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Time got away from us last night. I had a 2 PM doctor’s appointment, and we got home at 3:30. Mrs. Lion didn’t have to work but had some household stuff to do. She wasn’t ready to do anything sexual until much later in the evening. By then, I was falling asleep. I seem to snooze about an hour after dinner. She played with my penis under the covers, and I fell asleep while she was doing it. Oh well. She plans to deliver my Monday Punishment Day spanking today (Tuesday). I’m not sure if she has any plans for sex.

I’m hoping that we can talk more about plans and posts. When I ask if Mrs. Lion has read my post, she’ll just say yes or no. If she’s read it, she doesn’t want to discuss what I wrote. The best I can get if I probe is, “I’ll try.”

That’s not too useful since it doesn’t outline what she wants to try. In the old days, when she worked away from home, we would have discussions via email. Now that she’s only a few feet away, the conversations have stopped. I think this is hurting us. From my side, there is no anticipation, no warmup for the actual events. I miss that a lot.

techy blog stuff

Most bloggers use turnkey services to create and maintain their sites. WordPress.com and Blogger.com are the two largest providers. They offer free and paid blog services. They are good starting points. Blogger is owned by Google and a few years ago, threatened to close any sexually-oriented sites. They changed their minds before doing it. WordPress.com shuts down many sexually-oriented blogs. When I used WordPress.com, they didn’t shut me down, but the cost of running my site on their servers was very expensive.

Over time, I moved to several service providers. As I got used to the technology, I was comfortable taking on the system admin role that many turnkey providers offer. A couple of years ago, I decided to host my site on a virtual computer in the cloud.

AWS is Amazon’s cloud service. It is the friendliest and least expensive cloud solution for blogging. They offer a service called Lightsail. It’s a very simple (and cheap) virtual server. When your buy it, you can select WordPress and the cloud creates your server with WordPress and other necessary programs installed and running. You need to learn a little about running a Linux server. Amazon provides excellent step-by-step instructions on how to do everything you need.

Amazon does not provide the sort of tech support needed to manage your blog. Fortunately, some Google searches will yield easy-to-understand instructions on how to do anything you want. It was scary at first, but I managed to get pretty good at it.

Once I had a smooth-running blog, I looked for ways to optimize things. I love to tinker. One thing I actually needed to do was find a way to manage traffic. My cloud server is monitored for CPU usage. If it uses too much, the server will be slowed to a horrible crawl. Heavy visitor traffic can cause that.

Amazon provides a free solution for people like me. It’s called Cloudfront. It’s a content delivery network. It has servers all over the world. When a user requests a page, the request goes to Cloudfront instead of my server. If Cloudfront has retrieved the page before, it serves it without bothering my server. That means I don’t need to pay for a bigger cloud server if a lot of people come to our site. It also speeds up delivery of our pages. That’s important. Every page reaches our readers in two seconds or less.

Cloudfront is free for the first Terabyte of data it sends to users. That’s 1,000 Gigabytes. We are in no danger of needing that much service. Cloudfront also adds security to our website.

The biggest problem that I’ve had over the years when moving this site is loss of images. The software I use to migrate the site never gets all of the images moved. I hate that. You will find missing images from some of our older posts. I decided that I needed a better way to manage our media files. I just added a plugin (offload media) that moves my image files to Amazon S3 storage which is a separate file system. I set it up so that Cloudfront serves the images. If you see the URL of our media, it is media.malechastityjournal.com. Doing this was complicated and took me days of work and emails to the plugin’s support team. If you want to try it, I can offer a few tips. Beware! This takes quite a bit of technical expertise.

We’ve done other things to make our site more efficient. At this point, we can handle a lot more traffic without upgrading. A lot of people forget that websites are complex computer programs. A lot of progress has been made to hide the technology from users, but the price of hiding it is the loss of design freedom and optimizing the experience for users. I enjoy finding ways to improve our website.

a chastity story from OpenGPT

I gave openGPT a try. Here is a chastity story it wrote with only a couple of suggestions from me.Wow!

Judy was a loving wife, but her husband’s infidelity had been tearing her apart for months. She couldn’t understand how he could cheat on her, and she didn’t know what to do to stop him.

One day, while her husband was at work, Judy decided to take matters into her own hands. She began to investigate her husband’s behavior, looking for clues as to why he might be cheating.

She looked through his phone, checked his emails, and even followed him when he said he was going to work. But no matter what she did, she couldn’t find any evidence of his infidelity.

Feeling defeated, Judy decided to confront her husband. She waited until he came home from work and sat him down for a talk.

“I know you’ve been cheating on me,” she said, her voice trembling.

Her husband’s face turned pale. “What are you talking about?” he stammered.

“I’ve been following you, checking your emails, and looking through your phone. I can’t find any evidence, but I know you’re cheating on me.”

Her husband sighed and looked down at his feet. “I’m sorry, Judy. You’re right. I have been cheating on you. But I promise, it’s over now. I’ll do whatever it takes to make it right.”

Judy was determined to stop her husband’s infidelity once and for all. As she sat across from him at the table, she offered him an ultimatum: “I can’t continue to live like this, not knowing if you’re cheating on me or not. I want you to wear a male chastity device. It’s a device that physically prevents you from engaging in sexual activity without my permission. If you don’t agree to wear it, I will have to leave you.”

Her husband was taken aback by her proposal. He didn’t know how to react. He tried to argue with her, but Judy was firm in her decision. She had reached her breaking point and couldn’t continue living in uncertainty and pain.

Judy’s husband was hesitant about the idea of wearing a male chastity device. He felt it was too restrictive and would limit his freedom. However, he was willing to consider it if Judy was willing to compromise. He proposed that if he were to wear the device, she would have to agree to unlock him once a week for them to have consensual sexual intercourse.

