Thursday night turned out very well. Mrs. Lion decided to begin anal training. She used the bumpy glass dildo. I was able to handle the first four bubbles (bumps) easily. She took her time and moved it in and out. I didn’t feel any sudden changes, even though the bubbles caused my anus to expand and contract. My lioness was surprised at how well I managed to accept her insertions. I’m sure that the next session will include the fifth bubble, and the motion will be stronger.

In our first session Mrs. Lion moved the first four bumps in and out.

I’m happy that I was able to handle this dildo. We’ve learned that a key area of anal training is learning to accept changing size. I thought that gradual stretching was the key. At one point, Mrs. Lion was able to insert a two-inch-thick dildo. I was able to hold it, but moving it was another story. That’s when I researched and discovered that the best way to train for pegging is to work with something that changes diameter. A butt plug is a good choice. The bubble dildo works well too. It forces me to open and then start to close, only to be opened again.

I accepted the two-inch dildo but couldn’t managed being pegged with it.

The reason this training is effective isn’t obvious but makes sense once you think about it. The key is learning to relax the anus. Inserting the large diameter dildo appears to do this. Certainly, I learned to accept it. Motion didn’t work because I wasn’t really relaxed. Training with moving a butt plug in and out (or the bubble dildo) teaches me to relax. It’s very uncomfortable to accept something that is getting larger if the anus is resisting. If it relaxes, the object goes in (and out) without discomfort.

Over time this training will allow voluntary control of the anal muscles.  When presented with an object pressing in, it learns to relax and accept it. There is the mistaken idea that anal training stretches the anus. It doesn’t. It simply trains it to relax. The key to successful pegging or even fisting is to learn to stay relaxed once the activity begins. That’s the hard part.

I did a little research to get an idea of how this works. This link is to a video that shows what I mean. A woman is fisting the man. Note the extreme amount of lube. That’s key. You can’t use too much lube in anal play. His anus remains relaxed and open. Before the shooting began, he was gradually opened. Even though his rear is stretched so wide, it will return to a tight bud a few minutes after the play is over. He has learned to relax. It doesn’t mean he has lost control. It’s just an acquired skill.

Mrs. Lion has attempted to fist me. At one point, she got four fingers in. Now that we know the trick to training me, I’m sure it won’t be long before she can get her entire hand in.

We finally got our electricity back. Internet is still out. Mrs. Lion and I are using our cell hotspots to access the Net. The most difficult thing about not having our regular Internet is that our smart house loses any vestige of intelligence. We control our lights using our Amazon Echos. Even the thermostat needs Internet connectivity. When things are working, all we do is ask Alexa to turn the lights on and off, turn on the TV, tune it to the channel we want, set the temperature, etc. It’s a regular Jetson life. We even have a robot vacuum named Rosie that we control with Alexa. No Internet, no Alexa, and things get complicated.

Both of us have been too tired for sex. I haven’t been particularly interested. Poor Mrs. Lion has a sore back from all the lifting and bending she had to do to set up and take down the power cords for our generator.

I am really looking forward to a shower and possible playtime. It doesn’t have to be anal. Mrs. Lion mentioned in her post yesterday that anal play requires her to stand behind me. I kneel on the side of the bed with my butt in the air facing the edge of the bed. I don’t see why I couldn’t move inland a bit. That way, Mrs. Lion could sit behind me. Or maybe I could lie flat, and she could sit next to me. Or, just put it off until she feels able to play in my backyard comfortably. I’m happy to wait.

It seems that female bloggers, not to mention women’s magazines have a fascination with the male anus. I haven’t done a statistical analysis but my impression is that women writers, both vanilla and kinky, like to talk about pegging. This term refers to using a dildo in a man’s ass for anal sex. Generally, this involves the woman wearing the dildo in a strap-on harness. However, this isn’t required.

Vanilla publications like “Cosmopolitan” refer to pegging as a form of sex play. They don’t ascribe any female dominance to this activity. Many men and some dominant women consider pegging a form of submission for the male. I don’t. After all, I never considered anal sex when my penis did the penetrating as a dominant act. It was just a nice sexual variation.

Of course, when I was doing the fucking, it would end in me having an orgasm. Some of my female partners also came when anally penetrated. If a woman pegs a man and wears a harness, if it is positioned correctly, the dildo will stimulate her clitoris as she fucks her male partner. This can result in a nice orgasm for her.

Most men don’t ejaculate as a result of anal penetration. Some will ejaculate if their partners reach around and masturbate them while they are being pegged. I have never been able to sustain an erection during anal penetration. I suppose I could learn to do it if Mrs. Lion decides to spend more backdoor time with me.

Pegging and other male anal play can be uncomfortable at first. I’ve found that once I “get used” to having something up my ass it can feel good. When we had regular anal play, I grew to enjoy Mrs. Lion visiting me back there. More recently, Mrs. Lion will insert a butt plug and leave it in for a couple of hours. That is a nice warm-up for more active play in the future.

I learned that the best way to “train” for pegging is having a butt plug moved in and out. The change in the shape of the butt plug forces the anus to expand and contract. “Fucking” with the plug helps train the anus to relax and accept the insertion. Getting that anal relaxation is more than half the battle in terms of learning to enjoy being pegged.

