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Most guys when the first think about enforced chastity, spend quite a bit of time thinking about getting a device they will be unable to escape. The word enforced is hyper-critical to them. Endless time is spent worrying about “security” (wish I could do air quotes around that word). So many men order devices with the smallest possible base ring. Then they spend time suffering the frictional consequences of this choice. Their reasoning? If the device is very tight it will be harder to escape. Maybe. But it will also be much harder to wear. Strangle your scrotum and suffer irritation, loss of circulation, and constant pain. That early morning erection will become torture. “Good,” you say. Erections should hurt. I don’t know about that. I want to be able to sleep through the night.

The objection I hear most often is, “What’s the point of being locked up if I can escape?” That rhetorical question shows that it’s owner simply doesn’t understand enforced chastity at all. You  haven’t been taken sexual prisoner by a tribe of Amazons. You  aren’t locked up against your will. You asked your keyholder to lock you up. You want to be locked up. So why worry about escape? That is clearly the last thing you really want.

My view of enforced chastity is that I agreed to turn over sexual control to my lioness. I like that I am locked into a device that prevents even the smallest transgression. I can’t get hard or come as long as it is on. I realize that any ball-capture device is escapable. I can pull my soft penis out of the cage and base ring. Then, once freed, I can jerk off to my heart’s content. The thing is, once I pull out, I can’t put it back so Mrs. Lion won’t know I was so naughty. That’s the real security. If she found out, I would be in serious trouble. Also, I don’t have to do the penis gymnastics required to pull out. I have my emergency key. Oh wait, it’s inside a metal case with a tamper-evident label. If I open the case, Mrs. Lion will know. She will want solid evidence there was a serious emergency that required my extraction.

The real inescapable device is the one that reveals any escape. I surrendered sexual control to Mrs. Lion. I take that very seriously. There is no way I will cheat. But hypothetically, let’s say I want to masturbate. The only way I can do it is going to require me to either pull out or use my key. Either method will be quickly discovered by my lioness. I don’t want to think about what would happen to me when she made that discovery. I won’t have to find out of course. I’m not going there because I made a promise to her. I’m not going to break it.

Some guys get PA (Prince Albert) piercings (Image). Special padlocks and adapted chastity devices can lock that piercing to the cage. You can’t pull out if you take this course. Of course, not everyone wants a piercing like this. I had a frenum piercing for many years. Chastity devices are made to work with these piercings too. Of course it still comes down to why it is needed. Some guys really want to feel that level of inescapablity, but it truly isn’t needed.

My advice to someone who wants to start enforced chastity is to carefully consider the inevitable tradeoff between “security” and comfort. If the device hurts to wear, the odds are very strong that you will stop wearing it soon after you start. If you recognize that the real security is your promise to surrender sexual control, you can get a device that is completely comfortable to wear and is still secure enough to prevent the stray erection or momentary impulse to jerk off. Your promise takes care of the rest.

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In: Chastity device fitting, Chastity hardware, Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

Sadly, Mrs. Lion is still under the weather. She said she is feeling a bit better, but still not feeling very well. That’s no problem. We can wait for her orgasm and my teasing when she feels better. She removed my cage tonight. I am a wild lion. It’s now packed up to go into the mail tomorrow morning for resizing the base ring. Mature Metal has superb service. They usually turn around resizing work in a few days and always at a reasonable price. They are unbeatable for quality and service.

I have a little concern about this change. With the current 1 3/4-inch ring, it is so comfortable I completely forget I am wearing a chastity device. However, I do know the base ring is large. I can get my thumb between it and my soft penis. I think I can probably wear  a 1 1/2-inch ring comfortably, but I am not confident. So, I decided to hedge my bet with a 1 5/8-inch ring. I got cold paws about changing the existing ring since it feels so good to wear. So, I asked MM to make me a new 1 5/8-inch ring as well as a 1 1/2-inch ring. That way I will have the old ring and two new, smaller ones.

Of all measurements for a chastity device fitting,  the base ring diameter is the most difficult to get right. That’s why I recommend that before ordering the first device, you should test different sizes. You can get a set of measuring rings from Mature Metal for only $20. They will let you see what it feels like to live with a given size. I had ordered several inexpensive devices with an assortment of base rings. The 1 3/4-inch ring fit best. That’s why when I ordered the Jail Bird, I selected the 1 3/4-inch base ring. I waited a year before making the decision to change sizes.

