Lion says it’s not necessary for him to want to play for us to play. This seems strange to me. It’s one thing to know we probably won’t get to the edge in the first few days after orgasm. I can see that playing with him then sort of primes the pump, so to speak. But if he has no interest in playing, why would I do it? I mean, why waste our time? Will he enjoy himself at all if he doesn’t want to play?
Think about it this way. If there’s a party you’ve been looking forward to and you really want to go, chances are you’ll have a good time. This is similar to being horny and wanting to play. Obviously, your play may not end with an orgasm but you can still have fun. If it’s a party that you’ve sort of been looking forward to and you really want to go, you may or may not have a good time. This is similar to being horny but maybe not ready for edging. If it’s a party you know you need to go to but you’re really not looking forward to it, you probably won’t have a good time. This is similar to not being horny and not wanting to play. Maybe you have to go to the party. Maybe it’s the in-laws’ anniversary party and you really don’t like your in-laws. But Lion doesn’t have to go to the party. Why should I make him?
[Lion — It’s not the same thing. The thing about BDSM play is that it doesn’t need to be something you do when the bottom is horny. It’s just something to do. I think of it as no different than the punishment spanking. When I do something wrong, Mrs. Lion doesn’t care if I’m in the mood for spanking or not. I’ve earned it, so I get it. This is kind of the same thing. It’s not like having sex or even being jerked off. In fact, where I come from in the East, at play parties sex is never permitted. It’s true that it’s a lot more fun if I’m really turned on, chances are pretty good I will get really turned on well things are in progress. It’s the old “initiating” issue.]
Anyway, I decided to do it even if Lion didn’t want to. He was snoozing around 2. The other day I mentioned setting an alarm for 3 to play then. So I tried to stick to it, but then Lion woke up and went into his office. I guess it was about 3:45, he went back into the bedroom and said he was watching “House” if I wanted to join him. I snuggled in under the covers with him and started playing with my weenie. He liked it although he wasn’t getting hard. And then…I fell asleep. We haven’t been sleeping all that well. Lion was snoozing earlier. I guess I followed suit. I was awake for a little bit, still snuggling. And I fell asleep again. Out cold. So much for playing earlier in the day. It was already time to make dinner so I went off to do so. By the time I got done with the dishes, it was after 8. Lion said he thought we were going to play earlier in the day. Yup. So did I before my unscheduled naps.
In my defense, I had a plan for our early play. I was going to shove a butt plug in and do some Lion milking. There was no reason we couldn’t do that after 8 so I went on with the plan. However, there was a reason we couldn’t do it. I forgot Lion’s shoulder has been hurting. So the milking was a bust, but I then decided to take out the coconut oil and try our luck with that.
My weenie loves coconut oil. He was hard almost the instant it touched him. I still don’t know why coconut oil is preferable to other lubes, but who cares. It’s slippery and makes the same sloppy slurping sounds as other lube. And Lion was hard. I’m not sure how long we were at it, but eventually he said he wasn’t going to get anywhere. I wiped him off and he went to clean up. I forgot he had the butt plug in. That may be part of the reason he didn’t get anywhere. Since he was washing off, I removed the butt plug so he could get himself clean there too.
Even though it was an unsuccessful edging session, I don’t consider it completely unsuccessful. Lion had fun. I had fun massaging him with coconut oil. I don’t think it would have been as much fun if he hadn’t wanted to play. [Lion — Only one way to find out :)]