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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Femdom, Lion's Journal, Lioness Orgasm, Pain, Punishment

Mrs. Lion has turned a corner. She correctly observes that she is prepared to give me what I asked for all along. She wonders how I will like it when I get it. I wonder as well. Of course, the world is waiting to learn exactly what this latest version of the lioness includes. A few features have been revealed. For one, she is much less interested in how I feel about wanting sex. Her post yesterday discussed that she wasn’t even tempted to get me off even I told her I was very horny. It should be noted that I didn’t ask to be unlocked, but she told me that she knew I wanted stimulation.

A second, more frightening feature was hinted at last weekend. She had me in the sling and put a long piece of peeled ginger root up my ass. It truly burned. I let her know. She was unmoved and left it in until I told her the effect had worn off. She then used some menthol rub (like Ben Gay) on a couple of spots on my balls. That burns a lot! Again she was unmoved and kept me restrained until after it peaked. It’s clear that when she administers painful stimulus, she means business. I know that both “treatments” were rather mild. The rub was old and not put on liberally at all. The ginger burns, but to date hasn’t been horrible. Lioness 2.0 let me know she was only previewing the true depth of that feature.

In her release announcement, she told us that she was no longer taking direction or requests from me. She said the new lioness would listen, but was not inclined to follow up on what I want until she had time to consider it and then give it her own twist. I had often said that forcing someone to do what they want done isn’t control; it’s service. Lioness 1.0 was very service oriented. Lioness 2.0 isn’t.

Apparently, lioness 2.0 is more interested in her own orgasms. I’m happy with that new feature. I wonder if a reduction in my number of orgasms is part of this new sexual look and feel. She kept me in my cage when I gave her an orgasm the other day. She later mentioned that she hadn’t planned on unlocking me at all that day. She did, however, and edged me more than a few times. It’s clear that lioness 2.0 doesn’t feel that I need to be out of my cage just because I provide her with orgasms.

She revealed one last feature so far: She has added the shock collar back into our lives. I wore it all day on Sunday. Yesterday, we made a trip to Ikea. Before she left for work in the morning, she told me to have the shock collar on (around my balls) and to be sure to remind her to take the remote control. Seems like this device will get a lot more use. It does make it much easier for Mrs. Lion to correct me on the spot and saves the trouble of remembering and offense for the next punishment day. It’s too soon to tell, but I think it will keep me much more attentive.

We can expect more information about the latest lioness release in the next days and weeks. Lioness 2.0 prefers demonstrating new features rather than announcing them. Poor lion.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Orgasm, Punishment

Over the last few months, Mrs. Lion and I have been writing about improving our enforced chastity / FLR practices. We seem to be circling C2(C squared: C * C): Control and Consistency. I think that C2 applies to any long term power exchange. This was brought home to me the other night.

Wednesday night was a scheduled orgasm night for me. I was not feeling a bit horny. Mrs. Lion graciously allowed me to remain caged. She informed me that unlike her past policy, I would not get another chance for an orgasm until my next scheduled date. Before closing the door on myself, I asked when that would be. I turned out to be only six days away. I accepted the deal. In the past I had always been allowed to wait until I felt horny and then I would get the delayed orgasm.

This new policy demonstrates C2. First, it maintains Mrs. Lion’s control. Even though under the old policy, she did have the right to refuse my later request, to me at least, it felt that I was ultimately deciding when I could orgasm. Second, this is consistent enforcement of her schedule for me. I like consistency.

C2 is both a major strength of power exchange and one of the largest challenges the dominant partner faces. Consistent application of control requires work to assure that the caged male is following all of his rules and requirements. It also means that infractions must be punished.

In my case, we have been fairly relaxed about enforcement and orgasm scheduling. We’ve had frequent discussions about this but still need to do some work. Interestingly, scheduled events like play and teasing have been very consistent. We both enjoy our nearly-daily sessions. In fact, I asked that we play less often. I never thought I would ever do that. I think that bonus orgasms, at least for now, should be suspended. I like the chance to get really frustrated and horny. I also like knowing just how far we will go. Of course, Mrs. Lion can change things at any time. Just my thought.

It all comes down to the people involved. I live well in a consistent environment. I know where my boundaries are and I can get comfortable within them. Consistent discipline tells me that my lioness is watchful and cares about my behavior. This sort of regime won’t work for everyone. In fact, as we get better at it, I may find it doesn’t work all that well for me.

