It seems that every male sex blogger posts pictures of his penis at one time or another. I’m no exception. Over the last seven years, my readers have been treated to hundreds of views of my genitals. It’s posed locked in various chastity devices. You’ve seen it hard and soft, in bondage, and as a small part of a larger shot. My balls peek out during rear views. Speaking of which, my rear end is even more exposed than the front.

In many cases, there is a legitimate reason for these intimate views. I believe that pictures of empty male chastity devices are of little help when a guy wants to decide if a particular model is right for him. The clothing industry learned that centuries ago. Put a garment on a model and customers can easily visualize themselves wearing it. Show it flat on a table and it’s much more difficult to sell. I think the same is true of sexual accessories. The bigger toy dealers now show all their wares on live models. Nice!

I get a little thrill of humiliation and vulnerability when I show you my private areas. I like to imagine that you enjoy the revelation. When I see other male bloggers’ dick pics attached to their posts, I don’t react one way or another. I can appreciate the quality of the composition and lighting, but beyond that, I’m neutral. Now, if the picture includes a female interacting with said penis, then depending on what is happening, I can become most involved, even aroused. I do appreciate chastity devices and other toys shown in use. It’s much clearer to me how they work when I see them in action.

The feedback I never seem to get is how my dick pics affect female readers. I think Mrs. Lion likes them. She hasn’t expressed a strong opinion either way. I can’t recall a female reader offering feedback. I suppose that means the images aren’t particularly offensive. I’m pretty sure I would hear about any that are. I like to think my female readers enjoy the view.

I know that the general thinking is that we males react to visuals much more than females. Is that really true? I do think that most women need some sort of connection with the male whose penis she is viewing in order to make it enjoyable. I also realize that human sexual organs are similar enough to one another to make random display uninteresting.

If you are a fan of statistics, my estimate is that our blog has been viewed by over five million visitors over the last seven years. Conservatively, half of our posts and pages carry an image of my penis or ass. So, at least 2.5 million people have seen my genitals and/or butt. That’s an astounding number. You could fill Seattle’s Century Link football field 39 times with the number of people who have seen my cock. That’s more people than the population of Houston, Texas. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I didn’t consider that all of Houston would see when adding images to my posts. For that matter, I never thought about how far my words would reach. It’s humbling and more than a little embarrassing.

Since Lion brought up preferences, I’m wondering about circumcised versus uncircumcised. Admittedly, my experience is very limited. I’ve only been with two men (yes, for real) and they are both circumcised. However, when my sons were born, I did not have them circumcised. I didn’t see the need to put them through the pain. I’ve read that uncircumcised men have greater feelings during sex than circumcised men. How can they know that? Women, I assume, can feel a difference. So my question is whether women a) can tell the difference and b) prefer circumcised or uncircumcised men. Talk amongst yourselves. Click here to take Twitter poll.

we were on the wrong page last night

Lion and I apparently were not on the same page last night. I worked from home because I’ve been nauseous for a few days. Who wants to be at work feeling like that? Around dinner time, we were trying to figure out what to have. Lion suggested pizza. That did not sound good to me. Ordinarily, I’m all over pizza. I assume my stomach had taken over my taste buds and vetoed it. The more I thought about food, the more my stomach protested. We finally decided to have our go-to upset tummy meal which is egg noodles and peas.

My stomach was behaving but I wasn’t sure for how long. Sometimes I move the wrong way and it sends out the evacuation order. We were watching TV and holding hands. Around 9, Lion asked if we were going to do anything and then said he shouldn’t have asked. I thought he meant he shouldn’t have asked because of my stomach. He thought he shouldn’t have asked because I’m in charge. He suggested we get an earlier start today. I’m not sure if he forgot about my stomach issue. Maybe he figured it was better because I wasn’t complaining about it.

So far, knock-on-wood, it seems okay today. We’ll have to see how it goes but we may be able to get that earlier start tonight. I still owe him some Icy Hot. (I just threatened him with Icy Hot. We really don’t have to use it.)

security screw on lion's chastity cage
This little security screw locking a cage around my penis is a powerful symbol of our devotion to each other.

On Christmas night, Mrs. Lion locked me into my Jail Bird chastity device. I was concerned. After I had it on only an hour, I asked her to take it off. It felt fine locked around my cock. My problem was that something, maybe the side effects of the eye medicine I’m taking make me feel unsteady. I was concerned about peeing into the toilet without falling over. She understood and unlocked me.

I commented that I thought she was going to lock me into the cock ring. She said that her post made it clear the Jail Bird was coming. I misunderstood. Yesterday morning, I told her that I felt steady enough to manage the Jail Bird if she wished.

