I whomped Lion’s butt for about five minutes last night. It seemed like enough. He was red all over and possibly had a few bruises forming. I wasn’t tired. He was only bleeding a tiny bit. But I was happy with the way his buns looked. I don’t think I cheated him. I don’t think he thinks I cheated him. He was probably very happy to be done.

After my shower, I wondered what to do with him. I still haven’t really unpacked the restraints. I showed them to him, and we acknowledged that the straps were way too long to use as is. We’ll have to work on them a bit. I thought of ginger, but I wasn’t sure we had any. Still, I decided to make it a butt night. I took a vibrating dildo that isn’t very big and went to work. The other day, he got some lube squirters, so I squirted some lube and followed that by the dildo slathered with more lube. I’d say you can never have too much lube, but you really can. Let’s say you need more than you think you do.

I was going slow, and Lion didn’t seem to be able to get it in all the way. That’s fine. I had sprung this on him. When we really get into anal play, he does an enema beforehand. I started moving it in and out since it wasn’t going in any further. When it got uncomfortable (at least when I knew it was uncomfortable), I stopped. You have to start slow with anal. You can’t just slam it in there.

When he was all cleaned up, he moved into blow job position. When I give him a hand job, I concentrate the pressure just under the head. Why not do the same thing with a blow job? I did a few deeper thrusts, but I mostly stayed with the tip. It must have worked because he was very happy. So happy, in fact, that I decided to let him go all the way. It was 16 days, and I thought he should have a happy ending.

Next time around, I’m going to try to get him super horny. If I can get him to the edge consistently, then I can get him super horny. I want him to be panting and sweating when I leave him hanging. That will require more BDSM to get him turned on. We’ll fix the straps, get some ginger, break out the IcyHot and be on our way.

By the way, I suggested having ass night every time I spank him. We’ll see what happens. If we start with an enema, it might just work.

The other night, I took on the freezer to clear ice blocking the drain on the bottom. By the time I was done, my right shoulder had hurt, and I had a rather large bruise on my left palm. Plus, I’d been crawling around on the floor, so my legs and back were unhappy. After I took a shower, I didn’t want to do anything else. Yesterday, I took advantage of the last sunny day for a while and mowed the strip of grass that was left. It took about twenty minutes and added to my step count for the week. I was sweaty and needed a break. Just before I’d gone to mow the lawn, our new TV audio/video receiver arrived. For whatever reason, the old one decided to stop pushing sound out to all but the right front speaker, so we had to replace it. After about an hour’s rest, I tackled installing it. What fun!

Despite all of the chores and all the crawling around on the floor, I still found the energy to play with Lion last night. He was hard almost from the second I touched him. That was a big clue he was horny. The other was that he was out from under the blankets. I used my hand for a little bit and then asked if he’d like to be sucked. He’s only turned me down a handful of times when I’ve asked that. I knew he wouldn’t last night.

Even though he was hard, I still took my time. I didn’t want him to accuse me of rushing. Besides, I wanted to get him all hot and bothered. On one of my breaks from sucking him, I noticed his wait time was 13 days. I know. It’s not the longest wait on record. We were averaging a seven-day wait, I think. Then Lion started having some trouble maintaining erections and/or getting turned on. I think our average then went to something like fourteen days. Some men like to wait a long time. We’ve never really played it that way. When I took control over Lion’s orgasms, I never really thought about making him wait a long time. I saw it as my decision to allow him to come when I wanted him to come. Whatever day we’re on, if I want him to have an orgasm, he should have an orgasm. Three-day wait? Let’s do it. Seven-day wait? Yes, please. Four days? Bring it. It has little to do with when he wants one.

Of course, that’s not true. I can’t compel him to have an orgasm if he’s not cooperative. There are times he’d love to have an orgasm, and my weenie doesn’t cooperate. Sometimes I’ve been able to “take” an orgasm. By that, I mean he’s not necessarily horny, but I can be persistent and rub one out of him. Now I’ve modified my control of Lion’s orgasms to be when I want him to have an orgasm, he has an orgasm… as long as his body is able.

Thankfully, he was horny enough and hard enough last night to be edged a few times before I gave him an orgasm. I tasted precum on the first edging and more on the way to the finish line when I got a nice amount of cream filling. I won’t say it’s the most I’ve ever gotten, but it’s the most I’ve gotten in a while. Much to Lion’s dismay (Not!), I didn’t share any with him. It’s mine, and he can’t have it. But there’s always next time.

This timer costs less than $10. I think the red area showing time left is particularly meaningful.

A couple of months ago, I added an orgasm timer to the information on the right side of our pages. It records the number of days since my last ejaculation. I have no idea if anyone cares, but since this blog tracks my male chastity experiences, I figured it makes sense to provide this data. We also write about our domestic discipline experiences. I’ve been thinking about adding a spanking timer too. It would record the number of days since my last spanking.

