male orgasm
Nothing is more frustrating than being taken to the very edge of an orgasm and left hanging.

Before I get to edging, I have to say that today is the day! I get to orgasm today after a 12 day wait. Mrs. Lion is going to ride me and I will see fireworks. More on our celebration tomorrow. Also of note, my renovated (shortened) cage is back. I will be reporting on that too. You can see me posing in it on the right. Click the image for a larger, color view.  On to today’s subject.

Edging is the act of masturbating a man until just before he ejaculates. Technically, you don’t have to get so close that one more stroke would make him come. You just need to get him into that three second zone that begins the male orgasm. You will learn to identify when he is at that point. Now, once he hits that point remove your hand. Give him a few seconds to come down. As soon as his breathing stabilizes, begin again. It won’t take long to get him almost coming. This is commonly called tease and deny. It is a very good way to assure your caged male can’t forget what he is missing. Regular (two or three times a week) edging will turn any male into putty. If you don’t stimulate him during his wait, he will begin losing interest in sex. The point of keeping him locked up and waiting is to harness the sexual energy all that frustration creates. You can convert his energy into pleasing you in any way you want. A male desperate to come will do nearly anything for release. His cage assures he can’t do it himself. He has to convince you to provide his release. If you like oral sex, he will be happy to lick you every day. He will rub your feet, lick your ass, do anything at all if it improves the odds he can release.

There is another, less known use of edging. Most men don’t even know this: repeated edging will make it impossible for him to orgasm (for a while). If you follow the instructions above over and over, eventually he will lose his erection and will not be able to get it back for quite a while. To allow him to remain hard, but impossible to orgasm, first edge him to the point he loses his erection entirely. Count how many times you edged him. Subtract two or three times and  you have how many times to repeat in order to prevent orgasm.

Why would you want to do this? Are you kidding? If you remove his ability to come but yet have him hard, you now have a human dildo that can please you without pleasing himself. One key area of male training is orgasm control. As a matter of fact, many men can still orgasm after the teasing, but their ability will be reduced. This is a perfect training ground. Tell him that you want him inside you and he may not come. If he comes, tell him he will be locked up without satisfaction for a long time  (you decide how long). Also, if he does have an “accident”, be sure to spank him severely immediately after he cleans you up. So, you are using two kinds of conditioning: you are helping him by reducing his ability to orgasm, and you are punishing him if he accidentally comes. This combination will eventually let him control his ejaculations without the edging. If, for some reason, he is a premature ejaculator and you can’t stop his accidents with spanking and long lock up, get some anesthetic ointment. Apply it just under the head of his penis about 15 minutes before you want him to please you. It may take some experimentation. Too much and he can’t get or stay hard; too little and he will have an accident. Have him apply it himself. Make it his responsibility to control his orgasms. Punish him if he fails, either by having an accident or not getting hard. This may seem cruel, but it isn’t. It’s exactly what the male chastity fantasy is all about: your control. Up until now I haven’t experienced the anesthetic, but I think that Mrs. Lion will add it to her arsenal when she wants to ride me between my orgasm dates.

If your male hasn’t experienced being edged until he can’t orgasm no matter what he does, you should consider giving him the experience. It was eye opening for me. I hadn’t really considered that I could get too much pleasure. More significantly, it dawned on me that even without the cage, Mrs. Lion can prevent me from coming. I don’t think she realized it either. It turns out that tease and deny is an extremely powerful tool for male control. Try it, you’ll like it.

hands tied
I love my hands restrained when things are done to me. It’s very hot, like my cage. It removes any choice of what happens to me.

(Thursday, June 19, 2014) This is the sixth day since my last orgasm. It’s not a record for me, but it has been a while since I had to wait this long. Last night Mrs. Lion kept her promise and spanked me. She used her hands (very good hands) and a nasty wood paddle that has a sandpaper and a smooth side. When she wanted to administer hard paddle shots, she put her weight on my back to prevent excessive movement. It was pretty effective. If she ever decides to administer a series of hard paddle swats, I think she might want to have me lean over the edge of the bed and sit on my back. I tend to buck and try to escape. It may take a while before I learn to hold still, if I ever can.

