tantus silk dildo
This is the Tantus Silk dildo. It is completely smooth. This is the large. It is 1-1/2″ diameter and 7″ long. This is the one Mrs. Lion used in me.

Our eclipse came early. Saturday night, Mrs. Lion used the large “Silk” dildo in me. It surprised her how easily it went in. I only felt momentary discomfort when the tip first started entering. The comfort is less a tribute to my anal prowess than to the fact the Silk is very smooth silicone. It felt good going in. When Mrs. Lion slowly moved it in and out, it was fine.

The secret to this comfort, aside from the smooth finish, is that Mrs. Lion took her time and used lots of lube. This will be the first strap-on dildo she will use on me. So-called “realistic” dildos that look like real penises, have lots of bumps on them. Just like a real penis, there is a head, the sharp shoulder to the shaft, and of course, the shaft with veins. Any sort of texture, like this, stimulates the nerves and makes the dildo less comfortable.

I’m very sure that my comfort isn’t exactly Mrs. Lion’s goal. She wants me to take larger, more “interesting” dildo’s. However, I do need a chance to learn to accept an anal visitor and at the very least, manage the sensations that pegging creates. The dildo on the left is realistic. It has a distinct head and lots of texture on the shaft.

There isn’t any rule about this, but it seems that many couples who practice spanking, also do male dildo play. In our case, it was my curiosity that got Mrs. Lion started. I don’t have any interest in a real penis inside me. That holds no appeal at all. But the idea that Mrs. Lion can take me this way, is very hot.

Women say that we are obsessed with our dongs. They may be right. Mine is a lot of fun for me. Trying enforced chastity is one way to make my penis part of a game that two can play. Oh boy! It’s not too big a leap to see how I might like to try anal fun too. It’s penis related. “But isn’t it gay? you might wonder.

I don’t think it is. If anal penetration is all it takes to be gay, homosexuality would be shallow, indeed. In my mind, being gay is loving men the same way I love women. Where my penis goes, or what goes into my anus is completely beside the point. So many people are consumed by labels. To assign a label, you need rules. For example, because Mrs. Lion spanks me and makes me wear panties, I satisfy the rules that make me “submissive.” If I take a penis-shaped object in my ass, I must be gay.

Nothing is that simple. I’m submissive when Mrs. Lion spanks, panties, or pegs me. I’m just the opposite the rest of the time. I’m a complex critter. Are stamp collectors all nerds? Well, more than one president of the United States collected stamps. I am me; a unique member of my species. I am undeniably male. The rest is up to interpretation.

 

Fleet enema
This is what I use to clean up prior to pegging.

I leave tomorrow on my first business trip since the rotator cuff surgery. I have mixed feelings about going away once again. I love the destination and will enjoy seeing friends again. I’m going to miss my lioness. This is also the first time that I will be strictly on my own, day and night. I’m up to the challenge. While my ability to use my right arm is still limited, I can take care of everything I have to do to get along. That doesn’t mean I won’t be worried. There are a lot of things I know I can’t do. Hopefully, I can adapt and get help when needed.

Of course, being away means that our activities go on hold until I return. This hiatus isn’t going to devastate our newly-hatched anal program. That’s because the anus doesn’t return to it’s pre-penetrated state very quickly. Unlike the vagina, which bounces back after even the most extreme stretching, the anus behaves differently.

When the anus is stretched, it “learns” to expand to the size needed to accept the object it receives. This ability isn’t obvious. The anus does tighten up when an object is removed. But, it remembers it’s former state of relaxation. So, any penetration I receive this weekend isn’t wasted. After my four day trip, she can resume right where she left off.

Technically, anal training doesn’t have to start with a very small dildo. Anal stretching is more a matter of slow entry and then slight movement. The hardest part of being penetrated for me, is the initial entry. It hurts as my nether region is pried open. Lots of lube and patience for this initial entry is deeply appreciated. once the tip, or head, is in, the rest is not terribly uncomfortable.

Two things can cause considerable pain: The first is lack of lube. It’s important to provide a lot of lube. One helpful method is to use a large syringe; the kind you use to give medicine to kids. They’re inexpensive and can be used over and over again. Just fill it with lube, insert it so that the body of the syringe is almost all inside, then squirt out the lube. Then, repeat. The more lube the better. Also, be sure to lube up the anus and the dildo iself.

The second cause  of pain is poop. You do remember that every ass has poop in it. If the bowel is full, during insertion, I will feel a sudden sharp pain. This is generally when the tip of the dildo hits something solid up there. It doesn’t happen all that frequently, but when it does, ouch! A very easy way to prevent this is to take an enema prior to the party. I use Fleet enemas. They are cheap and easy to administer. I buy the 7.8 oz enemas. Fleet’s also come in a 4 oz version. The greater quantity of fluid helps clean things out more.

If you wish, you can do a classic enema with about a quart of water. This works very well and can be part of your scene. It’s all a matter of preference. Some people take multiple enemas to make sure that the passage is totally poop free. This is generally not necessary.

Another, aesthetic form of preparation is to remove any hair near the anus. Shaving back there makes the view much more appealing for your partner. Needless to say, be freshly washed before beginning.