If I only get spanked for breaking the rules or annoying Mrs. Lion, the timer would record how long I’ve been a good boy. I’m not sure that is entirely sensible. That’s because I get “just because” spankings if I’ve managed to be good for too long. We need reminders that we are in a disciplinary relationship. The longer I go without breaking a rule, the less likely it gets that Mrs. Lion will observe and punish an infraction. To cure this and to make up for things I might have done and not been caught doing, every so often, Mrs. Lion gives me a “just because” spanking.” She decides when I need one. Since she sometimes forgets how long it’s been, the timer on our page might help her. I guess that decides it! The timer is now on the site!

Speaking of timers, we’ve learned that the Disciplinary Wives Club’s advice of using a timer to assure a spanking isn’t less severe than it should be is excellent advice. The DWC suggests a minimum of ten minutes for a spanking. If more than one offense is being punished, five minutes should be added for each offense. A timer should be used. When the time is up, it doesn’t mean the spanking will end. It means it can end any time after the timer sounds.

Mrs. Lion has adopted this practice. It’s dramatically increased my suffering. Ten minutes is a very long time if your bottom is being paddled. It assures that Mrs. Lion has enough time to make me regret my sin. I had one fifteen-minute spanking. I don’t want another! Speaking of timers, we have Amazon Echo devices in our bedroom. Mrs. Lion sets a timer by saying, “Alexa, set a ten-minute spanking timer.” She replies, “Spanking timer, ten minutes starting now.” Mrs. Lion then begins punishing me. If you don’t have an Echo device, you can get an inexpensive timer from Amazon. You can find it here. There is nothing worse than hearing the timer finally go off, and Mrs. Lion continues her punishment. I was waiting for that timer to go off. It felt like hours before it sounded. Then, Mrs. Lion ignores it and keeps spanking. Poor lion!

I’ve learned that a ten-minute-plus timed spanking is incredibly effective as a punishment. I feel it for at least three days. Sitting isn’t comfortable. So far, Mrs. Lion hasn’t punished me a day or two after a spanking. She won’t hesitate if I earn another. She has said that she might not spank me in that situation and instead do something else I won’t like. Here comes a stupid lion suggestion: If I’m dumb enough to get in trouble so soon after a spanking, a second one is probably the most effective teaching tool. I don’t think anything else is as unpleasant.

I like the idea of the two timers. I want the number on the “time since my last orgasm” timer to be as small as possible. I want the number on the spanking timer to keep getting larger. You can watch them both and see how I am doing. I will also note the reason for my last spanking. I expect the spanking timer will go to zero very soon. Poor lion!

Lion’s latest wait was six days. We hadn’t really been doing much in those six days to make him hornier. I spanked him a few times, trying to figure out over-the-knee positions. I teased him a few times. He’s been reading a lot about spanking and that tends to get his motor running. It’s been sort of a slippery slope lately. He said he feels some pressure to perform and that may be making it more difficult to do so. He suggested he should be spanked if he couldn’t have an orgasm. Apparently, that would give him more incentive. I agreed but added the option of telling him when I didn’t want him to have an orgasm so he didn’t have a punishment hanging over his head. Now he’ll get spanked if he doesn’t have an orgasm when I want it as well as if he has one when I don’t want it.

He wasn’t sure if he was horny last night. That’s fine. I wasn’t sure if I wanted him to have an orgasm. While we were both deciding our preferences, I sucked him. There was no pressure on either of us. At some point, we both decided he should have an orgasm. Afterward, he said when I asked him if he wanted one, I’d already activated the launch codes and he really, really wanted one. Good thing I was in agreement.

Later on, he started talking about comments we’ve been getting on our posts. He says I should answer them. I do appreciate them. I just don’t know what to say. Here’s a suggestion to try XYZ. Wow. That doesn’t sound like me at all. Maybe I could do X, but Y and Z are not appealing. The thought that crossed my mind is that Lion has people to talk to about what we do. They understand what he wants. They are gung-ho about it. Yes, yes. I put on a skin-tight catsuit and dig my stilettos into his scrotum for fun. That’s not me.

This morning, I was thinking I need something like AA or Al-Anon to talk to people. Hi, my name is Mrs. Lion and I spank my husband. I guess what it boils down to is that I feel like an outsider. Maybe even an imposter or a fraud. I do things to Lion but I wouldn’t consider myself one of “them”. Not that there’s anything wrong with “them”. Sometimes Lion says there’s something wrong with certain people he sees on TV. There was a group of people who throw parties for their pets. He thinks they’re weird. I usually point out that he’s in no position to call anyone else weird. I’m pretty sure the pet party people would think he’s weird for wanting to be spanked and have his orgasms controlled.

Sometimes I feel like I’m in limbo. I’m somewhere between normal and weird. But who decides what’s normal and what’s weird? You certainly can’t ask the normals or weirdos. They’ll say they’re normal and everyone else is weird. [Lion — We’re normal, of course. Those dog party people are weird! What we do hurts no one but me. It supports our marriage. Above all, it shows how much you love me. I don’t know how much it caught on, but the DWC was a kind of spanking support group. One of the things that make stuff like that fail is that most of the people who want to join are guys who want to be spanked instead of women wanting support and technique tips.]