How do you know you have the right size, or more importantly how do you know if you have the wrong size? The obvious answer you often read is that if your balls change color, particularly turn blue, you have a ring that is too small. Well, that’s a little like saying that you will know if your necktie is too tight if you suffocate. It’s way more subtle than that. You know a ring is too large if a ball escapes on its own. Most experienced chastity folks say that a ring is correctly sized if you can get your pinky between the ring and your body and nothing else. That may be a good indication.

The simple truth is that you just can’t tell for sure. Also, as I have discovered, my body has made a small change in the way my scrotum fits. It seems to have narrowed where the ring sits. Others have observed this too. It’s not a big change, but enough to make the original ring a bit loose.

If you, like me, wear your device 24/7, good fit isn’t enough. It has to be a perfect fit so it is comfortable and reasonably secure. Remember, no captive ball device is totally secure. No matter how tight the base ring, it can be escaped with enough work and a high tolerance for pain. It’s like my wedding ring. I can take it off, but I don’t want it so loose it can fall off. Security to me is knowing that it would be a lot of work to get out and probably impossible to get back in.

So how far should you go in terms of a tight base ring? This is the subject of endless online forum posts. I like the only-your-pinky-should-fit-between-the-ring-and-your-body rule. But the absolutely most important rule is that you can wear the ring and the device comfortably without doing anything, like using lube, to make it wearable. You should be able to forget it is there. Attempting to get hard should not hurt at all. You should never be awakened by an erection.

If you have decided that you want to be caged full time, then you have to treat the purchase of a chastity device as a very serious endeavor. Expect to spend the money for a custom device and expect to spend a little more on adjustments and alternate rings. Remember, that device is always attached to you. It only comes off when your keyholder wants to play with you or you have a life situation that requires it off. Over the last year it has been on me more than 99% of the time, or  361 days in the last 365. Isn’t it work the time, effort, and cost to make things comfortable?

 

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In: Advice for a new keyholder, Chastity device fitting, Chastity hardware, Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

First of all, things are back to normal in the lions’ den. My libido is returning. Sunday’s play session and amazing oral orgasm seem to have done the trick. Mrs. Lion certainly knows how to push and pull my buttons and other parts. I was allowed to be wild for the balance of the afternoon and evening and then locked securely before bed.

One reader sent a question about chastity devices. He wants to get a steel cage, but doesn’t want the noise or bulk of a padlock. He didn’t know about security screws. My Mature Metal Jail Bird has a security screw instead of a padlock. This screw can only be (easily) removed with a special tool that came with the cage. Is it perfectly secure? Well, no. Is a padlock? Oh, no! Most small padlocks are easily picked, or can be cut off with a small pair of bolt cutters. Virtually any cage held in place by a cock and ball ring can be escaped by pulling the penis out and then taking the base ring off of the balls.

Pretty much everyone thinking of being locked up knows this. Based on my mail and reading, most all look for maximum security. They want a device that they can’t escape. As a result, many buy base rings that are too small and the poor guys spend time looking for lubes to ease the discomfort. The theory being that a smaller base ring is harder to pry their penis out. That’s probably true, But enough cold water, lube and pain tolerance will overcome the tightest base ring.  They know that too. So, some buy anti-pullout devices. These contraptions usually consist of pins, some are even sharpened into points, that are then fixed inside the base of the cage. Pulling out then becomes even more painful, maybe impossible for some. Well, there you go. Or do you? What happens if you get that midnight wood? You will wake up in pain when those little points stab your attempted hardon.

Every single method to “improve” security involves making the device harder to wear full time. The chastity forums are full of posts begging for help with chafing scrotums, etc. I think this is the product of wrong-headed thinking. Let’s take a moment to consider:

Q: Who wanted you to lock up your penis?
A: Me.

Q: Who would you hurt if you sneaked out of your cage and jerked off?
A: Me.

Q: What would your keyholder do if you escaped and played with yourself? (Be honest now)
A: Give you your key back. She expects you to play by your rules.

