Mrs. Lion is still feeling a bit out of sorts. She’s had one of those lingering headaches that sometimes bother her. She wasn’t up to spanking me on Monday night. It won’t be long before she’s ready to swat me again. I have a question that is very difficult to answer. How strong are the spankings that disciplinary wives deliver?
I’ve only been able to locate one online source that addresses this subject for disciplinary spankings. There is a lot of BDSM spanking advice, but that isn’t relevant. That one source is the defunct Disciplinary Wives Club site. It’s been quite a few years since this site was active. It was established to encourage women wishing to discipline their husbands. There is a healthy dose of sexual arousal in the material, but it does offer concrete ideas that we have tried and found effective.
The DWC suggests that a spanking be timed using a kitchen timer or other device. The minimum duration is ten minutes, with five minutes added for each additional offense. Mrs. Lion follows this guideline, and I can attest it makes a big difference from the shorter duration she used in the past. We’ve learned that a spanking’s effectiveness is largely a function of its duration. The ten-minute minimum works well for us. That part is easy to understand and follow.
The DWC gives a golden rule that we have learned is necessary for our disciplinary marriage to work properly:
“The well-disciplined husband is a direct result of constant vigilance on the part of the wife. Vigilance means being aware of almost everything he is doing and keeping your rules consistent and predictably enforced. The training methods suggested do involve strict discipline, and strong doses of corporal punishment. …There is no question that welts will be raised and bottoms bruised, but chastisement should never leave permanent marks. A dose of corporal punishment should have a dual effect. It should be extremely painful while it is being applied, and the area it was applied to should remain very tender for a period of time afterward.”
Even with our very short list of enforceable rules, we’ve learned how true this is. Any exceptions cause us to lose focus. Mrs. Lion has generally followed these suggestions, though lately, I haven’t felt the effects of my spanking after it is done. I expect that means Mrs. Lion may need to change some of the paddles she uses and the force of her swats.
There is a section of the DWC devoted to “letters.” Many are male fantasies. A few offer helpful suggestions. The ten-minute timer was in one of them. You have to slog through a lot of fantasy to get to the meat. What’s missing are real-life disciplinary couples relating their spanking experiences and techniques. We are the only couple trying to provide this information, as far as I know.
Aunt Kay, the principal author of the DWC site, insists that spankings be administered over the knee. We haven’t been able to do that. Our bodies just don’t fit together that way. Also, the paddles that can be used over the knee have to be shorter. Many of Mrs. Lion’s paddles are better suited to her standing next to me. It would be helpful to learn how others handle spanking positions. The ideal teaching/comparison tool would be videos of real partners administering punishment. The idea is education, not porn.
I know that there are other couples who use corporal punishment. Julie of strictjuliespanks.blogspot.com has some excellent descriptions of her experiences. I know that discussions of punishment techniques can easily devolve into porn. Surely, there are some mature people practicing domestic discipline who can share their real-life punishment techniques and scenarios. I hope this didn’t leave us when Aunt Kay passed.