I think Lion missed the point of my post yesterday. Actually, two points. The first one is that I don’t keep track of things that I don’t get to do anymore. He tells me it’s been X number of days since he’s had any sort of BDSM. Yeah. And? How many episodes am I behind with “Grey’s Anatomy”? He doesn’t like to watch it and it seems stupid to make him sit through it, so I don’t watch it. The second, and more important, point was that Lion can speak up and tell me what he’d like. If I do too much CBT, why can’t he say he’d really like some anal play tonight rather than hoping I’ll stumble across the idea? Yes, he says the restraints haven’t been used. Can’t he say he’d like to be tied up tonight?
Since he was lamenting the loss of BDSM and I said we’ll still do it (I never stopped doing it), I figured he’d be waiting for me to pull out the whips and chains because he brought it up. He always tells me I don’t do things unless he brings it up. I also wanted to see if he’d actually tell me specifically what he wanted. He didn’t. That’s when I figured he must have missed that point. I just decided to swat his balls. I haven’t done it in a long time. Yes, it’s CBT. Yes, I tend to lean toward it.
I didn’t just start out smacking his balls. I checked for the sore spot on his penis to make sure I knew where it was. I wasn’t where I thought it was. Good thing I checked. And I fondled his balls and weenie before I started swatting. I know he doesn’t like it. I also know he wouldn’t have told me to do it initially if he didn’t like it to some extent. I didn’t come up with the idea on my own. Hitting a guy in the nuts is a good way to induce vomiting. Every girl knows that. And that’s why it’s the go-to move when trying to get away from an attacker. Knee to the nuts equals one doubled over guy and an escape route. I never would have thought about hitting his balls without his encouragement.
He did make some purring noises when I hit the sweet spot rubbing his weenie. I don’t know if I was supposed to insist he pause the TV, but the TV didn’t pause. He’ll argue that the remote was near me. I’ll argue that Alexa can pause the TV if he tells her to. I’m just looking for a little give and take. If I start the ball rolling, it would be nice for him to give it a shove to keep it rolling.
We seem lost lately. It’s partially a communication issue. I’m not sure I understand what the other part is.