Like most everything else, consistency is important in anal education. It takes time to train the muscles to relax for sexual fun. Practice sessions with increasingly larger butt plugs two or three times a week will work wonders to make anal play feel good. When Mrs. Lion was consistently doing this with me, I began to look forward to our practice sessions. I was convinced I would enjoy being pegged.

Mrs. Lion had expressed an interest in pegging me. She didn’t plan to wear a strap-on. She was going to hold the dildo in her hand to fuck me. I wanted to help her. I’m not sure why she stopped training me. I hope she will want to try again. I can’t explain why I do. I don’t think it is because it makes me feel submissive. I have lots of other cues for that. It may be that I like the idea of Mrs. Lion having sex with me in a way that doesn’t get me off. Maybe it is a sort of substitute for the orgasms she no longer wants me to give her. I just don’t know.

It could be curiosity. I wonder if I can actually learn to enjoy anal penetration. Can I actually seek out pegging? I don’t know. This isn’t a major obsession. I only occasionally consider it. Generally, it comes up when I read yet another post or article a woman writes on this subject.

lion anal discomfort

As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday, I got Autoblown. This is our latest male sex toy acquisition. It felt a little strange having my favorite sex toy (Mrs. Lion) sitting next to me while this new electric appliance pumped away. We plan to use it a few more times. Like most sex toys, it takes some time and testing before it can do its best work.

Aside from my native curiosity and the fact that I plan to write a comparison of male sex toys, the original motivation for getting it came from the realization that it was taking me a very long time to reach the edge. I reasoned that if Mrs. Lion had the help of a mechanical device it would spare her hands and mouth a lot of extra work. Once the mechanical sex machine got me reasonably close, I figured she could take over. Of course, the first problem is finding a sex machine that can get me reasonably close. I’m not an easy customer.

Autoblow ai. It felt good, but not great.

While I can’t claim that this first Autoblow experience was even close to orgasmic, it kept me hard the entire time we were using it and I had a semi-erection for quite some time after it came off. That’s pretty good considering that I was distracted by the need to wash off the lube.

I’m very sure that I’m over the hump so to speak since during my recent slump I almost never got an erection for nearly 3 weeks. Things are definitely perking up. Unfortunately, my wild days are numbered. The Evotion chastity device will probably get to me within the next couple of weeks. The folks at Evotion have the device ready but need locks for it. I’m very impressed that they use the German-made locks instead of the much cheaper, fairly low quality, Chinese versions. European products are much more secure. It’s fairly easy to pick a Chinese chastity lock. I saw a guy do it in a YouTube video using a foil condom wrapper. That is definitely not the case with the German product.

I’m probably within a week or two of needing waxing again. Mrs. Lion said that she really hates waxing my legs and she may send me to a professional to do that part of my anatomy. Mrs. Lion has become a very proficient waxer. At the same time, the hair grows back sparser and thinner. That also helps speed things up for her. My legs are several treatments behind the rest of me. That hair still grows back fairly thick and heavy. It won’t last under steady waxing.

mrs lion removed all of lion's body hair
Mrs. Lion is okay giving me a Lion-kini and chest waxing, but hates doing my legs.

We will probably resume anal training very soon. As with spanking, each time Mrs. Lion penetrates me she is more confident and less concerned about my verbal feedback. Before anyone gets upset that she doesn’t listen to me, she does but my verbal reactions to what she is doing turn out to be less reliable than what she can feel directly. There’s a certain amount of discomfort involved in anal training. As in all things, Mrs. Lion is the best judge of how much she should push me each time.

This is all within limits that I can handle. If I am really in trouble I can safeword and she will stop at once. There are times, maybe too many when I would rather she stop before she really should. It’s that time after I want her to stop and before it’s really too much for me that represents my best opportunity for growth.

The same is true of spanking. We both share the goal that a spanking should be felt for at least a day after it was administered. A few years ago, Mrs. Lion tried starting out with very hard swats. She couldn’t get past seven or eight before I rolled away. Two things were going on: The first was that I was unable to develop a tolerance for the sensation. The second was that I didn’t have enough experience to understand fully what I was feeling.

Over time, she learned that she needed to build up the force more gradually. When she did that, I was better able to manage the sensation. It did mean that at the beginning of spanking, it didn’t hurt very much. It turned out that was a great benefit. During that relatively painless time, I was able to adjust mentally and physically. When she stepped up the speed and intensity, the pain grew but not so much that I couldn’t hold still. Over time, she was able to do more and more as I learned to manage the sensations. Now, she has no trouble making me feel a spanking for a day or two after she’s finished. I also can tolerate it, but hate every minute. Job well done.

Anal training isn’t too different. The objective isn’t necessarily to cause me pain. It’s to teach me to relax enough to accept whatever she wishes to insert, even her entire hand. Just as with being trained to take a spanking, I have to learn to convert the unpleasant sensations into relaxing my sphincter muscles to allow her to complete penetration. Eventually, she will be able to do that.

I knew someone years ago who fisted all of the men she dated. She told me that with patience she could generally get the job done in the first session in less than an hour. I told her that I was pretty sure it would take more than that for me. We never got to try.

One of the things I like best about our power exchange is that I have to grow to meet Mrs. Lion’s requirements. I know that she doesn’t really want to hurt me, but she understands my need to accept her in every way possible. We both learned that spanking has moved from being a BDSM activity I’ve always enjoyed to becoming an excellent way to train me. Now that she has learned that things can only get better when she does this, she is far more willing to advance my education.