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I was out of ideas again yesterday. Actually, I was concentrating on getting caught up on chores and I hadn’t thought much about playing. I’ve been trying to schedule afternoon activities on at least one weekend day. Sometimes it doesn’t work out. When Lion asked if we were playing, I had to scramble to come up with something. I went to an old standby that Lion doesn’t get enough of.

I brought out the cuffs and tied him to the bed. I also had some whomping accessories. Lion was excited when he saw them. He loves to be tied to the bed. And he loves a good play spanking. I’m not sure it was one of my better play spankings, but he did have a nice warm butt afterwards. He forgets he mentioned biting until I do it to him. I took a few pictures of my teeth marks to show him. Overall, I think he had a good time even before I started edging him.

I was pretty sure I went too far a few times. I even allowed Lion to hump my hand and I thought he was going to make it all the way before I pulled my hand away. The result is a very horny Lion. There are two more days until his maybe date. I think he’ll be horny enough by then but I think I’ll make him wait a little longer. He has a theory that I should make him wait until he loses interest. I’m not sure why. I wouldn’t think it would be as much fun then. I’m sure he’d get horny once I start playing with him, but he wouldn’t be very frustrated. I really like the super horny, get-hard-with-a-gentle-breeze Lion. Having him lose interest isn’t as interesting for me. I suppose we can try it to see how it goes.

So we’ll sail right past the 30th and go from there. I have no idea how long he can go before he loses interest. I’ll do my best to get him as horny as possible in the meantime.

[Lion — I proposed the wait-till-interest-drops-off method. 2.0 is right. It’s more fun for both of us when I am super horny. The question is when is my peak? Do we care? Mrs. Lion is right, as usual. The best time is at my peak. Of course, you never know that until the peak has just passed.]

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As you can imagine, we spent the night in last night. We’re not much for parties and standing in the cold to watch fireworks we can see on TV seems ridiculous. We had our Chinese takeout and settled in for the night. In addition to being New Year’s eve, it was Lion’s orgasm night. We had our own festivities.

I combined Lion’s love of three things. First I cuffed his hands together and then I cuffed his feet together. I didn’t tie him to the bed because I knew he be turning over and I wanted him to remain cuffed the entire time. Yes, Lion, there was a method to my madness. I grabbed all the paddles in the bedroom and brought them to the bed. Lion laughed at me. He thought it was overkill. I told him I didn’t know which ones I’d want so I brought them all. Most of them are the ones I use for punishment, but of course, they can work just fine for play spanking. I made Lion’s butt a lovely shade of rosy red. I even bit him a few times. He was a very good boy and stayed still the whole time.

When I was done with his tush I had him roll over. He was still cuffed so it was a little difficult but he managed. I asked him if he was ready to come and he said I had to determine when he was ready. I started off with my hands but then I realized what he really wanted was my mouth. I had to uncuff his feet for that. As soon as my mouth touched him he was harder. Now he was really ready. He’s gotten it in his mind that I have to give him permission to come. That’s difficult to do when I’m sucking him. Besides, I like to push him to the point that he has no choice in the matter. I never get mad at him for coming too soon. That just means I’ve done my job. And I get mad at myself when he has a ruined orgasm if that wasn’t what I was going for, and I rarely go for that. But, for last night, I gave him permission and he had the most prolific orgasm he’s had in a while. And, although I thought I had sucked him dry, he was dripping for a while afterwards. Yum!

The only problem is that, somehow, Lion has a sore on his penis now. It was there before he came. We don’t know how it happened. The easiest explanation is that he got pinched in the cage. I won’t say I told you so, but he did want the cage locked on a little too quickly the other night. It might have happened then. I don’t know if he’ll be able to have his New Year’s day orgasm. He’s decided if he can’t have one then I should. We’ll see. It’s supposed to be his night again.

Lion ended the old year with a gush. I’m still hoping he can start the new year with one.

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Am I talking about Lion? Is he too much trouble? Well, from time to time, yes. But this time I’m talking about tying him to the bed. He loves it. I, on the other hand, have to go get the cuffs and the straps for one side of the bed because the dog just can’t leave anything alone. I need to crawl around on the floor to hook the straps to the bed and then cuff Lion and hook the cuffs to the straps. It’s a lot of work for minimal gain on my end. Actually, no gain on my end. The restraints he has secured to the headboard will work if he’s on his back, but I’m not sure they’ll work when he’s face down. And, as he said, they only secure his hands. His feet are still free to roam at will. [Lion — I can do all that work. Just tell me to set up the restraints. All Mrs. Lion has to do is buckle them on]

I did think about restraining him last night, but then decided against it. As it was, I worked up quite a sweat spanking him. My hand stung for quite a while afterwards too. There is, however, always today. It’s still his birthday weekend. One never knows what’s in store for a Lion around here. Perhaps some restraints. Perhaps more spanking. Who knows? I don’t. Not yet at least.

