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Over 60 years ago, Walt Disney created four keys that every Disney park cast member had to know and follow. The idea was to encapsulate the spirit of what he thought an experience in his park should be. This concept works very well. It’s easy to remember and provides an excellent basis for conduct. I think that a slightly modified version of these keys makes sense for domestic discipline. Here they are.

1 safety

This is the most important key. Safety must be in both partners’ minds. The first rule is a safeword. Regardless of how you think about punishment versus play, a safeword is required. It gives the disciplined partner the ability to stop a spanking or other punishment instantly when in distress. The instant a safeword is used, the activity stops, and the issue is handled.

The second and equally important safety aspect is knowing how to use your tools. A wood or leather paddle can do serious damage if applied in the wrong places. Learn the correct spanking techniques. If you do mouth soaping, understand that soap can cause burns in the mouth if left in too long. Read about the activities you want to do and learn how to do them safely. This doesn’t mean you can’t give a severe spanking that draws some blood. Just understand what you are doing.

2 courtesy

It’s important that theme park employees are always courteous to guests. It’s not so obvious how important courtesy is in a power exchange. Most people who imagine themselves in a submissive role consider courtesy a sign of respect. It is. No matter how strict or severe the situation, courtesy comes before discipline. Mrs. Lion is always courteous when she tells me to ride the spanking bench. Because she smiles and says “please” doesn’t mean I can say no. My answer is always “Yes, Ma’am.” This applies to day-to-day communication. The actual session might be very different.

3 show

In a theme park, every cast member considers themselves on stage when in a public area. They wear costumes and stay in character at all times. They want guests to feel immersed in their fantasy experiences. The same is true of domestic discipline. Even though it is a serious power exchange, there are still expectations of how discipline is administered.

Show isn’t acting out a fantasy. It’s maintaining the symbols of power and discipline. These symbols can range from elaborate costumes and dialogue to a simple statement that punishment is coming. The Disciplinary Wives Club talked about “lecture” This was a stern speech about the offense and how it caused the disciplinary wife displeasure. The idea was to install shame to accompany the spanking. This is a very good example of show. It didn’t matter if the disciplinary wife was angry or not. The show included a stern lecture.

Exactly how you want to handle this aspect of discipline is something both partners discuss and understand. The idea is to amplify the benefit of the punishment. I know that when Mrs. Lion doesn’t give me a reminder of why I am being spanked, my mind can wander. I don’t associate my sore bottom with my offense. Don’t underestimate show.

4 Efficiency

It’s obvious why theme park cast members need to be efficient. It helps keep costs down. There is a similar reason for it in domestic discipline. I’ve seen too many people drop DD because it consumed their lives. It’s natural for a disciplined partner to want to focus on behavioral issues and punishment. There’s a sexual kick to doing it. The disciplinary wife is almost always less interested in being consumed by discipline.

This key is a reminder to set limits on how much focus is to be placed on DD. People who make domestic discipline a part of their lives don’t spend much time talking about it. If I break a rule, Mrs. Lion lets me know. When she is ready, she will take out the spanking bench and invite me to ride it. We don’t discuss spanking. I usually have no idea what she used to beat me. She likes me to tell her if my bottom hurts the next days, but that’s it. The disciplinary activities are confined to catching me and spanking me. The rest of the time we are a typical couple.

Efficiency dictates that the rules are kept simple. There can’t be any debate about whether or not one is broken. When in doubt, administer a spanking. Whenever Mrs. Lion starts worrying about a “grey” area in terms of my earning punishment, things tend to go off the rails. I suggested that she always err on the side of punishing me. The concept of fairness can sap efficiency out of our relationship. The simple truth is that I never resent being spanked. I am not allowed to argue about whether or not I deserve a spanking. As Mrs. Lion puts it, “You probably did something else I forgot to punish you for.”

The keys are useful

The four keys provide a foundation for a safe and satisfying domestic discipline marriage. They work for us for the same reason they work for theme parks. They provide a sensible, prioritized framework for how to go about our disciplinary relationship. They work.

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In: Body Waxing, Spanking

Although it was cooler yesterday, it was still warm in the pantry. Standing and bending with no air conditioning or fan in the room was difficult. I managed to get most of his front done. He looks very strange with partially naked legs. He was very furry. The wax is melting and I’ll finish up today. I’ve already set up a fan.

Between the heat and waxing, I’ve already fallen off of my promised play time with Lion. The first night I didn’t set up the massage table was on purpose. I wanted to give him a blow job. The night after was a “normal” down time after an orgasm. Of course, one of those nights was the freezer issue. In the overall scheme of things, I haven’t really neglected him, but I haven’t exactly been following my promise. I probably won’t do anything tonight either because of the waxing. However, tomorrow is open for fun.

