she makes sure that I am regularly stimulated to the edge of orgasm. That prevents me from suppressing my sexual interest as I did before. That stimulation assures I can’t forget for a single day how much I want release. It’s regular foreplay without the payoff. I’m pretty sure that is what causes the general need for sex (duh!) and the resulting frustration probably makes me grumpy. I’ve noticed that if I don’t get that sexual stimulation for more than two days, my arousal level falls off and I begin to get “comfortable” with the lack of sex. My guess is that younger males will not lose their edge so fast, if at all. Aging has reduced some hormone levels; a good thing when caged. This could explain why the largest number of caged males are over fifty.

There are other, more significant differences. Mrs. Lion is learning to be more assertive and less worried about “hurting” me. If you read some of her early posts, you can see her concern that I not be too frustrated, or that she not give me much pain. Now, she is far more confident. She is amused by my frustration and gets real pleasure out of edging me and giving me ruined orgasms. That’s a big change. Last night I grumbled about being very horny. Her response was, “Do you want to wait a few more days?”

That’s a big change! I shut up. I did wonder if she would really do it, but I truly didn’t want to take the risk. I really want to come! I have no idea how I would react if she extended my wait. Given her current state of mind, I better not pout or it could get much worse. In the past I didn’t think a threat like that would have much effect on me. But after nine days it definitely got my full attention. Should she actually do it? I will regret writing this, but I think she should. The reason is an old adage in the discipline game: a punishment undemonstrated is not an effective deterrent.

I think the biggest difference now is that she made the threat at a time when I am counting the hours until I can finally come. If she did it a week ago, it wouldn’t have felt very serious at all to me. Now, if she does find a reason to make me wait longer, I will remember how much I hated it and if she makes the threat again, even on the first day of a wait, I will know how it felt at the end when I could have been able to come. I realize that if she does do this now, she will have to keep me caged on our trip; not so much to prevent cheating as to reinforce my helplessness and her power.

There are some males in long-term chastity who at some point stop wearing their devices. They still follow all the rules and wait the times they agreed to. But there is a big difference. They are doing it because they want to. Ok, I want this too. But I also want it when for a while, at least, I don’t want it. The cage prevents me from changing any of the rules. No matter how much I want to come, as long as I am locked in, I can’t. That’s what I love about the experience. Mrs. Lion truly has full control.

And that brings me to the biggest difference of all: Mrs. Lion now embraces that control. In the past, she gave me the experience she thought I wanted. She made me wait long enough to get frustrated, but not too long. She gave me a few swats for breaking a rule, and she teased me because I like it. I’m not saying that’s all changed. It hasn’t. But things are a little different now. She teases me because she likes to see me squirm as I get near orgasm and she likes my reaction when she stops just short of it. She appears more comfortable saying no to me and letting me know she is in charge.

I know she isn’t becoming a different person. I wouldn’t want her to change. But she is learning to take some pleasure from giving me what I want. She is using the power dynamic the way I had hoped she would. Best of all, she deals with my objections and growls with amusement, indifference, and the threat of more wait time if I get out of line. Most significantly, I think she understands the concept of “something I love to hate”. That’s really tough because at the time she does those things I really hate them. I want her to stop or not make me do something I don’t like with all my heart.

But now she knows that her lion is a little more complex than that. She’s learned that by doing those things I hate, she is giving me a wonderful gift. She is allowing me to experience the control I want so badly, and by doing this, she is really turning me on. Every shock, spanking, ruined orgasm, or extra day of waiting feeds a deep need that brings me both heat and satisfaction. Thank you, Mrs Lion.

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I’ve noticed that sometimes I puzzle Mrs. Lion with my choices. Yesterday she commented on the fact that while I was doing much more around the house, I didn’t want her to reward me with less days till my next orgasm. The reason I have pitched in more is that she is working extra hours and if I get home before her, I can handle the laundry and dinner so she has a chance to relax after her long day.

I think other aspects of my behavior as a caged male are also puzzling to my keyholder. The first thing that comes to mind is why I would want to be locked up in the first place. I know that Mrs. Lion understands that I like her to be in sexual control and she also knows I love being restrained, but I think there is some confusion as to exactly why this particular set of activities are so exciting to me. I’m not sure I fully understand why either. I can say that I really like that we are doing this. I don’t always like being locked up. That doesn’t mean I want to run wild. It just means that sometimes I don’t like the little irritations, the difficulty peeing, or I am just grumpy and want to grumble. The biggest turn on to me is that I don’t have control. I like that I can hate being locked up and hate being horny and really hate peeing erratically and yet I still have to remain in my cage.  This sends the unmistakable message to me that I am not in control and it doesn’t matter how I feel about being locked up. That is my condition and it isn’t going to change. That’s the real turn on!

What about waiting? Mrs. Lion knows I love sex and I love to have orgasms. So why would I ask her to restrict me from such pleasure? This is a much more complex issue. In part, making me wait is another, very powerful way for Mrs. Lion to demonstrate her control. After all, the main reason to lock my penis in a cage is to remove my ability to decide when I will orgasm. The only way to demonstrate this control is to prevent me from coming when I really want to.

Some say that males who are prevented from ejaculating change and become more domestic and more focused on their partner’s satisfaction. That’s not true in my case. I am always interested in Mrs. Lion’s happiness and satisfaction. I’m not very domestic, but I have always done my share around the house. It’s only fair. So, in my case, at least, making me wait shouldn’t be a tool to get me to do the things I should do anyway. Some males have strong fantasies about losing the ability to come and being required to turn into domestic, subservient, sexless beings who serve their keyholders. I don’t share those fantasies.

Mrs. Lion seemed surprised that I wasn’t particularly interested in earning time off from my current 11 day wait. I don’t think I am saying that I will never be interested in earning an early release, just that right now I am ok with my 11 day sentence. Also, Mrs. Lion has never extended my wait for any reason. It seems to me that the knife should cut both ways. Maybe on some level I see “earning” time off as a way of topping from the bottom. However, if Mrs. Lion regularly extended my waits as needed and reduced them when deserved, then earning time off could be fun.

Another area that seems confusing to her is teasing and edging. Why in the world would I want Mrs. Lion to push me to the edge of orgasm over and over and then lock me up unsatisfied? I can see how this might appear cruel. It certainly violates something most women learn when teens; you don’t tease a cock unless you plan to finish the job. There are two distinct reasons why I want to be teased this way: First, it is a way to show me who is in control. No matter how badly I want to come, I am not allowed that extra second of stimulation. Second, being brought to the edge also takes me 99% of the way to an orgasm. I get to experience the building arousal and excitement and I feel myself losing control and getting ready to ejaculate. I love that. In fact, some people consider edging as the male equivalent of  female multiple orgasms. I wouldn’t go that far, but I do enjoy it. Of course, I pay for it later. I am left wishing I could have that extra 1% and my general horniness is increased for a day or two.

I think that understanding why I want what we are doing is a powerful weapon for Mrs. Lion. A keyholder that understands why her caged male wants things and also understands that he loves to hate other things, provides her with the ability to offer a deeper and more fulfilling experience for her caged male. More importantly, she can see that what she is doing is not cruel; it’s exactly what her caged male wants. They say that knowledge is power. This is certainly true in forced male chastity.