I’m still amazed at how much Lion enjoys the vibrator. For a very long time he asserted that a vibrator did nothing for him. Why does this one work? He keeps telling me it must be me. Since I am the one using it, it is a very Magic Wand. I’m not sure. The first time I used it there was very little input from my hands. I just worked it over him and he had an orgasm. I wasn’t sure it would even work on him and there it was, working. He was so hard and moaning, and then orgasm. Vibrators don’t work on Lions, my ass! I don’t think there’s anything special about my hands. If anything, it may be because he has given me the power and he has no control over what I do with the vibrator. That might be the part that’s pushing his buttons.

At any rate, Lion still has a day to go for his birthday celebration. And, if he’s lucky, he might just get that orgasm Monday night. Time will tell.

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Do you ever read the right column of blogs? Mine, at least, contains extra information you may find useful. We show a list of recent posts and comments, a rundown of some blogs we find interesting, as well as my chastity and orgasm status. I habitually read the right columns of other blogs. Sometimes there is gold buried there. I like to see what other bloggers  list as blogs they like to read. I constantly change our list to reflect my current taste. Of course there are so many other great blogs out there. I read many of them too. Our right column list reflects my most consistent reading. I often check our blog to see if there are any new posts in one of the listed blogs.

It’s very satisfying to find kindred spirits out there. In some cases I’ve developed friendships which I treasure. As I’m sure you know, there is a lot more to life than enforced chastity and FLM. I am very grateful for the support we get for those other areas too. It means a lot to me.

One of the reasons we choose to write every day is our commitment to consistently report our kink as well as live it. We both read each other’s posts. For me that means I frequently get coming attractions of what is going to happen to me next. It gives me something to look forward to, or sometimes, to dread.  We also give and get daily feedback on our feelings and reactions to recent activities. It’s also valuable that we can refer back to prior posts to verify our memories and to track our progress. For me, at least, these posts have kept me honest and committed to male chastity and FLM.

It’s entirely too easy to withdraw when times get tough or when expectations haven’t been met. Daily posts make it very difficult to hide. If I try to gloss over something in my morning post, Mrs. Lion will call me on it (in the nicest possible way) later in the day. I don’t think this would happen as reliably without our blog. But it’s more than that. You provide very welcome feedback that helps us both.

I’m writing this post from our camper on the shore of the Columbia river. It’s Saturday night. According to Mrs. Lion’s post today, after my shower I can look forward to being tied down, spanked, and teased. We may also eat some ice-cold watermelon. If we eat it at the table, I may have some trouble sitting. Lately, we haven’t been playing much. Life intrudes into our fun.

Speaking of life, I continue to make most of the decisions for us. Sometimes this bothers me since in FLM, while I may be told to make some decisions, I’m not sure I should be expected to make almost all of them. I realize that Mrs. Lion is often indifferent to which option we pursue; like where to go sightseeing. It just annoys her to have to decide just to show her power. I don’t mind deciding. But then, how does she show her power over me? I think we need some way she can clearly assert her role without upsetting herself or worrying about upsetting me. In fact, is the only way to demonstrate power to deny the submissive something he wants? Is the only understandable expression of power being able to say “no”?

Power exchanges like ours need more than an agreement to surrender and accept control. Certainly, Mrs. Lion has demonstrated her sexual control continuously. I have learned that my orgasms are completely under her control. She enforces my lockup in a chastity device and gives me almost no choice about sexual activity. I accept her control at a very deep level.

Maybe this sexual control is the only domination for us at this time. Or, like enforced chastity, perhaps we need a lot more time and some ideas to help us accelerate our FLM. We both need to get comfortable with any power exchange we continue. If Mrs. Lion feels pressured by making decisions she would rather give to me, then it won’t work for her. Similarly, if I don’t have something that will remind me that I am not in control, it won’t work for me either.

Most of the time when we hit an impasse like this, Mrs. Lion says she will do better. But “better” means she will do something that will make her uncomfortable in order to help me. I don’t want that. We need to work out something together. Since we have a pretty good track record and we are best friends, I am confident we will find a way that works for both of us. Lion taming isn’t easy and requires a firm hand and a lot of patience. Mrs. Lion has both.