The only way to figure this out is to try it. Just as I learned that too much play isn’t really fun for me, we may learn that strict control and discipline doesn’t work for one or both of us. The only way to find out is to try. We’ve taken the “crawl, walk, run” approach to enforced chastity and FLR. In terms of C2 I think we have crawled enough. I don’t know how Mrs. Lion feels about starting to “walk” now, but I think it might be time.

Our changes have been directional; we decide on a path and then take a couple of steps. I tend to want to go bounding off. Mrs. Lion prefers the status quo. This may be one of those moments where I want to push C2 and Mrs. Lion has a different idea. Her idea will win of course. Stay tuned for the next chapter.

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In: Male Control (training), Mrs Lion Comments, Punishment

It’s safe to say that Lion and I spend an inordinate amount of time thinking we disappoint each other. I think I don’t do enough for him. He thinks he doesn’t do enough for me. We’re a mess.

Last night I gave Lion his punishment swats for saying he’s broken all the time. Before I started, I warned him that if he moved we’d have to start all over again. One of his New Year’s resolutions was to stay still for punishment no matter how much it hurt. After eight or ten hard swats last night, with a pause in the middle for effect, he rolled over and told me it was just too much. I thought I could get him to roll over but then I realized it really was too much for him. Naturally, I thought I had gone too far. And also naturally, he thought he hadn’t gone far enough. He spent the rest of the night apologizing for moving and for breaking his resolution. He thinks he failed me. I kept telling him it was okay. After all, I thought I had failed him. We’re quite a pair.

This morning he asked if we can try again. We can. But why? What am I punishing him for? This is where I lose focus. He already feels bad that he moved, so isn’t he already punishing himself? He didn’t disappoint me. If anything, he disappointed himself. When my kids did something stupid, I’d yell for a bit and then tell them they were grounded for a certain period of time. When my then-husband came home we’d discuss it and he’d yell all over again and tell them they were grounded. Why? I’d already handled it. We’re done here. Why beat a dead horse?

So tonight I’ll punish Lion for not staying still during punishment. My challenge will be to make the swats as hard as last night. Punishing him for moving does not annoy me as much as his saying he’s broken.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Punishment, Spanking

As Lion wrote, he’s out of commission. A sore on Mr. Weenie has suspended play for a while. Each time he gets a sore, he’s sure it is something nefarious. To me, it usually looks the same. There’s something about the quality of the skin on a weenie that makes a sore look worse than it is. Add to that the fact that it’s on his favorite body part and it seems to multiply the severity to him. Now he says he’s broken again.

I hate that. Whether he’s not functioning because of depression, his itchiness, a sore, or whatever, he says he’s broken. In his mind, he’s broken and worthless and I’m immediately going to rush off to find a better man. I’m not a toddler. I can see beyond this moment. I know he’ll be back on track in a day or so. I also know it’s not his fault. His orgasm will be waiting for him when he’s ready for it. Besides, how long have I been broken (not wanting sex) and he hasn’t run off to find a better woman. Neither one of us is going anywhere.

However, I do think Lion should be punished for crying wolf so many times. He thinks because he didn’t write it in a post, he shouldn’t be punished for saying he’s broken. Not true. He’s said it a number of times to me. If he really wants to avoid punishment, he should stop saying it. What he thinks is his own business and I can’t punish him for thoughts. Once those thoughts are verbalized, or typed in the case of a post, they are fair game for discipline.

Now, his sore weenie has thrown a monkey wrench into my plans for the weekend. He was supposed to be wild between his two orgasms and then be in diapers (no cage) during the day until bedtime Sunday. I don’t want to subject him to sitting in pee with an open sore so the diapers are out. I’ve also left him wild because I don’t want to add any friction to the sore area. Since he’s out of commission through no fault of his own I can’t very well punish him for wrecking my plans. Therefore, the plans have to change. We need to run some errands today and then Lion will have to hold a butt plug for a while. What constitutes a while? At least two hours or until he’s too uncomfortable. Generally he can hold it for more than two hours, but I assume, during the day, he’ll have things he needs or wants to do. That movement may prove challenging with a butt plug in. We’ll find out, won’t we?

Tonight he’ll get his punishment for saying he’s broken. My guess is, he won’t be so quick to say it when I’m through with him.