The point is that you wear the cage because you want to surrender control. If you wear it to see if you can escape, then you aren’t into enforced chastity, you are into being an escape artist. My cage is on me for some important (to me, and to a lesser extent, Mrs.Lion) reasons:

  1. It is a symbol, just like my wedding ring, that I am not alone and that in the case of my cage, I have surrendered control of my penis. It is on a visceral level for me and a visual one for Mrs. Lion.
  2. It is a continuing reminder of my surrender to both of us. I could be chaste and only get arousal and orgasm from Mrs. Lion without the cage. The cage reminds me of my surrender, and in a weak moment I can’t have an “accident.”
  3. It prevents me from having an “accident”. It is difficult enough to escape that it deters any passing need to disobey. More importantly, I doubt I could get back in if I did pull out. So Mrs. Lion will find out I cheated.
  4. I love wearing it knowing that it is important to both of us. It’s a symbol of a gift we are giving each other.

So, I don’t need a device that I can’t escape. I only need one that won’t fall off and that I can’t just slip on and off at will. What counts more in terms of hardware is that I can wear it continuously, with comfort for as long as Mrs. Lion wants me to have it on. It could be the rest of my life.

My advice to anyone in the market for a chastity device is to ignore all the security mania in the blogs and forums and instead go for the best, most comfortable fit. My wedding ring doesn’t hurt to wear why should my cage?

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thumb fits under chastity device base ring
You can see how I can get my thumb between my base ring and my body. Click the image for a clear view.

(Thursday, September 25, 2014) It’s been about five days since I cashed in my orgasm reward and there is another six days until my scheduled release on September 30. At this moment I am not feeling terribly horny. However, since tonight is a tease (or other activity) night, I may be singing a different song tomorrow.

There are times that wearing a cage is just a pain. This morning I went to pee at work and since there was another man at the urinal next to mine, I didn’t get to check to make sure I was correctly aligned inside my cage. Lately, I have been very well centered in the opening. I wasn’t this morning and ended up spraying my pants and the floor. I really hate moments like this. This hasn’t happened in several months and I thought I was over this problem after I got the shorter cage. I should be grateful I didn’t eat asparagus recently.

I’ve noticed during showers that my base ring isn’t as tight as it should be. The rule of thumb is that if you can insert more than one finger to the first joint between the base ring and your body, the base ring is too large. I can get more than that between my ring and body. The thing is that my current ring is not so big a ball can escape and I have never tried to pull my penis out from behind the ring. Even so, I have been obsessing over this ring size question for a while now.

The reason I decided to write about it is that this question about ring size is really an indirect question about chastity device security. I know I will never try to pull out. I’m in this because I asked for it (like every other caged male), so why would I try to escape?

The more I think about this, the more certain I am that my reason for desiring a cage and one that I can’t escape is that I like the helpless feeling I get from knowing I am stuck. I feel the same way about those cheap, velcro restraints. If I can untie myself, I can’t consider myself tied up. Don’t worry Mrs. Lion, the restraints you gave me on Valentine’s day are not escapable. I tried when you used them on me.

I know that every chastity device that depends on a cock and ball ring is escapable. Even a device with anti-pullout pins and a very tight base ring can be escaped with enough lube and effort. The fact that I know this makes my concern with my base ring even sillier. I do know that a smaller base ring would make pullout more difficult but not impossible. Since I have no desire to escape, why should I care if my device is a little bit less secure than it could be? I shouldn’t. It’s irrational to want to make that change. As Mrs. Lion has pointed out many times here, I am not the most rational critter in the jungle.

In a more general sense, a lot of males seek to get “secure” chastity devices. As soon as they discover there is a vulnerability, they go into action and try to plug the hole. There is a problem with this approach. The main one, aside from cost, is that the more secure the device, the less comfortable it will be. I think I can tolerate a base ring 1/8″ smaller than the one I have. But there is a good chance that the smaller ring will also chafe a bit and make full-time wearing less comfortable.

This is where I need to be a grown-up and not the toddler Mrs. Lion writes about. As long as my balls can’t escape on their own, I should be fine with my current ring. I have no discomfort and can’t get hard or otherwise get sexual pleasure while locked up. Even in my most desperate moments I have had no desire to escape and sneak a wank. So, Mrs.Lion, please note that your Lion is acting like an adult and is not going to order a smaller ring. I do want to get a smaller one, just because, but I won’t — at least for now.

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