I don’t think it is important to her if I wear any device on my penis. I’m pretty sure that’s true of almost all keyholders. How often does a woman think about her man’s cock? I’d be very surprised if Mrs. Lion gives any thought to the state of my dick. Yes, she likes seeing it hard; but does she care whether or not it’s sporting hardware?

She probably thinks about my wedding ring a lot more than any chastity device I might be wearing.There’s a good reason for this. My cock, at worst is an instrument of betrayal if it is involved with another female. So long as it remains her exclusive sexual property, it’s of little interest unless she wants to use it.

We guys, on the other hand, spend a lot of time thinking about our cocks. Those of us into male chastity can become obsessed with the idea of penis bondage. We try to get our partners invested too. Mrs. Lion is willing to support me. She has taken ownership of my penis (her weenie) and the hardware she locks onto it.

She does it because she knows it’s what I want. She’s even willing to assume the behavior of true owner and keyholder because I want it. I love her for that. I would love for her to actually embrace male chastity and FLR. It is the narrative of my fantasies.

I don’t expect her to do that. It makes no real sense in the context of who she is. There might be a more realistic goal. First, no device is  needed for me to not masturbate or have sex with others. I know how important it is for her that she and only she provide me with sexual release. I really like knowing how important that is to her. I won’t betray her.

Over the years, Mrs. Lion has written about my locking penis devices as a concrete sign of my commitment to her. I don’t think she believes it, but the concept is very close to how I feel about it. I’ve long ceased to consider a chastity device a way to assure I won’t jerk off. That’s why the locking cock ring is just as effective for me. I consider it a symbol, one I can’t remove, of our commitment to each other.

It’s obvious that having it locked on my penis is a more graphic version of my wedding ring, so it’s easy to understand why I consider it a powerful symbol. The reason she might is more subtle.

When she locks a device on me — the fact it is my penis isn’t really that relevant — she is symbolically claiming me as her own. She’s marked her claim. This isn’t literally true. It’s, as I said, subtle. Servicing it — putting it on and taking it off — might be considered a ritual that underlines our commitment to each other. I surrender control of my favorite toy and she accepts it as a way of showing her love for me. I never lock or unlock myself. It’s an event we share; a ritual.

The devices keep these wonderful, positive values close to the surface of our marriage. Demonstrating our devotion to each other is never further away than the security screw securing a device to my penis.

lion orgasm frequency chart
Lion’s orgasms by month for 2018.

Our practice of male chastity has made changes in both of us. The biggest change, I think, is that we are both consciously aware of my ejaculations. This appears to be true of many guys who practice this. We keep track of when we come and how many orgasms we have during any period of time. I’ve been tracking my orgasms since January 2016.

I started so that I would remember my performance over time. Mrs. Lion doesn’t keep track all the time. She’s usually aware of how long it’s been since my last ejaculation. Sometimes she asks me and I refer to the spreadsheet. I don’t think it is particularly useful to keep these statistics. I just want to know.

The reason, I think, is because male chastity focuses on my orgasms. Since they are never up to me, keeping track gives me a sort of control over the process. Let’s face it, this kind of sexual surrender focuses a guy’s attention on his cock. It’s not that we don’t think about them anyway, but being locked up and controlled by a partner makes our dicks even more interesting to us.

For example, how many couples spend any time discussing the state of the man’s penis? “Are you horny today, dear?” is a question most wives never ask. The point is that for most, sex is something that you do in the dark. Even if you are kinky, non-bedroom conversation doesn’t generally include penis talk.

I realize that there is wide variation in terms of how interested keyholders are in the mechanics of enforced male chastity. Some have no interest at all in the hardware. The man locks and unlocks himself. She keeps the key. Mrs. Lion is more involved. She locks and unlocks me. I, however, do the hardware shopping. She’s shown no interest in what chastity device I wear. She trusts my choices will do the job.

She’s involved in the process. She likes teasing me and owning every single orgasm I have. She also likes my semen. She considers the hardware as something I want. Her interest is that I keep my paws to myself. If she feels I might not be trusted, then she will get very interested in me wearing a chastity device.

How many wives are aware of how often their husbands ejaculate? How many guys keep track? Male chastity puts a focus on the penis that doesn’t exist without the practice. I wonder how many women even think about penises? I’m sure they think about sex, but not necessarily the penis in isolation. I wonder how many women can identify their partner’s penis in a “lineup”? I wonder how many guys can identify their own? Whatever the number, I’m sure that couples practicing male chastity will score higher.

After five years of this, it’s unlikely that our penis focus will change. It’s become something we share. I carry it around and Mrs. Lion owns it and controls it. I’m pretty sure that most other couples don’t think of it that way.