Following the spanking, she began playing with my cock and swatting my balls with her hand. I had no idea whether I would get to orgasm. Her hand made me feel amazing. Oh, I wanted to come so much! She stopped just before I could come. She did this over and over and then announced that I would get my wish; she wouldn’t be making me come that night. I didn’t grumble. I did emit an “Awww!” But that was it.

Before the games began, she groomed me and so I am now pubic and ass hair free. After all was done I was left wild. I have a doctor’s appointment today to check my leg. wild. She was concerned that I would cheat and masturbate. I asked why. She told me that I had mentioned that I should have my hands restrained when she unlocked me after no orgasm for a while and she thought it was to prevent cheating.

On the surface it makes sense that being restrained would prevent any impulsive behavior on my part, but it isn’t the real reason I made that request. I don’t think there is a real danger I will overpower Mrs. Lion and jerk off madly. But just as I want the key hidden, I want to know that I have no choice. I can’t do anything about being denied orgasms. After all, forced male chastity is a form of bondage. Bondage translates on its most basic level to removing choice from the bound person. My cage denies me any choice in whether I can get erect or orgasm. It has maximum psychological effect on me if I really don’t have a choice. I don’t have access to a key except in an emergency and when unlocked my hands are safely restrained. I can’t take matters into my own hands.

Even though it is very unlikely I would actually cheat or overpower Mrs. Lion, I find it very exciting that I can’t. I think this is hard for her to understand. After all, if I won’t cheat and can be safely left wild, why would I need my hands restrained when she removes the cage? It isn’t completely rational. But then, is having my cock in a cage?

I can be left wild for any reasonable amount of time without risk I will come without permission. But it defeats the point of my lockup. In a case like today where I need to be examined, obviously I can’t be in my cage for the visit. Well, I could, but I would have a lot of embarrassing explaining to do. I am grateful that Mrs. Lion spares me that. If we wanted to be really high security (which would be fun), she could have kept me locked and accompanied me to the doctor, unlocking me in the car just before we go in. We did this once because we forgot to unlock me the night before. I really  liked that adventure. However, as hot as it is, to do this Mrs. Lion has to lose pay by leaving work early to drive to the doctor’s office to meet me.

That brings me to one other important point. Everything about my forced chastity adds effort and takes time from Mrs. Lion. As a former top, I fully understand that there is a personal price for the top that is paid for providing dominant services to the bottom. Each added level of chastity security requires more thought, time, and effort from Mrs. Lion. So, it makes sense to suspend the high security imprisonment at times that would further inconvenience her. I’m an adult, after all, and I have a reasonable amount of impulse control. Any male who doesn’t, shouldn’t be caged; he should be in therapy.

I try to consider any requests in that light. My wish to be restrained when unlocked is just one more chore for Mrs. Lion. I think I can make it painless and take only seconds. We have a set of velcro restraints. They are custom made using industrial webbing and very heavy duty velcro. I can’t release myself from them We have an eyebolt in the back of our headboard on my side of the bed (one on hers too). We can leave the restraints tethered there and when it is time for an unlock, it should only take a few seconds to secure me.

That sounds simple and reasonable, but it could just be too much. Every bottom likes to believe it is easy to meet his requests for bondage or more control. It often isn’t. It’s my kink that I like to be restrained. It isn’t my kink to defy my top if I’m not. Bondage turns me on. I used to love to be the Indian when we played cowboys and Indians as kids. I always ended up tied to a tree. I loved it. No wonder I want my cock locked up full time and my hands restrained too.

I don’t expect Mrs. Lion to understand why this turns me on. I’m not sure I understand it myself. It just works for me. My first partner all those years ago liked me in bondage. She also really liked that I could never escape on my own. Every single restraint was locked securely with a large padlock. We both knew I wasn’t going anywhere without her releasing me. The locks were her idea and weren’t really necessary. After all, bondage needs to be supervised at all times. A bottom can get into serious trouble just tied on his back spread-eagle. All sorts of health emergencies can occur. My first top knew this and always supervised me. So the locks for her were like having my hands restrained when I am uncaged. Absolutely unnecessary, but very hot.

Mrs. Lion shouldn’t take this as a must-do. As I mentioned before, there is a price the top has to pay for each new chore associated with her domination. I think every bottom, including me, tries to rationalize each request by minimizing it’s impact on the top. I don’t want to do that. Mrs. Lion doesn’t have to restrain my hands when she unlocks me in order to make me happy. I am happy now.