Ever since she mowed a patch of the lawn for our dog–she doesn’t like high grass tickling her bottom when she pees–Mrs. Lion’s back has been bothering her. [Mrs. Lion — It was hurting before I mowed the lawn.] She made sure to tell me that it wouldn’t interfere if I wanted to play. It bothers me to cause her discomfort to give me pleasure. Since it’s only been four days since my last ejaculation, it’s a small sacrifice to forego sex.

For the record, the lion weather report has been tropical all day. All sorts of kinky and vanilla sexual thoughts have been going through my head and down there. The last time Mrs. Lion made me ejaculate, she added a butt plug for excitement. I admit it; anal stimulation definitely gets things going. Pegging is uncomfortable, and so far, I lose my erection when Mrs. Lion adds anal motion. I’m not sure this is a permanent condition. When I was getting fairly regular anal training, it was getting comfortable, even a little exciting.

I learned that the key to anal training is to move objects with changing shape in and out. A butt plug is a very good motion training tool. It’s fairly easy for me to learn to take a dildo or plug if held still. Motion bothers me. The training I get with a plug is that my anus is constantly forced to open and close as the object moves in and out. The objective is to train it to relax and remain open for easy access. Once I learn that pegging should feel good.

If you wonder if being trained to relax anally will cause leakage or other problems, it won’t. A few minutes after the anal visitation ends, the anus returns to its naturally tightly closed state. The next time something comes knocking, it will relax without a fuss. Then Mrs. Lion can peg me or even fist me. It’s uncomfortable in the beginning. That makes anal training a good way to make me feel my bottom role (forgive the pun).

Thursday night turned out very well. Mrs. Lion decided to begin anal training. She used the bumpy glass dildo. I was able to handle the first four bubbles (bumps) easily. She took her time and moved it in and out. I didn’t feel any sudden changes, even though the bubbles caused my anus to expand and contract. My lioness was surprised at how well I managed to accept her insertions. I’m sure that the next session will include the fifth bubble, and the motion will be stronger.

In our first session Mrs. Lion moved the first four bumps in and out.

I’m happy that I was able to handle this dildo. We’ve learned that a key area of anal training is learning to accept changing size. I thought that gradual stretching was the key. At one point, Mrs. Lion was able to insert a two-inch-thick dildo. I was able to hold it, but moving it was another story. That’s when I researched and discovered that the best way to train for pegging is to work with something that changes diameter. A butt plug is a good choice. The bubble dildo works well too. It forces me to open and then start to close, only to be opened again.

I accepted the two-inch dildo but couldn’t managed being pegged with it.

The reason this training is effective isn’t obvious but makes sense once you think about it. The key is learning to relax the anus. Inserting the large diameter dildo appears to do this. Certainly, I learned to accept it. Motion didn’t work because I wasn’t really relaxed. Training with moving a butt plug in and out (or the bubble dildo) teaches me to relax. It’s very uncomfortable to accept something that is getting larger if the anus is resisting. If it relaxes, the object goes in (and out) without discomfort.

Over time this training will allow voluntary control of the anal muscles.  When presented with an object pressing in, it learns to relax and accept it. There is the mistaken idea that anal training stretches the anus. It doesn’t. It simply trains it to relax. The key to successful pegging or even fisting is to learn to stay relaxed once the activity begins. That’s the hard part.

I did a little research to get an idea of how this works. This link is to a video that shows what I mean. A woman is fisting the man. Note the extreme amount of lube. That’s key. You can’t use too much lube in anal play. His anus remains relaxed and open. Before the shooting began, he was gradually opened. Even though his rear is stretched so wide, it will return to a tight bud a few minutes after the play is over. He has learned to relax. It doesn’t mean he has lost control. It’s just an acquired skill.

Mrs. Lion has attempted to fist me. At one point, she got four fingers in. Now that we know the trick to training me, I’m sure it won’t be long before she can get her entire hand in.