Despite all preparation, sometimes some poop comes out on the tip of the dildo. It’s a good idea to have a few paper towels available to put the dildo on when removed. They are also handy to wipe away the excess lube that will also be in the area. Have fun!

pegging
I promise I won’t be this rough with Lion.

I have only vague recollections of Lion suggesting he use a dildo on me wearing a strap-on. I don’t remember his ordering a Rodeoh prior to the one we’re getting today. He says I showed no interest and that certainly sounds like me. Somewhere in my memory banks I remember a conversation about his using a dildo on me and I wasn’t excited by the idea. Of course, I don’t get turned on by much anyway, but a dildo would not be one of those things. It seems impersonal. I’d much rather have the real thing.

Lion says one of the appeals is that he won’t have an accidental orgasm. This may be the I-don’t-care-about-sex-for-me talking, but what’s the harm in that? I know I’ve grown very lax in making Lion wait. He’s gone through some rough patches lately where he isn’t much interested in sex. To counter that, I’ve given him orgasms when he is interested. Is that wrong? Lion doesn’t think so, of course. I’m running the show and I don’t think so. I suppose if I regain my libido and he’s in danger of having an accidental orgasm while trying to pleasure me then we can revisit dildos for me. Right now they’re just for him.

I’m pretty sure we gave away some dildos when Lion went through a cleaning phase. He decided if we weren’t playing then someone else should have some fun with all the toys that were just laying around collecting dust. When we moved from the east coast we bought two huge locking chests to transport the kink collection. We still have the majority of the stuff. But there are some very happy people where we made the donation.

I know there are more dildos around just waiting for me to find them. There are at least two in the trailer. Lion is anxious to get started with anal training. He wanted to start last night. I convinced him waiting a day wouldn’t kill him. He’s chosen the dildo we should start with. I made some suggestions but he’s sticking to his guns. The smooth purple one gets the start. I’m just trying to start small since we haven’t done anal in a while.

Last night I edged him quite a few times. I left him horny and frustrated. I figured a satiated Lion would be less likely to “enjoy” a dildo up his ass. Not that he’ll enjoy it but you know what I mean. He said I’d need some time to work up to having something in my ass too. Well, no. I didn’t. I don’t remember him taking it slow. Not that he rammed himself in there quickly. It was just like vaginal sex. At any rate, I’ll take it slow with him. I’m not in a hurry.

I’m sure we’ll have to experiment with positions too. We usually do it with him on his knees or him in the sling. Both positions are problematic with his shoulder. Maybe he can kneel on the floor and rest against the bed. Maybe some pillows under his butt will work. I have no idea how things will work with the Rodeoh. We never really managed to line up when I used a harness. Our first attempts at pegging will be just a dildo in my hand. Once we figure out how much he can take and how long he can take it we can add the Rodeoh into the mix.

dildo collection
This is around 75% of our dildo collection. I have been amassing them over the years. Now they will be put to use in me. (click image to enlarge)

Over the years, I have amassed a large number of BDSM toys. Among them is my dildo collection. Last night we went around the house gathering the ones we could find so Mrs. Lion would be able to decide what to use on me later. What you see in the picture is what we could find. It is about three-quarters of the collection. They range from a small (the not-as-big-as-my-real-woody casting of me) 1-1/2 inch by about 5-1/2 inch (2nd from the left), to the mammoth 3-inch diameter monster on the right. The bottom one is a Feeldoe. It’s reputed to be the best double dildo every made. There is a smaller, red Feeldoe. That is in the collection, just not where we could find it last night.

This collection gives Mrs. Lion a lot of options for training and pegging me. I didn’t buy them with that in mind; well, maybe some of the time it was what I thought I wanted. The oldest dildos are latex. I had more, but threw them out at some point. Only two of those originals are in the picture: the giant at the far right (the dark marks are from leather toys that shared my toybag with them), and the fourth from the left. As we unearth more of our collection, I’ll provide a new picture.

Mrs. Lion has used a few of these up my ass in the past. The third from the left is the Tantrus large. I also have the small and medium as well. They are currently lost. The large is about 1-1/2 inches in diameter and 8 inches long. I can accommodate that one with a little practice. It’s particularly comfortable because it is smooth. Fake veins and other dildo decorations don’t glide in (and out) as easily. It’s also a nice length for a strap-on. The extra length gives Mrs. Lion a place to grab it and guide it while still having enough left to fill me quite well.

Shortly after starting this blog, I ordered a Rodeoh designed to fit me, not Mrs. Lion. The idea at the time was that I could wear it with a dildo and use it to penetrate her. That way, I could stay locked up and she could enjoy a nice fucking without concern that I will ejaculate. I ordered it and before it arrived, the Rodeoh folks offered to sell me two very nice silicone dildos at an extremely reduced price. The smaller one is the fifth from the left. We haven’t found the larger one yet. The small one is about  1-5/8 inches in diameter and 6 inches long.  Mrs. Lion wasn’t interested in my original idea and my Rodeoh was never used.

When she was hunting for dildos last night, Mrs. Lion found that Rodeoh, which came in a very nice cloth bag. She has forgotten that I had bought it. Oddly, she had a vague memory of the dildos I bought from Rodeoh. Since she found the Rodeoh, I tried it on. It fits very well; Still no interest in me using it on her. Later today, her Rodeoh will arrive. She will be using that on me. The great wheel of sex goes round and round.