It’s been a very long time since I’ve given Lion a punishment spanking. It’s been a long time since he’s earned one. (48 days) I’ve been very frustrated about a lot of things lately, but he isn’t one of them. I should probably give him a maintenance spanking if nothing else just so he doesn’t forget what it feels like to be spanked. Of course, I need to remember what it feels like to spank him too. I’m sure his buns are almost virginal again. Oh, the rude awaking when that first paddle hits.

With the heat gone, we can go back to our normal activities. Lion is still a furnace, though. I tried to get near him the other day, and he just gives off too much heat. Maybe that’s why he feels cold all the time. He sheds his heat. Snuggling doesn’t work very well when he’s huddled under the blankets, and I’m on top. I’m sure I can talk him into coming out for some fun.

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In: Body Hair Removal

As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday (“Cool Enough to Wax“), our heatwave is over. With any luck the rest of the summer will be normal (high 80s, low 50s). I’m writing this post on Tuesday afternoon. Mrs. Lion plans to wax me later today. She’s noticed fur has grown back.

I originally thought of losing body hair as a sort of submissive gesture. That was because my first experience was with a woman who topped me and disliked body hair. She shaved my pubes and butt. I liked the way it looked. Over time, the idea of hairlessness as a sign of submission died out. It’s a cosmetic choice. It’s also practical if you practice male chastity. Hair gets in the way.

Any time I post about pubic hair removal, I get a lot of responses, mostly from men who remove that hair and want to talk about it. That seems odd. I guess these men believe that body hair removal is more than aesthetic. Every woman I’ve talked to about male body hair, whether they like it, hate it, or don’t care, doesn’t attribute any deeper meaning to removing it.

Even my first partner, who hated it, didn’t see my baldness as a symbol of anything. It just looked and felt better to her. Some women are turned on by hairy men. I’ve known a few. They don’t interpret the fur as a symbol of dominance. They’re just turned on by body hair.

Only guys who remove the hair down there attribute any deeper meaning to it. Some of them will invariably add comments to posts like this. They want to tell us how staying hairless makes them submissive. Guys, it doesn’t. Before Mrs. Lion, I was a top. I was well known as one. Guess what? I didn’t have a single pubic hair. Not one submissive woman saw that as a problem or a hint that I wasn’t a strong, dominant man.

My point is that a lot of things that some guys see as symbols of submission only exist in their minds. Women don’t see shaved balls as a symbol. They see balls without hair. Very few women think men in panties are sexy or submissive. Most privately think it is silly. Sometimes Mrs. Lion makes me wear them because she knows I don’t like them and they embarrass me. I feel silly when I have to wear panties, not submissive.

Mrs. Lion, like most women, doesn’t particularly care how much body hair I have. I think I look better (and sexier) without hair. She’s happy to go along. Neither of us thinks it makes me submissive. She never shaved her pubic hair. She doesn’t have much, and yes, it tickles my nose when she lets me lick her. So what? She feels the same way about sucking me.

My point is that personal grooming is an aesthetic choice, not a social/sexual one.

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In: Body Waxing

We may be lucky to hit 80 degrees today. I’m not complaining. I’ve had enough heat for one summer. The freezer is even enjoying the cooler weather. I think it just couldn’t handle the sustained heat. If there are any more heat waves, and we still have all of August to go, we’ll have to make sure we figure out how to keep the freezer cooler.

As soon as I’m done with this post, I’ll turn on the wax and start clearing off the waxing table. There really isn’t much on it this time around. The bigger problem is the large extension cord for the camper. It remains where I dropped it after we sold the camper. We went through COVID, rebound COVID and the heat wave, and I haven’t had the energy to move the heavy sucker to the basement. I’ll probably move it closer to the door today, so it’s a shorter trip when I have time to get rid of it.

Last night, I started wondering if we have enough wax to completely de-fur Lion. Obviously, when I turn the wax on, I’ll check it out. If we don’t, I’ll have to defer the de-furring of his legs until we get more. I’ll still give him his regular waxing. It’s just the extra wax required for those long, furry legs that has me thinking. I was just wondering if it’s easier to wax longer hair or shorter hair. Should I trim his leg fur first? Or does wax do better grabbing onto long hair? The other thing I was wondering is whether Lion’s legs would be as sensitive as other areas to Nair or some other hair removal cream. I’m just spit balling here. I don’t have a problem waxing his legs. I’m just worried about the amount of wax we have at this point in time.

Enough speculation. I’m off to start the wax. Bye bye Lion fur.