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When I read Lion’s post today my first thought was, “Great. Now I have to come up with punishments so he’ll accept rewards.” And I hate coming up with punishments. So I figured we were at an impasse. He said he felt like he was topping from the bottom if he got a reward for doing things he should be doing anyway. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that by not accepting the rewards he’s topping from the bottom, too. If I tell him that by cleaning out the garage he can have one day knocked off his sentence and he cleans the garage (which technically he should have done without a reward) but then says he doesn’t want a day off, we’re doing things his way. It may not take a lot of physical effort to come up with rewards and punishments, but since I’m fighting my own nature it is difficult. Why expend the energy if nothing comes of it?

Growing up, I always wondered why less emphasis was placed on the good things people do than on the bad things. Why is it more important to punish than to reward? Don’t I want to encourage good behavior even if it is something he should be doing? Don’t we give kids allowances for doing chores? At work, we’re constantly told we didn’t get certain things done, but when we hold up the body of work that we actually accomplished, they tell us that’s our job. Why didn’t I get this one thing done? Because I was busy doing all these things here. No good. You should have done it all. Why not give some praise for what was done and then perhaps ask how long the other part will take?

Why can’t I give Lion tasks to do and reward him when they are done? Why do I have to punish him for not doing things or for doing the wrong things? I’m not saying I’ll never punish him. I’m just saying it’s not a comfortable way for me to operate. I was actually proud of myself for thinking of a way for him to earn rewards. I don’t have a great track record in the reward/punishment department. If he doesn’t want the reward then it was a waste of my time. Besides, if I’m the one in charge then why does he get to choose if he wants the reward or not?

Right now I’m throwing in the towel for this wait time. Any time off he may have earned has now been eaten up by the punishment I would have given him for topping from the bottom. Net effect: zero. We’ll try again next time.

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Last night I decided to go back to anal training. Lion was plugged for about two hours. He said he’d rather have me pay attention to the other side. I was more than happy to oblige.

I edged him a number of times. Each time I got him closer and closer. He was actually writhing when I stopped. I think it’s the closest I ever got him without ruining his orgasm. Even afterwards when I brushed the head of his cock, he squirmed. I don’t know why he was so sensitive but I liked it. I wonder if he gets hornier when he knows how long he has to wait. Seven more days for him. Maybe there’s a tipping point. A six day wait is tolerable. A nine day wait seems a little long. A twelve day wait is an eternity. I just picked random numbers, but there may be something to that theory.

Lion is not interested in time off for good behavior. He wants to wait the full time. I’m not sure I understand this. In the past he’s said he wants the option for both punishment and reward. Now that I finally figured out a reward he doesn’t want it. The past few nights he has figured out dinner. Last night he did a few loads of laundry. It seems like he’s working hard to earn those days off. Or is he becoming the domesticated bottom who will lick my feet? I just got a mental image of Lion in a French maid costume. He’d look very cute, but I don’t think he’s becoming a domesticated bottom. I think he’s just trying to help out a bit more than usual and I appreciate it.

Now I have to think of another way to reward Lion. Back to the drawing board.

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As promised, I went for a Lion ride last night. It didn’t go exactly as planned. I think Lion forgot one of the reasons we stopped using this position. Over the years we’ve gained weight and we don’t fit together physically as we once did. The angles are off. For now, I don’t think it’s possible for me to orgasm while riding him.

Oh well, life and lemons, I turned around and went for a Lion orgasm with reverse Lion riding. However, Lion thought I didn’t want him to come and was trying to hold off. So I gave him a hand job. I didn’t a want to lock him up without the proper send off.

He asked how long he’d be waiting and I told him it would be eleven days or whatever the night before our trip is. He grumbled. It’s a long wait. I laughed at him. He’d just had an orgasm and was grumbling about a long wait. I told him there may be opportunities to have time off for good behavior. After I locked him up he said he had fun being wild. He’ll be wild again soon. When we leave for our trip in ten days or so I will unlock him before we go. This way I don’t have to remember the key at all. And he’s in no danger of being pinched by the cage for our long drive.

So how can Lion earn that time off for good behavior? I have to work late for the next week or so. Lion can make dinner. I think making dinner for seven days would be worth at least one day. Maybe two. It depends on how much he grumbles about making dinner for seven days. He’s an excellent cook. He just doesn’t want to cook every night. Hey, me too! I also don’t want to stay at work late. I’m sitting here today wondering if I can even make it to the end of a regular day. So grumbling about making dinner will definitely not go over well with me. However, walking into the house knowing that dinner is either ready or on the way to being ready will make Mrs Lion happy and more likely to make that eleven day wait get shorter. Besides, I’m not asking him to physically make dinner every night. He can stop by the store and get his famous fried chicken, cole slaw and potato salad dinner. Frozen lasagna works. Or he could text me and I will bring home Chinese food. He just has to figure out what’s for dinner so I can walk in the door and not have to worry about it. I’m not picky. We could have sandwiches. As long as I don’t have to think about it I’ll be happy. And I know Lion will be happy when those eleven days change to ten and maybe even nine.

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Last night I think I surprised Lion by noticing that he ate before I did and he dropped some food. Normally he admits it before I realize he did it. He earned himself four swats. Since I “award” different amounts of swats each time, he’s never sure how many swats are coming or how hard they will be. I guess those four swats were especially hard because he squirmed a lot. Squirming sometimes earns him more swats, but I was just proud of myself for catching him last night so I didn’t add any.

As promised, I gave him his anniversary orgasm last night. Since it was a special occasion I don’t know if it negates his regularly scheduled orgasm for tonight. We’ll have to play that by ear. I did leave him wild for the night. He was happy to be wild.

This morning, while he was in the bathroom, I put the cock ring and the shock collar on the bed. We haven’t used the shock collar in over a month. I packed it away for one of our trips and never brought it out. He’s been talking about it lately so I decided he should wear it. Now he is safely locked in his cage and ready for a shock.

Actually he’s not ready for a shock. He never seems ready for it. So far, every time I have shocked him, even if he sees me push the button, he jumps. Sometimes he even lets out a little , “Hey!” This is why I laugh at him. Maybe if I use it enough on him I will get over the amusement value of it and be able to use it for correction.

Correction is difficult for me. I know he wants me to do it, but it’s not really in my nature to want to change his behavior. Even for things that really annoy me, like when he interrupts me. I’m not ready to set a goal for it yet, as I did for anal training. It’s just something I need to work on.