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In: Male Chastity

We are 42 posts away from the magic number of 6,000. I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’m pausing for some needed introspection. Along the way, I learn new things about more than myself. For example, Richard commented:

“Right now I have no keyholder but I wear a device, maybe 5 to 7 days during the week. I have become kinda addicted to wearing one. I switch between four or five that are comfortable as my weekly ‘decoration’.”

He articulated what has to be a major reason a lot of guys choose to wear a male chastity device. Maybe it’s the main reason. There are very few compulsive masturbators. Most men jerk off to relieve sexual tension. They have gainful employment and enjoy positive sexual relations with their partners. The male chastity device isn’t protecting them from themselves. It’s fun to wear. It feels good to know it’s locked around the penis. It looks cool in the mirror. It’s body decoration.

Before I started wearing a male chastity device (I’m cage-free right now), I had a frenum piercing. I liked how it looked and felt. It was my body decoration. During the years I had the piercing, I reviewed male chastity devices. One required the piercing to hold the device in place. It was hot to try them out, but I had no desire to wear any of them full time. Years later (at least ten), I had removed the piercing jewelry and decided to revisit male chastity devices. You know what happened then. We have almost 6,000 posts to explain.

I loved the idea that no matter how horny I got, I couldn’t get relief unless Mrs. Lion gave it to me. I had a very sexy power exchange. My analysis of male chastity started and stopped with that description. It was accurate but not complete. It certainly didn’t describe why many men wore devices even though they had no partners or their spouses weren’t interested.

The sexual game was big fun and the major motive we had for getting locked up. Even guys who had no partners liked to use the device to force themselves to wait for release. I think that focus on masturbation hid the other big reason for wearing the device; it was fun. I like how it feels to be locked in a male chastity device. I never masturbate, so there is no sexual bondage involved in wearing one. It’s just fun. Admitting that destroys the popular bondage fantasies about being locked in a male chastity device. As if any of us believed they were true. Let’s be honest. A male chastity device is male body jewelry. It can be a fun part of a power exchange or just a secret decoration it’s fun to wear.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

I don’t want to say this too loudly for fear of jinxing myself, but I think my dizziness is over. I was feeling less and less dizzy yesterday. Today, it seems to be gone. I’m still afraid to move too suddenly. What if it’s just waiting for me to move the wrong way? My head still feels a little fuzzy, but the world is no longer spinning. Let’s hope it stays that way.

Now the problem is that all the things I wanted to do in four days have to get done in one. Well, that’s not really true. There are only certain things that have to be done. I’m finally going to get the last load of laundry out of the dryer from Thursday. We have some gardening to do. And the garbage has to go out to the curb. I’m not going to try to clean the house too much. I think that would be a mistake. Baby steps.

When it comes time to play with Lion, I think I’ll set up the massage table. I don’t think hovering on the side of the bed, twisting to reach him, would be very good. I’m pretty sure it will take a bit to get his engines revving again, although he did say he was really horny on Friday. I’d like to give him an oral orgasm, but just using my mouth seems like a lot of stress on my neck right now. I don’t want to piss off the dizziness gods. According to the website, it’s been nine days since his last orgasm. That’s not such a long wait. I think he could wait a day or two more until I feel comfortable enough to give him a blow job.

I keep thinking if I give him an orgasm just to end the wait, then I can go back in a day or so and really start teasing him again. It hasn’t been working out that way. I won’t feel good, or he won’t feel good, or Mercury is in retrograde, or some other problem comes up. For now, I’ll say he isn’t getting an orgasm until I can give him an oral one. That’s it. That’s my final answer.

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In: Blogging

You may have noticed that there are no ads on our blog. It’s a personal project belonging to Mrs. Lion and me. Readership growth is an ego boost. It has no financial benefit for us. It’s irrational for me to care about the fate of this blog. But I do. So does my lioness. It has value to us. The funny thing is that it isn’t the value I expected when we started out.

I figured that the Journal would provide reminders of agreements we made and activities we tried. Mrs. Lion tends to forget things like that. I also thought that we could look back and see how we changed over time. In nine years that hasn’t happened. Mrs. Lion only reads my current post and corrects any typos she finds. She never comments on the content unless I probe her. She has never looked back to read old posts.

I was wrong. The blog is no help in that respect. We’ve managed to evolve without referencing our historical record. That doesn’t mean we haven’t found value. For one thing, the act of writing daily posts helps us organize our thoughts. We do communicate difficult-to-discuss topics via the blog. Even though she doesn’t discuss what I write with me, she reads and understands what I want and need. Sure, I would prefer a discussion, but one isn’t really needed.

I suppose that posts could become emotional weapons. I’ve read blogs that have degenerated into destructive rants. We are both very aware of how dangerous it would be if we allowed ourselves to go in that direction. We do get angry at one another. It’s rare, but it happens. I tend to talk about it when I’m upset. Mrs. Lion broods. She has become better at expressing herself since we began domestic discipline. We’ve made some progress. The goal we agreed on is for Mrs. Lion to use a paddle when she is upset by me. The times she has done this, I’ve improved, and hopefully, she felt heard.

Another unexpected value of writing this blog is the opportunity to hone my writing craft. My education after high school didn’t include a single writing or English course. Anything I know about writing is self-taught. I suppose that shows. Anyway, for better or worse, I have gotten a lot of writing practice. I think it helped.

My favorite benefit of the blog is that it allows me to talk about those secret sexual things I’ve always wanted to experience. It would be very difficult for me to start a conversation and ask for them. It’s much easier to write here. Speaking of which, I went back and looked at recent posts from Mrs. Lion. I see that I’m owed a racing stripe or two when she feels better. Ouch!

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In: Health and safety

This is not the way I wanted to spend four days off. I imagined getting the house cleaned more. I imagined giving Lion more attention. Yes, I even imagined the miracle of our football team winning on Thursday. I did not imagine trying to stay still so I wouldn’t be dizzy. I’m only dizzy when I move. So don’t move. Unfortunately, it’s not only when I move. Sometimes, I’m watching TV and the world spins. Why? I wish I knew. I did my exercise to get rid of it. It takes more than a few times to work. That’s fine. I’m not going anywhere. Literally.

The worst part about all this is that Lion worries. I tell him he shouldn’t. He doesn’t listen. I worry about him when he isn’t feeling well. He doesn’t tell me not to. I tend to wait things out before I get a doctor involved. He’s more proactive. I know what to do for the dizziness this time. Last time I was worried. I just have to wait for it to work. I hope it works by Monday, although as long as I keep my head straight, I don’t get dizzy as often.

Of course, I hope it gets better so I can play with Lion. Obviously, he knows I’m not doing this on purpose. I’m not deliberately ignoring him. I assume he’s still getting horny. His timeline isn’t changing. Eventually, without stimulation, he will get less and less horny. It will take more effort to get him aroused. I’m not complaining. That’s just how it goes. I’m glad I have the ability to arouse him. I’ll do it as long as it takes.