Judy was taken aback by his proposal, she didn’t want to compromise on her ultimatum, but she also didn’t want to lose him. She thought about it for a moment and realized that a once a week release could be a good compromise. It would give her peace of mind knowing that he couldn’t cheat on her, while also allowing them to maintain a healthy sexual relationship.

With this compromise in mind, they both agreed to the arrangement and went ahead to purchase the device. Her husband wore the device as promised, and Judy unlocked him once a week for their sexual encounter

Finally, he reluctantly agreed to wear the device, with the condition that they would both seek counseling and work on rebuilding their relationship.

Judy agreed and they both went to counseling together. It was a difficult process, but it helped them both understand the root causes of his infidelity and how to prevent it from happening again.

Over time, they were able to rebuild their trust and their relationship became stronger than ever. The device served as a constant reminder of their commitment to each other, and it helped them both stay faithful.

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As Mrs. Lion wrote yesterday (“Sore Butt, Burning Ass and a Nice Blow Job“), I got 570 swats during the Giants game. We are up to ten swats per point and ten swats if the Giants quarterback is sacked. Mrs. Lion made the change I suggested (“Whew! I Could Have Gotten 590 Swats During Yesterday’s Football Playoff“) that she use a less severe paddle for home team swats and a mean one for the opposition’s score. She did that. 300 of the swats were with the easier-to-take leather paddle. The rest were administered with a very painful bloodwood swatter.

I admit it. Each touchdown made me question the wisdom of this spanking game. However, when the dust settled, and my bottom cooled, my memories were very happy. What can I say?

Our website was down overnight. One of the plugins I installed seems to destabilize our server. I removed the offending plugin. Hopefully, we will return to being stable. Our site has been online without trouble for a long time. This is the first serious issue. On the same subject, our blog may be offline on January 31 from 8 PM PST (11 PM EST) to 10 PM PST (1 AM EST). This is for cloud maintenance. Our migration to the cloud has largely freed us of all the hassles we had with other vendors. This is the first time we have been notified of activity that will impact our site availability.

Mrs. Lion was home yesterday and did some laundry and cleaning. She also ran an errand for me. Now, she is tired and achy. Trips to her doctor haven’t resulted in any explanation for this condition. Now that we are on a diet, maybe the weight loss will help relieve some of the pain.

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I had Monday off and that threw my week off. Lion told me it was punishment day. Obviously, that meant it was Thursday, but I still had trouble reconciling that today was Friday. Short weeks do that to me. I guess that’s why I forgot to do punishment swats. I won’t catch up with it tonight. Tomorrow is punishment day again.

This weekend is the second to last regular season game for our football team. They started off so well. I think there’s still hope they can get in the playoffs but I don’t expect them to get far if they get there. Since the season is drawing to a close, we’ll have to take advantage of every opportunity to play our football spanking game. Lion had quite a sore butt last time. We’ll have to see what happens this week. The swats per point are up to nine.

Also this weekend is New Year’s Eve. In the past, I’ve given Lion orgasms on holidays. It’s more difficult as it’s taken him longer to get ready for the next one. I’m not sure I can plan on any given day anymore. Not that that’s such a big deal. He’ll take an orgasm whenever he can get one. Good thing I like giving them to him.

As you’ve probably read, we’re coming up on our 6,000th post. It seems crazy to me that we’ve written so much. I guess it’s even crazier that we’ve shared so many intimate details. Who would have thought we’d have kept this up. When Lion suggested locking him in a chastity device, I thought it wouldn’t last long at all. Well, maybe the chastity device isn’t around anymore, but we still are. Craziness. I admit it’s sometimes difficult to come up with things to say (today, for example) but I think it’s worth it in the long run.

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You may have noticed that there are no ads on our blog. It’s a personal project belonging to Mrs. Lion and me. Readership growth is an ego boost. It has no financial benefit for us. It’s irrational for me to care about the fate of this blog. But I do. So does my lioness. It has value to us. The funny thing is that it isn’t the value I expected when we started out.

I figured that the Journal would provide reminders of agreements we made and activities we tried. Mrs. Lion tends to forget things like that. I also thought that we could look back and see how we changed over time. In nine years that hasn’t happened. Mrs. Lion only reads my current post and corrects any typos she finds. She never comments on the content unless I probe her. She has never looked back to read old posts.

I was wrong. The blog is no help in that respect. We’ve managed to evolve without referencing our historical record. That doesn’t mean we haven’t found value. For one thing, the act of writing daily posts helps us organize our thoughts. We do communicate difficult-to-discuss topics via the blog. Even though she doesn’t discuss what I write with me, she reads and understands what I want and need. Sure, I would prefer a discussion, but one isn’t really needed.

I suppose that posts could become emotional weapons. I’ve read blogs that have degenerated into destructive rants. We are both very aware of how dangerous it would be if we allowed ourselves to go in that direction. We do get angry at one another. It’s rare, but it happens. I tend to talk about it when I’m upset. Mrs. Lion broods. She has become better at expressing herself since we began domestic discipline. We’ve made some progress. The goal we agreed on is for Mrs. Lion to use a paddle when she is upset by me. The times she has done this, I’ve improved, and hopefully, she felt heard.

Another unexpected value of writing this blog is the opportunity to hone my writing craft. My education after high school didn’t include a single writing or English course. Anything I know about writing is self-taught. I suppose that shows. Anyway, for better or worse, I have gotten a lot of writing practice. I think it helped.

My favorite benefit of the blog is that it allows me to talk about those secret sexual things I’ve always wanted to experience. It would be very difficult for me to start a conversation and ask for them. It’s much easier to write here. Speaking of which, I went back and looked at recent posts from Mrs. Lion. I see that I’m owed a racing stripe or two when she feels better. Ouch!