We finally got our electricity back. Internet is still out. Mrs. Lion and I are using our cell hotspots to access the Net. The most difficult thing about not having our regular Internet is that our smart house loses any vestige of intelligence. We control our lights using our Amazon Echos. Even the thermostat needs Internet connectivity. When things are working, all we do is ask Alexa to turn the lights on and off, turn on the TV, tune it to the channel we want, set the temperature, etc. It’s a regular Jetson life. We even have a robot vacuum named Rosie that we control with Alexa. No Internet, no Alexa, and things get complicated.

Both of us have been too tired for sex. I haven’t been particularly interested. Poor Mrs. Lion has a sore back from all the lifting and bending she had to do to set up and take down the power cords for our generator.

I am really looking forward to a shower and possible playtime. It doesn’t have to be anal. Mrs. Lion mentioned in her post yesterday that anal play requires her to stand behind me. I kneel on the side of the bed with my butt in the air facing the edge of the bed. I don’t see why I couldn’t move inland a bit. That way, Mrs. Lion could sit behind me. Or maybe I could lie flat, and she could sit next to me. Or, just put it off until she feels able to play in my backyard comfortably. I’m happy to wait.

It seems that female bloggers, not to mention women’s magazines have a fascination with the male anus. I haven’t done a statistical analysis but my impression is that women writers, both vanilla and kinky, like to talk about pegging. This term refers to using a dildo in a man’s ass for anal sex. Generally, this involves the woman wearing the dildo in a strap-on harness. However, this isn’t required.

Vanilla publications like “Cosmopolitan” refer to pegging as a form of sex play. They don’t ascribe any female dominance to this activity. Many men and some dominant women consider pegging a form of submission for the male. I don’t. After all, I never considered anal sex when my penis did the penetrating as a dominant act. It was just a nice sexual variation.

Of course, when I was doing the fucking, it would end in me having an orgasm. Some of my female partners also came when anally penetrated. If a woman pegs a man and wears a harness, if it is positioned correctly, the dildo will stimulate her clitoris as she fucks her male partner. This can result in a nice orgasm for her.

Most men don’t ejaculate as a result of anal penetration. Some will ejaculate if their partners reach around and masturbate them while they are being pegged. I have never been able to sustain an erection during anal penetration. I suppose I could learn to do it if Mrs. Lion decides to spend more backdoor time with me.

Pegging and other male anal play can be uncomfortable at first. I’ve found that once I “get used” to having something up my ass it can feel good. When we had regular anal play, I grew to enjoy Mrs. Lion visiting me back there. More recently, Mrs. Lion will insert a butt plug and leave it in for a couple of hours. That is a nice warm-up for more active play in the future.

I learned that the best way to “train” for pegging is having a butt plug moved in and out. The change in the shape of the butt plug forces the anus to expand and contract. “Fucking” with the plug helps train the anus to relax and accept the insertion. Getting that anal relaxation is more than half the battle in terms of learning to enjoy being pegged.

Like most everything else, consistency is important in anal education. It takes time to train the muscles to relax for sexual fun. Practice sessions with increasingly larger butt plugs two or three times a week will work wonders to make anal play feel good. When Mrs. Lion was consistently doing this with me, I began to look forward to our practice sessions. I was convinced I would enjoy being pegged.

Mrs. Lion had expressed an interest in pegging me. She didn’t plan to wear a strap-on. She was going to hold the dildo in her hand to fuck me. I wanted to help her. I’m not sure why she stopped training me. I hope she will want to try again. I can’t explain why I do. I don’t think it is because it makes me feel submissive. I have lots of other cues for that. It may be that I like the idea of Mrs. Lion having sex with me in a way that doesn’t get me off. Maybe it is a sort of substitute for the orgasms she no longer wants me to give her. I just don’t know.

It could be curiosity. I wonder if I can actually learn to enjoy anal penetration. Can I actually seek out pegging? I don’t know. This isn’t a major obsession. I only occasionally consider it. Generally, it comes up when I read yet another post or article a woman writes on this subject.