I knew that it was a mistake. Mrs. Lion told me to assume the position. She started inserting a butt plug. It hurt a little. I asked her to stop. When I thought about it, I realized it wasn’t so much that I didn’t want her doing anal play as it was the “surprise.” This was the exact scenario that made me ask her to stop in the past.
It wasn’t that anything special had to happen. I just needed to prepare mentally and, a little bit, physically. The prep doesn’t take long. The other night, she had me lie on the massage table, face down. The act of going into my office got me thinking that something sexual was coming. Having to lie on my stomach sent the message that my butt would be involved. Mrs. Lion started with a single lubed finger. It took me a little while to feel comfortable that way. She added more fingers, one at a time. By the time the third was added and her hand was moving, I was open and comfortable.
On Wednesday night, there was no warmup at all. I was unprepared. Even if I’m mentally ready, my anus needs a slow start. Once it’s used to being visited, I’m able to handle whatever Mrs. Lion wants to shove up my ass. What happened with my rear end on Wednesday wasn’t a rejection. It was just a kind of unpleasant shock.
In her post, “Red Light. No, Maybe Yellow. No, No. Red,” she wrote about pinching my nipples. I’m usually fine with that, even though I don’t like it. I guess I was off my game because of the earlier anal stuff. It’s true that I like it if Mrs. lion just does things to me without consultation. The massage table, anal-penetration is a perfect example of this. There’s a big difference between getting my agreement and preparing me for the inevitable.
We’ve had a hard time with this aspect. I am absolutely delighted with Mrs. Lion taking charge and having her way with me. I love it! I’m still having very happy memories of the massage table fun. My only problem is when I’m not prepared for what’s coming. Being prepared isn’t the same as giving my agreement. It’s necessary steps that are part of the ultimate act.
For example, Mrs. Lion wouldn’t think of inserting a butt plug without lubing me first. Lube is required for safety. Gentle insertion of a finger or something smaller than a plug is required to signal my anus it should relax. That’s how I’m wired. Over time, I need a lot less signaling. I’m out of practice now. Nipple pinching requires some prep, too, not very much, but some. I need to be ready. Normally, Mrs. Lion starts off with gentle pinches. I find myself wanting more. She always gives me more, a lot more. It may hurt, but I like it.
Pain play and insertion play require their own special foreplay. Sometimes it’s easy to forget.
[Mrs. Lion — Fair enough. I do know that I need to get Mr. Weenie involved before I start doing things with the boys. It makes sense that other play would require a warning shot.]
